Romance in college!
By kalav56
@kalav56 (11464)
India
February 13, 2013 1:56am CST
‘Valentine’s day’ is predominantly a Christian feast and has been associated with love and romance even before the fifteenth century .While this has been very popular abroad, in India my knowledge about this was purely from reading and I had never personally witnessed any celebration in my Catholic educational institutions. too in my days. But for the past few years, it has become very popular in our country and many youngsters are seen with bouquets and gifts. Vendors do benefit out of this and here also the growth of the economy is seen. But, in our country youngsters are still dependent on their parents for their education and parents sweat it out to give proper education to their children. This goes on till their graduation or post-graduation. Youngsters stay with parents and pocket money for their small needs is also provided by parents. Not many students take part time jobs while studying.
Our country is a developing one and though money flow has increased over the past few years it is a rat race and the world out there is very competitive
I know I will get beaten by youngsters here in this forum. Please wait! I am not against romance.
But does not falling in love and thinking about romance spoil studies? Would it not be an unnecessary distraction for students? How many of them are able to handle love, trauma associated with breaking up and obstacles from households when they are in their Universities? Is it worth it?
Not all people are well-off. Is it the duty of youngsters/students to see that business thrives? I am all for romance but somehow, I feel it is unwise for upcoming youngsters to focus on romance when they are studying and are not above twenty one...They tend to lose focus and few people can manage romance and studies together.
This is purely from an Indian context because the situation in our country is unique.
What are your views about this?
1 person likes this
9 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
14 Feb 13
Dear Kalav
Well, I think the change has been brought in by the media and many other things. Today, almost every other channel out there is busy showing love stories, love songs, romantic movies and what not. And also, whether anyone likes that or not, people have become more aware of their rights, more aware of the fact that they do get support from many others
And for the romance during college and studies... well, there have been some, i know, who have performed much better in studies once they met and fell in love.
Well, I think the change has been brought in by the media and many other things. Today, almost every other channel out there is busy showing love stories, love songs, romantic movies and what not. And also, whether anyone likes that or not, people have become more aware of their rights, more aware of the fact that they do get support from many others
And for the romance during college and studies... well, there have been some, i know, who have performed much better in studies once they met and fell in love. 2 people like this
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
14 Feb 13
Thank you, my Bro....much more succinctly put, than my feeble attempt...
...and re; the media, I find it refreshing that for a couple of days, we are seeing/hearing LOVE stories......NOT the normal headlines of the horrendous wars that gleen No.1 spot in the media!
@my dear Kalav; LOVE in itself, can be a real learning curve, let me name the ways...sharing, tolerance, acceptance, and the list goes on...
Happy (today in Canada) Valentine's Day..
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Feb 13
If having a bf or gf is going to take away from your school work then perhaps you should be involved in that way. It is just common sense. Parents are responsible for their kids until they are 21. They need to communicate with them. Some kids are over sexed and need to be checked. Others can handle it and act appropriately.
2 people like this
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
4 Apr 13
True; once the kids are out of the zoom of parents it becomes a cause for concern if children go astray on account of such distractions; however, after going through the various responses here I have realised that there are other dimensions to this.
1 person likes this
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Apr 13
There are many demensions that is for sure. Good luck to you.
1 person likes this
@shibham (16977)
• India
13 Feb 13
HI kaladi...
I do wonder too. We have passed so many years without celebrating valentine day and now think myself, have we missed something on our young years? calculate ourselves and find out "no, we are enough happy now". Then? This year i have heard about chocolate day, kiss day, rose day in these january and february. What are these, i have not ever heard? oopppss.. may be i am outdated.
have a nice time.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
13 Feb 13
Valentine's Day is a part of Western culture which has made its appearance in India only now. So is putting up the Christmas Tree and so is dating and so is candle light dinners and so are other countless things!
But falling in love at a young age is universal.And throughout the year these young couples must be exchanging gifts. My grand mother got married at the age of 14. When I was in school because of my strict upbringing I dared not look at a boy but my classmates had their fun. If you read the Kama Sutra there you will see it is in India that the most unique form of love making has been recorded.
But falling in love at a young age is universal.And throughout the year these young couples must be exchanging gifts. My grand mother got married at the age of 14. When I was in school because of my strict upbringing I dared not look at a boy but my classmates had their fun. If you read the Kama Sutra there you will see it is in India that the most unique form of love making has been recorded. 1 person likes this
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
13 Feb 13
Falling in love is universal but it was not this common in our days.I do not decry it but I feel that this love should come in slightly late when youngsters have settled down reasonably well.[I guess the old hag in me is talking here.]Of course ours was a 'conditioned upbringing'.
1 person likes this
@allknowing (130066)
• India
13 Feb 13
Is that the only thing that has changed kala. I can write a book on the things we need to accept, the worst is the indifference and 'living for the moment' attitude regardless of what it does to those around them. The gap between what was and what it is now is too huge to fill and no matter how much we try to move with the times we go through what you are going through now.
1 person likes this
@kourdapya (924)
• Philippines
14 Feb 13
Well, if celebrating Valentine's day is costly in your country, I don't think also that that's fair for the parents. But if it's okay with the parents, that's fine as well. There's nothing wrong with it as long as these young people know their limits. They can celebrate Valentine without having to spend much, and the parents would appreciate it if their children give them something on valentine's day, right?
1 person likes this
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
14 Feb 13
I concur, LOVE does not have to/should not have to cost money! LOVE is free, and FREE to give, this is just the Day to give/show it in a special way/gesture! Happy Valentine's Day!
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
I would say it was not bad after all to have romance in school. Though most teenagers who focus most on that really ended up early marriage before they finish their studies. However, I guess for mature lovers, they know they must focus on their studies too but still keep the relationship. Now, I focus so much on studies and work that I did not find time to try relationships. It's good because it will make a person more mature, we need to learn to handle boy-girl relationships early and get to know our partners by being friends with them. I guess it's healthy to experience relationship.
2 people like this
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
13 Feb 13
Dear Kalav; I am not so sure my response will not seem trite, BUT some of your answers to me, are in your first line..Christian feast since the 15th Century..is your answer unless you believe NO Christian attains education of a higher degree! Therefore, the celebration of one small day, changes the course of the path of one's life, and because of one small day one's fortune is dispensed, or one's day to day living stipend is eroded?Hearts and flowers have evolved as the symbol of this day...but can be as simple as a field gathered bouquet and a painted (crayola'd)heart on a white piece of paper.
And, sadly enough, hormones are raging at a much earlier age..Worldwide! Thus we cannot control, unless we change our food consumption. Scientists globally are reseaching this early stage of puberty, and so far, it is somewhat related to the "growth hormones" and GM'd foods we consume!
Romance can be the impetous for greater studying, to me, as the student strives to reach higher goals to offer a better future for their "heart throb!"
Good discussion, dear Kalav!@kalav56 (11464)
• India
13 Feb 13
Actually I have linked two stray thoughts together , namely the Valentine's day celebration and 'romance in college' and I think it has been a bit misleading.
Personally , I have witnessed a few youngsters getting bogged down by romance and missing certain opportunities.This made me post the second pArt too together. Christian feast was only mentioned to say that in our country now, all people celebrate it irrespective of religion.On the other hand other festivals are not like that.Here the spirit of romance and love are symbolised by this Valentine's day ; that is all.This has nothing to do with whether they attained higher education or not Pergammano!In fact it would be wrong to say so too because education is not dependent on religion.
But, whether this 'college romance' proves to be an impetus for people to perform better is something I am not too certain about.It is well and good if it is that way. But sometimes love makes people get distracted and many cannot afford it in our country.
1 person likes this
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
13 Feb 13
Dear kalav...I think if we studied history..many a romance has de-throned leaders and kings! And realistically, no matter the country, depending on the individual, romance can change the course of lives, either positively or negatively! It's such an individual thing!
I do understand it is a new thing to your country...a Western celebration. But it also has good connotations..that of spreading love, and it is NOT just limited to a romantic partner, it can be a time to honor one's parentage, grand-parentage, or even a friend. I feel with so many BAD malais' spreading today..I like to embrace a good one!
So with that said, (I hope I am not risking my friendship with you)...tomorrow, Feb. 14th is Valentine's Day here...so I wish for you, a Happy Valentine's Day!1 person likes this
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
13 Feb 13
We in India also have this tradition. It was called "Vasantotsavam" or as it is known now as Holi. This festival is dedicated to Madana or the mythological cupid. The way it is celebrated is different from what happens on a valentine's day, but the spirit is the same.
For the young, traditions do become a distraction, but we as not so young people have passed through this phase and have had education, career and a stable life. Hope the young ones also do well in life.
1 person likes this
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
14 Feb 13
We cannot our heart from falling inlove no matter how old we are, but young or old, we have to evaluate ourselves and learn to handle our emotions. For young students who are still dependent from their family, yes they can fall inlove but can't get pregnant! they have to stay away from that to continue their studies.
