Do you think it is a waste for a woman to give up her career?

@youless (112091)
Guangzhou, China
February 28, 2013 12:56am CST
Today although more women have high education and they also have their careers. However, after getting married and especially having the children, some of them will give up their careers and become to be a full time housewife to take care of their families. Do you think it is a waste?
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• United States
28 Feb 13
It is only a waste if she is giving up Because of Society pressure or family pressure. These days many American women work on their careers, live that life and Then get married and have children. It is their choice , no one elses. This isn't a waste. She is doing exactly what she wants to do.
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• United States
1 Mar 13
Yes. And many households over here women work And raise a family.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
Working can give women earning and they can depend on themselves if one day something goes wrong.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
28 Feb 13
Today although more women have high education and they also have their careers. However, after getting married and especially having the children, some of them will give up their careers and become to be a full time housewife to take care of their families. Do you think it is a waste? Waste? No-one in this world is considered as waste. I think a housewife can give 100% to her kids and family if you compare them with the working mothers. Even if she gives up her career, she can do a lot of things in her free time for some income. I used to work before my marriage and even today I work and have two kids. I sometimes feel I should have been a homemaker to have given my kids/husband all my 24x7 time. Of course I do spent quality time but there are times which made me think – if I’m at home…
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
I must say that today the housewives are very qualified since they have a good education
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
28 Feb 13
oopppps... sorry, i didn't know how the topic got copied.... seems i copied it by mistake...
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@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
28 Feb 13
Personally i dont thinl it is waste to choose your family for the expense pf career. Some people chooses family other than mpney because it goves them fullfilment in life.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
Especially women pay more attention to the families.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
1 Mar 13
True because it is their moral obligation to take care of the family.but in other cases when both parents must work.a hired helper do what the mother should do for the family.
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@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
28 Feb 13
I don't think it's a waste of time if that is what she wants. Our wants change over time and if that is the choice she wants to make then it isn't a waste for her. I don't think that once you marry and have children that it automatically means you have to give up everything you worked so hard for. I know I was torn between career and family but it did work out in the long run.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
Many people think it is not a waste.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
28 Feb 13
I think it depends on the woman and her life situation. If she enjoys staying at home and has a great deal of support from her husband then it's not a waste. But if she wants to work and doesn't have the support she needs from her husband as she stays home then she can really have a hard time. I'm soon to be working on getting my degree because I do not have a lot of support from my husband (he doesn't even like to give me money to get groceries) so this is something I need to do for myself and my daughter.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
In fact I also look forward to have such kind of life which can get away from the working pressure
• India
28 Feb 13
Sometime woman want to enjoy motherhood and they give their career a toss. But after some years, if woman has still lot of energy left they can kick start their career. But for that lot of determination is required as they have to face twin responsibility of work and home. And that sometime take a toll on woman and give up their work for the second time. Only determined woman are able to handle both with panache and confidence.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Feb 13
I think it is difficult to find another good job after being a housewife for a long time.
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• India
28 Feb 13
A determined woman can find a job if she has experienced. But getting that will to work again may not be in many woman. But today woman is strong and is able to handle both kid and their job with greater satisfaction.
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@ElicBxn (63194)
• United States
28 Feb 13
I think its the choice of the woman. If she decides that her time will be better spent raising children rather than pursuing a career, that is her choice. I know my mother, despite having a college degree, chose to stay home and raise us. I will admit that part of it was taxes. My father made enough that if my mom worked, it would put them in such a high tax bracket that they would be paying more in taxes than it would be worth my mother's pay AND child care. Mind you, this was back in the late 1950's and the 1960's... but still. I knew a lady who could barely justify her working since nearly 95% of her pay went to child care when I was still working full time.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
At least most of the time women do the sacrifice.
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• India
28 Feb 13
Of course, it depends on the lady, so I wouldn't call it a "waste." After all, it is her life, and this is something she might have discussed with her spouse. Personally, however, I feel that career is very, very important. It means a lot of things, not just money. Earning well puts you in a better position to take care of the kids. So I wouldn't give up my career altogether, but I might find an option that will enable me to spend time with the kids too.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Feb 13
At least women have to find a stable job which will not often have the overtime work. This may be the way to balanced their career and family.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
There are times that I would think of it that way. Coz just imagine how many years I took up my course to graduate with a degree in Dental Medicine and yet I just ended up being a stay at home mom. But I guess, there are certainly a number of reasons that giving up on having a career worth it. But of course, if I had a choice, I would have been both.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Feb 13
I know it is not easy for you to finish the dental medicine degree. And it is also a great job.
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• China
28 Feb 13
I think it depends on whether or not their husbands earn enough to provide for the families and their families always come before their jobs in the eyes of them.I don't think it is a waste,if the answer is yes.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
Anyway, it will give the men more pressure.
• China
28 Feb 13
From men's point of view,I think it is a waste definitely,I mean as you know,now the commodity price is so high in our society and the family just depend on husband then wow,what a great burden it is!So unless a woman marry to a rich man,otherwise she should get a job and share some pressure of the family.But of course,woman no need to pick up a heavy and stressful job and at least should get a normal job.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
It will give men more pressure because they are responsible to earn for their families.
@Raine38 (12258)
• United States
28 Feb 13
It depends on what they're giving this up for. If they will give up their careers to take take care of their kids, to watch them grow, to be with them all their growing years I don't think it's a waste. She can always have another career, but the years lost without spending the day with your own child is something that you will never have back.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
It is not easy to find another career after the woman who is absent from the working field for some time.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
It is not a waste if a woman give up her career for her family.. having a family specially kids is the most rewarding thing for me.. no amount of money can compare to it.. as a human being everybody has a dream and I salute woman who sacrifices her dream or career to take care of her family instead.. no one can compare how mother take care of her family so it is not a waste if a wife or mother chooses her family over her career..
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
This is why women are great.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
28 Feb 13
It could be a waste if the woman is just forced to give up her career. We have a choice and if she has a career then she can hire a nanny to keep her work or she can be a full time mom if she wants, it's all up to her and how she feels to do her things.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
A nanny may not be so trustful.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
6 Mar 13
Heavens no. Having a career then choosing to stay home to have children can only benefit the children. The mother is educated and has seen life and has so much more to offer her children than a mother who has not. That's how I feel anyway.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
6 Mar 13
This is why women often sacrifice for their families.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
I think it's a waste, however, it was their decision. If they love taking care of their kids, then it's not waste at all. But there are those who are forced to do so. My partner doesn't want me to stop working. He isn't requiring me to have much pay anyhow, he just told me that he doesn't want me to go crazy over boredom because I won't be compensated very well for taking care of the family. It's a thankless job anyhow. Hehehe.. Further, he knows that I'd go crazy and paranoid if I'm not doing anything. I guess he knows that I'd go breathing down his throat every single time if I'm not employed and not going to be busy with anything. I think taking care of the kids is just good for a few years, but mommy still got to have a career so that she could miss them more. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Feb 13
Sometimes having your own career will make you up-to-date.
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@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Mar 13
It is sort of a waste BUT it is a woman's choice and isn't that what it's all about? I think that if a woman pays big bucks to get this education so she can have a career she had best think it over well before giving it up. And alot of women are doing both now days. Whatever works and makes them happy.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Mar 13
It is not so easy for a career woman to balance work and family well.
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@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Mar 13
Maybe they need to get help.
@Archie0 (5636)
28 Feb 13
I don't really think it is a waste of time. Because until and unless it is their personal decision to do that. Also they have worked before, and it is also a responsibility to take care of the baby, it is another duty but without a pay. So how it could be a waste of time to take care of a new family member? Other than that she has worked she is also educated, Now days there are so many ways from which women make their earning. So she can always make an earning being at home, it is not a big deal. Also she can join work after a period of time when her baby is old enough. Lastly it is our personal choice if we want to take care of our home or ourselves. A wife always has lot of responsibilities.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Feb 13
Of course family is very important, but sometimes being a full time housewife is really tiring.
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• Liechtenstein
28 Feb 13
I wonder why is it a women's responsibility to take care of children? The husband can equally take some of the taking care of the kids duties. I think it's a waste for them to throw away their career because they take extra education in college to gain the skills for the job. I mean why go to college at all to further studies to get a job and then settle to be a housewife? Why go college at all if you intend to be a housewife in the first place?
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Feb 13
The society is still tradition for a man who works. People may look down upon on a stay-at-home husband.
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@wishjui (271)
• India
5 Mar 13
I have given up my 'Full time' career and opted for freelancing after my motherhood and I am very much with my decision.It is how we (men and women/spouses)divide our responsibilities. In some cases like for a single mother it becomes necessary to work full time or opt a strong career but that undoubtedly effects life!But when the case is different then I think we being educated has got nothing to do with career outside only as we can use our skills,education ,knowledge & other qualities in taking care of house and raising children.Making a happy and healthy environment at home so that our children grow up with positive attitude,family values and our men work tension free outside which also boost their productivity and a good income. Please remember Women works 24 hrs in a day...!
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 13
You just made a wise decision