My Son Did a Bonehead Thing Yesterday

@ladym33 (10979)
United States
March 4, 2013 2:32pm CST
My son is really in to the plays and such at his high school. They had try outs last week for the school play and the cast list was put up yesterday. Well my son's girlfriend also tried out. He got a part and she didn't. She is a Senior and he is a Sophmore and for some reason she has not even got even the smallest part in any of the plays or musicals. Well my son got a part in the play but his girlfriend did not, so he told the teacher to take him off of the cast list. I think it was a bad decision on his part since he is just a Sophmore and was in line for some lead roles next year as the 3 of the leading guys are graduating this year. I told him it will probably make him look un-favorable for parts in the future. He is of course young and thinks he is in love and threw this opportunity away for his girlfriend. Have you ever done something stupid for a love?
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@mariaperalta (19074)
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
Did he do it for love for her? or as a protest because she didnt get apart?
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
4 Mar 13
I am afraid a bit of both. I am sure has to do with having more time with her as well. If she had gotten a part too then the two of them could have spent time together working on the play. If he was trying to make a point about her it was really stupid because she is graduating this year and won't have another chance to try out for a play again anyways.
@GardenGerty (149067)
• United States
5 Mar 13
I am sure many of us have done something stupid in the name of love, but I do not really remember it. I quit a choir as a friendship thing. Actually, I quit lots of things because my friend tended to do that. The "powers that be" may hold it against him, or they may be amused at his romantic notion, or they may even appreciate his loyalty. It is his choice, however, and I am sure there will be some kind of consequence come out of it.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
10 Mar 13
I remember when I was a freshmen in high school, I joined the gymnastics team because a bunch of other girls were, then most of them quit because the coach was kind of a witch with a B. Even though I actually liked it and was doing pretty good, I quit as well because all of them did. Since I had been dancing since I was 4 I probably would have done really well in gymnastics. I also loved doing the bars.
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
4 Mar 13
I think we have all done something stupid for a love and sadly he is a teen so no amount of talking will get him to see the error he made. If she was a nice girl she would say no you go back and tell them you will do it. If she doesn't then just hope this is a short lived relationship or he will be doing a lot more stupid things for her. Just remember moms know nothing in their minds at this age and this too shall pass. Dang kids know it all lol
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
4 Mar 13
In her defense she did tell him not to do it. But he is trying to convince everyone that he did it because he wanted to and not because of her, but of course that was after he said she tried out for every play but never got a part, so is contradicting himself, and she probably fell for the whole he didn't want to do anyways thing he is trying to pull now, because his father, me, and his sister, and his girlfriend all told him he should not have done that.
@maximax8 (31120)
• United Kingdom
7 Mar 13
I think your son may have done that for his girlfriend. It seemed unfair that all the young people didn't get a part in the play. Perhaps he did this simply because his girlfriend didn't get a part in this production. I fell in love with a man that lived a long way from where I lived. I was foolish to begin dating someone that lived so far away. Our relationship lasted just 8 months in all. I wish your son luck with his love life.
@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
14 Mar 13
I've done too many stupid things for love! Hopefully, it won't affect his future roles. I know how much he likes acting! It's sweet that he did that for his girlfriend. I'm sure it made her feel good. He was being chivalrous! Someday, he will probably look back on it and laugh and realize his mistake. But, who knows, maybe she will be his true love and she will always appreciate his gesture.
@lelin1123 (15598)
• Puerto Rico
4 Mar 13
I think everyone does something stupid for love at least once in their lives. For me it must have been when I felt a man loved me more then my own parents. So I didn't talk to them for awhile. They were right about him he was a loser but I was young and innocent. I think your son made a big mistake too. he lost an opportunity that may cost him the rest of his time in High School. He should have stayed with the play regardless if the girlfriend was upset or not. She also should have talked him out of doing it if she really "loves" him. Plus, to know she is a senior she will be moving on and I'm sure their relationship will change but you can't tell a teenager that because he's in "love."
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
4 Mar 13
Yep, That is about it, they know everything at this age.
@TazRes (827)
• United States
5 Mar 13
Hi ladym33, Wow that's to bad, I think now that he turned this opportunity down may make it hard for them to trust in him if he were to sign up for something in the future. Even though he loves his girlfriend...maybe she would've understood if he would have performed without her; Did she try talking him into keeping the role? It could have been a start of something really good for him. He should keep trying for different opportunities and maybe have a talk with his girlfriend.
@machatago (385)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
That's a bad decision for him, also for the girl, she is a senior she should by now learn to understand and be happy for him. It's a bit selfish if she demands from him that he should quit since she didn't get a part. I hope your son sees this and hopefully will learn from this mistake.
@Pegasus72 (1900)
5 Mar 13
I haven't but I know in our school a Senior has first dibs on main parts or any part in a play over any other person so that it helps their papers for college. Again that is our school that does this, and just for some reason thought other schools did this too.
@ajson2 (2)
• United States
5 Mar 13
Ok i see that from what you have said he really loves this girl although you would think the girlfriend would want him to be in the play if she couldn't i wouldnt consider it a completely stupid or bonehead thing he seems to real like this girl so if i were you i would ask the girl what her opinion on the matter was over text so if she says something like "It was a great thing to do he is so sweet if he took the part i would be so upset" than ou might want to talk to your son about it and not delete the text until you do so