Will you give your valuable thing to a friend?

@kokomo (1867)
Philippines
March 6, 2013 7:56am CST
Like clothes, sandals , bags or anything that she or he wish to and sometimes it was just only given or a gift to you by your mother or a sister or another friend?What if you want it also and that thing was so important with you? What is the nice way to refuse a friend who asked you to just give your valuable thing to her and you will notice that she is really eager to have it?
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
7 Mar 13
. As much as I want to answer this I can't because my best friend is here. just kidding!
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
hahaha :) Seriously, i know you would ;)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
26 Mar 13
First of all, I think that it is quite rude that a friend would ask you to just give them something for no reason at all. I was brought up with better manners than that and I won't ask for something from a friend, but I will accept something if they offer it to me and it is something that I would be able to put to good use. If a friend was to ask me for something that had a meaning to me, I would simply tell them that the item was not something that I would like to get rid of at this time, but I will keep them in mind in the future if I should decide in the future that I no longer need or want that item.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
if that friend really close to me for how many years and helped me for many times and time will come that we will need to separate i think i will give her/him a thing that is very valuable to me such jewelry like ring,necklace and bracelet.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
9 Mar 13
yes for sure and i would give all the things to him and make it feel even more satisfied all the way
• Indonesia
12 Mar 13
I will never give to anyone a gift from others for me. I respect and appreciate what people give to me by keeping the gifts for myself. If a friend asking some of my stuff I will tell them that I could not give it away because it's a gift from a family or other friend and it's a must to appreciate their gift to me. I will give something else but not any gift that I receive from others.
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I can give it as long as the one that I give will be valuing it as much as I do.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
8 Mar 13
If a friend asked for something of mine that I was not ready to give, I would just say "no" and gently explain my attachment to the objact. My friends would understand. In fact, I don't think any of my friends would directly ask for something that belonged to me, especially something of great value.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Mar 13
There are some things that I would never give away for instance the necklace that I have inherited from my grandmother. She used to wear it all the time and today I wear it every day. It is a valuable necklace, but that is not the reason why I wouldn't give it away. I wouldn't give it away because it one of the things that reminds me of her and the close relationship that we had. There are also other things that I wouldn't give away like the presents from my husband. If a friend asks to have one of those I would explain that I don't give them away because of the sentimental value. If a friend asks to have something that I bought myself, it is a different situation and I would often let them have the things that they ask for.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 13
Hi Koko, well, if it is impossible, I will buy her another one which similar with my valuable things but if there is not, I will just say' you know how much important this things to me, I believe you will respect it by refusing your request'
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
8 Mar 13
I think friends can share these things.I shared bags and clothes once with my friends,i value the friendship between us and i don't care the money that spent.Sometimes we need to learn say no and don't think about too much.They may understand and be real you.
@else22 (4317)
• India
7 Mar 13
That's really a difficult question.So far as I am concerned,for me the most valuable thing I have are my books.I have been a book lover and have a big collection of books in my home library.Last year a friend of mine requested me to lend a Hindi novel.The novel he was asking for has been considered one of the best novel in Hindi literature.I gave it to him.He took it home,read it and then lent it to another person.Then that person gave the book to one of his friends.Months later when I could hardly manage to get my book back,it was almost completely destroyed.Pages were torn and the cover was missing.I had to give it to a book binder. Then on I don't give my books to anybody.If someone asks me to lend him a particular book,I tell them I don't have it.I lie,because there's no other way to save my books from irresponsible persons.
• Romania
8 Mar 13
Well it depends what he wants, because i have some valuable things from my family and boyfriend i could never give them now, i don't know what i'll do in future :) But if he wants clothes or other common things i'll surely give them to a friend.I actually did this until now many times, but only with my best friends.
• India
8 Mar 13
I don't know about the future but at present i don't think i would share anything that is dear to me with any one no matter how close he or she is...it is this feeling of belonging that i have with my things that does not let me give any of my things to my friends.Even if i do lend a person any item,there is always this thing at the back of my mind that keeps me wanting to have my thing back.
@patnopy (721)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
i never yet try to give a valuable things to my friends even to the closet friend but if ever i do i want to see it that their still using it
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
7 Mar 13
I just say no to people. It's a lot easier than trying to skirt around the issue. My daughter actually gives stuff away like nothing but really if it's important to her she gives it to her best friend of 20 years to hold onto but not to keep.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
When it is given by my husband or my parents, i would never ever give it to anyone else no matter what the reaction would be, i wouldn't care if she will get mad at me or not.
@Candymin (145)
• China
7 Mar 13
That depends on. If it is a gift from my parents or a friend, I will not give it away. I'm afraid it is rude to the person who gave me the present and he/she may be feel not good about it. If it is a common thing I bought it by myself, I will be willing to give it to my friend to satisfy him/her. On the other hand, i do not have such a friend that he/she would rudely ask for a thing which may means a lot to me directly.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
7 Mar 13
I don't give my clothes since i don't like to share my clothes with anyone. If they like something as a bag, shoes, etc, i may help them buy it by giving money only, but of course not all amount to buy it, the buyer should spend their money for it also.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
7 Mar 13
I do, I love to give gifts and things to family and friends. I get alot of stuff sent to me here form the usa. And most make great gifts to people here in Mexico.
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
My friend would understand if I tell her, "It's too important for me I cannot give it away, at least not yet". If he or she doesn't understand it, then it means she is not valuing the friendship over whatever that thing is (assuming this is just a thing, a consumable thing). Otherwise, offer her something alike.