Do you think it's possible to love someone too much?

United States
March 27, 2013 7:00am CST
I had read the title of a book and it was basically about how a person can love someone too much. Do you think that is possible. I guess I feel it's important to love as much as we can but then there are relationships that are detrimental. Where one person doesn't have love and may be abusive but the other person continues to love them even though they cause them harm.
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
27 Mar 13
possible... STUP!D love .. however it should be stopped when one is hurting another one already... ahhh how? i just don't know how..
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• United States
9 Apr 13
I agree with you! It is crazy the things that so many people will do for another person when in fact that person doesn't do anything for them. In situations like that the person has to realize that they themselves are valuable and have to do things for themselves.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
9 Apr 13
Yes, Dominique but I think somehow it is tiring, too. people will just get tired of LOVING when it is NOT RETURNED. People have limitations too. and could love up to the limit of patience. time will come when love hormone will not excrete anymore
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
28 Mar 13
Yes. First, there's looking at it as an exchange--a Quid pro Quo kinda love--and if you're not loving me as strongly as I'm loving you, then I'm loving you too much. That's ignoring the many ways to 'love someone'---you can love them by thinking of them, talking to them, doing things for them, letting them do things for you, etc. And maybe you love them one way & not enough the other ways---like (I'm forced to imagine) is one reason why I'm not married. To me, love is all the girlfriend/boyfriend stuff you do before-&-after work-or-school. (I don't really think that--I think it's more like the grandpa/grandma-mom/dad stuff the grownups do when they're not-at work or -taking care of the kids--but I don't know how to show I know that ... which is why I once wanted to get a job--"to prove that I could be a dad"--but I can't 'behave' until I get married ) As none of my 'possiblle wives' want a man who can't behave without them, I love them all "too much."
• United States
24 Apr 13
Well I hope in time you will find the right woman who you can love the right amount and to only her. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. Relationships do involve a lot of work and commitment.
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
For me it is possible, its depends on the person if he/she will love the person too much. But we must see to it that we are aware of what is happening on the relationship, and you must be also aware about your self. We can love a person to much, but we must be aware of the consequences, it is proven that too much of something is bad enough.
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• United States
24 Apr 13
I agree with you. It is important for the individuals in the relationship to see and be mindful of what is or isn't happening in the relationship. To communicate thoughts and feelings to each other is also important.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
I think its possible for someone to love so much, and yeah it can be harmful already for the person loving and of the person loved. we know that everything that is too much can be harmful and when it comes to love, too much love may be obsession already and this is going to cause harm, of course! ;)
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• United States
24 Apr 13
Yes you make a good point. Too much of a lot of things isn't good. Relationships should strive to have a balance where each individual works for the good of their parent. It shouldn't be a one sided relationship.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
On my own opinion yes, we can love a person too much but take first the consequences or the result of what you have done. Or if you give your love too much do not ask and wait for return coz that's where I am afraid. The result or in return. Because what we give is what we have and we can't expect the same in return. If I love a person too much I give all I have to the max. And be sure with myself to be ready for the result. Or come what may... :)
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• United States
24 Apr 13
Glad to hear that you are willing to love with all you have and not expect the other person to love you to that extent. I think it is important to love the person we are with a whole lot. But I think the other person should love us a lot as well and show it, not just keep taking.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
there are people who loves too much and if you do love so much like in a relationship as a boyfriend and girlfriend you might find your self in trouble in the end.. because it may lead to an abusive relationship... so it should be balance and you should love yourself first and everything will follow..
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• United States
24 Apr 13
Yeah it is best to stay away from abusive relationships. It is so hard for many individuals to get out of relationships that are like that. We do have to have balance in a relationship. Both individuals should be working to give in the relationship.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
27 Mar 13
I have read that book and it really does make a lot of sense. It is about abusive and controlling relationships and women who love to the point that they put up with the abuse...that would be loving too much.
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• United States
28 Mar 13
Yes,we have to be careful with the relationship we have. There needs to be balance. And being in an abusive relationship isn't good for anyone. The innocent person is harmed and the controlling individual feels that they can continue with those bad habits.
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Mar 13
I feel most of the time love can be a great thing... However, if it is only one sided than yes you can love someone too much. Some people love someone that does not love them in return. Aside from abuse, there is sometimes in a relationship one person who does everything for the other one and the love is not returned the same. Of course then you have the abusive relationships where the abuser does not deserve to be loved at all!
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• United States
9 Apr 13
Yeah I agree with you love can be a great thing.Especially when both individuals value and appreciate one another. It is sad that there are so many relationships where everything is one sided. Especially when we hear experiences about all that one individual does for someone else and the other person doesn't show attention to that person. Yeah and abusive relationships are awful.
@Pegasus72 (1898)
8 Apr 13
If you are a stalker yes, other wise there is always room for love.
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• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Yes it is very much possible for someone to love another person so much. Let me share my brother's story. My brother had a girlfriend for 5 years then they broke up. It had been 5 years since they broke up and until now he loves his ex-girlfriend. He is still very close to the family of his ex-girlfriend. He still give them the things they need. I know he is doing all these stuff to win back the heart of her ex but her ex is already working abroad so they do not have time to really talk. Two months ago my brother went to Singapore to find a chance to talk to his ex. He stayed there for a week but her ex just left him a message on Facebook. She asked my brother to move on. That means, she doesn't love my brother anymore and yet my brother still wants to talk to her and to tell her everything he feels.
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• United States
23 Apr 13
Sorry to hear that your brother has had such a hard time no longer being with his ex. I hope that he will find the courage and strength to move on. It certain seems that she has and I hope he will be able to find someone who can love him the way he wants to be loved.
@iamsittie (327)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
I think it depends on the person's perception. For now, loving someone too much is possible because I have tried it. But just what a song says "There's a danger in loving somebody too much". Because of my intense feelings I forgot my studies and focused more on him. But then I am happy that I was loved and I fell in love with him.
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• United States
9 Apr 13
Yeah I agree with what you are saying. I think that it is sad for individuals who are in a relationship where they are abused, or don't get treated the way they deserve to be treated. It is hard for individuals to reach the point where they realize they deserve better for their life.
• China
28 Mar 13
I tried to love someone else unconditionally, the result I've got is his unpatience.He said he need private space, and plz let me alone sometimes. I don't know what did his meaning. At first he didn't do to me like that. Now I realise the rules between lovers.firstly,we do need try our best to please someone else,we should love ourselves first.secondly,love is not the one-way street, not just about pays, also about gains. thirdly,little love ,little happiness.day by day ,both of two lovers will gain more.eh,thoes are just my opinion.
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• United States
23 Apr 13
Yes I understand what you mean. It does take balance and effort from both individuals in the relationship. We definitely can do things in small ways to make the relationship work and improve it.
• United States
27 Mar 13
Yes that is very possible to love someone too much. Love is a very powerful human emotion and it is very possible that you can love someone till it hurts you. When in love a person might not do what is best for them as they can be "blinded by love." Personally, I would rather love someone too much than not love them enough.
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• United States
9 Apr 13
Yes I agree with you. A person can definitely be blinded by love. Love or infatuation are very strong emotions and have caused many individuals to think only of the other person and what they can do for them. Glad to hear that you would rather love someone too much than not love them enough and possibly lose that person.
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
It is usual to love someone. Love is unconditional for God. But for the human, love sets many conditions to be satisfied. Loving so much may be true to others.But how much is "to much"? We cannot measure them perhaps, yet I do believe that through love, it conquers all possibilities.
• United States
28 Mar 13
I agree with you that it is important for us to have a great deal of love. We love our family and friends. But if it in someway is detrimental to us then it can be considered loving too much.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 13
I think it is possible i ever love someone too much when I was teenager but maybe this is a matter of interpreting the love itself loving someone too much means more lust than the love itself
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@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
30 Mar 13
If there is 'unequal love power' then yes, you can love someone too much. But, if both people love each other the same then I think there should be no cap on how much they can love each other. If it becomes 'dangerous' then they obviously didn't love each other than much to begin with.
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@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
28 Mar 13
I don't think so. Someone may love in a destructive way for themselves, but not too much. Love, for me, is all about loving the other with all our hearts, and believing this, there is no "too much". But I do think that someone may love in a way that is going to be wrong for the relationship. Too fangirl/boyishly, too naively, too one-sidedly, too slave-likely... or too possessively or too jealously, for example.
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• Philippines
27 Mar 13
When it comes to love there, is no too much in real sense of life for if there is it is abnormality. The right term is enough but not too much
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