A job was offered without me looking for it...but...

@emily7339 (1337)
Malaysia
April 5, 2013 2:04am CST
I was surprised to receive a call from someone offering a job to me. This is a job where I could have it in the comfort of my home. It is none other than to babysit a two month old baby. The price is RM1000 a month in my country. I need to think it over whether to accept it or not. It is for day and night, five days a week! That is the reason why I am contemplating "yes" or "no". I think my answer very likely is "no" because I may not have much time left for myself and my family. I will have to divert more of my concentration to the baby as I have great responsibility to take good care of him. I may not have much time coming to MyLot as I need to cope with house chores while caring for other's baby. Have you ever let go the opportunity where you could earn it instead? Love to hear your sharing.
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35 responses
@alpha9180 (301)
• Malaysia
8 Apr 13
I have read through your discussions here and notice that you have make the right decision to reject the offer. I would say it is not easy to take care of a two months old baby with five days a week. As you will be entirely tied down to caring the baby and will miss out a lot of freedom in your life!
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@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
8 Apr 13
I agree with you. This task is a great responsibility. It is not worth for me to take the offer so I had rejected it. Thanks for your sharing!
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
21 Apr 13
It is hard to make both ends meet. For making some extra money, you will have to sacrifice your own time without being able to do many of your favorite things. It is a big thing to contemplate out of your own preference. So long as you are happy, you may choose to do the favorite. Take care, emily.
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@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
21 Apr 13
Yes, this is true. Jobs are scarce nowadays. A little will surely contribute much to our living . However, it is also good to make wise and proper decision so it will not defeat the good purpose and plans in our life . Thank you for your sharing !
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• United States
7 Apr 13
I have no idea what that equates to in USD... but yes watching someone else child full time can be alot of work. I watched someone elses kid years ago when my oldest was smaller and thankfully she didn't survive her 90 day probation at the job. Her kid was on my nerves and drove me batty. And still being a new Mom at the time I didn't know what I could do to a child that wasn't mine as far as correcting him on any behavior problems.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 13
Well, it is about USD350.00 a month and it is consider a good deal over here in our country . Unfortunately I am not taking the offer as I foresee that it will surely takes up too much of my time . Thank you for sharing your experience to me and great if I could have you as my friend here . Happy mylotting!
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Apr 13
I am not aware how much one person needs in order to have a comfortable life in your country. But is the amount not sufficient enough to help your family with your financial needs? But if you have smaller kids, then maybe it would be really difficult for you to leave your home to work.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
5 Apr 13
Oh, my two children have grown up. My daughter is married while my son is having his third year Engineering Course. I have resigned from my fixed income job and opt for early retirement. That is why I come to mylot to spend my free time. I find it enjoying here. But, if I accept the this job I would then have no time for mylot. I need to devote my full attention to the baby as I am having a great responsibility. Besides, I need to cope with house chores and spending time with my family.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
So you are just worried in missing Mylot when you can actually earn more with that job? hahaha! You are a certified Mylot addict!
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Hi jenny1015, To be honest, that is one of the reasons, hahaha!
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@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
5 Apr 13
Hi emily, yes I have had to make that choice...But I think you should follow your first instints..Normally thats your best choice...I will say this if your really really need a job then take this until you find something else but if you can hold off without working then really think about your choice for you alreay have time issues doing this babysitting and having time for yourself...
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@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Hi bjc66bjc, Yeah I have thought it through these two days a lot about it and decided not to take the offer. I do not want to be tied down 24 hours five days a week just for babysitting. I may not have time for myself and family not to mention house chores and some errands to take care of from time to time. Last but not least, I will surely miss mylotting! hahaha! Great to reaad your sharing!
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@joycseer (845)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
Wow...2 month old baby. But most of the time the baby will be sleeping right, since he is still so small? But surely you may loose your freedom to do things you like and want. You may have other activities during the week, but because of the baby, you need to let go. Besides, like you said, you may not have much time to spend with family too. That would be a lost.
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@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
Hi joycseer, Well, not all baby will be sleeping. Some have irregular hours. It needs a lot of attention for them . Yeah, I will surely lost my freedom and be tied down for five days, day and night. It will not be a good feeling having to forgo many things in my life . If it is only day time, I may consider . Thanks for your thoughts!
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
13 Apr 13
I am happy to know that you got a job without looking. I think you can earn some money through replying to various discussions in myLOt and you can earn your pocket money with it.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
14 Apr 13
Hi ajithlal, Yeah, my friend's friend recommended me to her because she needed someone to care for her new born baby. But I had turn down the offer . It is true, I am enjoying here in Mylot and glad to know that I am being paid with a bonus for my enjoyment here
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@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Apr 13
I think watching a very young child for five days and nights is a lot to ask. This is a big undertaking. And if you did do it I would ask 3 times what they are offering. A two month old baby should still be in his mother's care. This isn't a very good opportunity.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Hi celticeagle, This is very true, it is a heavy responsibility to care for someone else's baby five days and nights. She is my friend's friend and came to know that I have opted for early retirement, so she requested me to take care for her baby. She is working day time. I did advice her that it is important to have a mother's care for the baby at this young age and see if she could to take care her baby for the nights, but she has insisted to have 24 hours five days a week. Anyway, I did consider much about this matter and decided to turned down the offer. I do not want to be so stressful again. I really appreciate your sharing!
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@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Apr 13
I think you made the right decision. I feel sorry for the baby.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
This is also common here in our country but the salary is much higher. It also depends on how old the baby is (range from 2 months to 1 year old) The bigger the baby- the higher salary (from 8am -8pm, 5 days a week) I am also offered to babysit one time -but like what you wrote here- there's a few thing to consider. - out time for our family -babysitting means lesser time for ourselves and other things as well -our online job will be affected. So, in my opinion, if you can earn the same salary offered RM1000 with your online job- there is no need to babysit then. But if you think this job -babysitting is good enough to give you an extra income, then go for it. Have a great day
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Friend's request accepted And thanks for sending the FR. Looking forward to read more of your post.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
I am currently opt for early retirement due to health reason. I am not into earning online except some enjoyment here in mylot with this little bonus. After I had considered the pros and cons of this matter, I do not think I am able to cope for day and night five days a week. If it is for only day time, I many consider to take it. I do not want myself to be in stressful life again. Thanks for your respond and I have sent my request to make friend with so that I could receive your post through email notification.
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@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Thank you my friend. I think I may dissappoint you in my post as I always lack of ideas and only will do it when inspiration comes. haha! However, I will try to participate as much as I could.
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@velvet53 (22528)
• Palisade, Colorado
5 Apr 13
Yes, I have past up a few great opportunities in my life. They would have set me up financially and I so regret not taking them. I did day care for 14 years and even though I enjoyed it, it did take a lot of time away from my family. I don't know if I could ever watch a two month old now as they do take a lot of your time.
@velvet53 (22528)
• Palisade, Colorado
5 Apr 13
It was definitely an experience for me. Something will come a long for you that will leave you with time for your family. This is very important and I wish I had thought more about that years ago.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Yes, spending time with family is utmost important! Glad to hear from you!
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@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
5 Apr 13
Well, I am glad that you have great experiences in operating a day care for 14 years. It is true that taking care of a two month old baby is not an easy task. It undoubtedly will occupy a lot of my time. So, I guess I will give up the offer instead. Thank you for your respond!
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• India
6 Apr 13
It is wonderful to have a job opportunity knocking your door even when you have not asked for it. Well, as it is a big responsibility and requires a lot of time and care I guess your decision of saying NO to it is quite wise. I have never across such a situation so don't know how I would have dealt with it or what would have been my choice. But anyways, I wish you get many more opportunities besides Mylot, which do not require so much time and energy, but pay you fairly well.
• India
9 Apr 13
Hey Emily, Mylot is undoubtedly a wonderful platform and I feel extremely lucky being a part of this community. I am very glad to have met so many caring and helpful people here.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 13
Yeah, this is really a great opportunity for me but it is unfortunate that I would not be able to accept it due to various reasons . I do enjoy MyLot very much and I will surely miss being here if I took up the offer. But I am glad that now I do not have to worry about this now and I am able to do mylotting as well as having time for my family and doing the house chores. Besides, I may need to go out doing some routine errands and it will be very difficult to bring along the baby I love to interact with many friends here in mylot whenever I could and have added you as friend so that I may also received your post through email notification. Thank you for your respond and have a nice day
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@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
13 Apr 13
Indeed people that I know so far are kind, helpful and great friends
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
That is hard decision. It is sad to turn down such earning opportunity. But you are not doing anything wrong I think because you know your priorities. you value your family time more than money.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
It's good that you made your decision. No need to worry though, there will still be good opportunities in the future.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Hi Aja103654, You are right. Though it sounds to be a very good offer in terms of money, but I have my prerogative in deciding to take or not take this offer. So, after much considerations I have make up my mind to concentrate on the priorities in my life now. I have rejected this offer as it is too much for me to take. Thanks for your contribution here! Have a nice day!
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
5 Apr 13
Have you asked yourself if you need the money?? If you do, maybe you need to take the job. Is that alot of money there?
• Mexico
6 Apr 13
What if you tried it for a few months, to save up some money? Have a super sat. there.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
8 Apr 13
It will be unfair to the lady if I were to try for few months and she may not be happy having to find a babysitter again . Anyway, I have decided to let go this offer..
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@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Yeah, it can be consider a good income for one stay home and compare to mylotting, hahaha! A normal graduate who comes out to work usually start off around rm2000 in the city life or a little more. I have opt for early retirement to get away from all the stressful secular full time job. I guess I do not want be bogged down with stress again. I believe it is not easy to take care a two month old baby with day and night for five days. I have make up my mind not to take offer after much consideratons. Thanks for your respond!
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@misjoseph (162)
6 Apr 13
The moment i herd you got a job i felt so happy for you, while continue reading, i was like, i think is a big job e, i will tell you straight and forward my dear, not to accept this offer. i don't mean to be rude but if you are willing and you know you will be able to manage will the choice is up to you...
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 13
Hi misjoseph, You are right and I am absolutely agree with you. This job is no joke and it comes along with great resposibility . I do not think I could be as relax as I am now doing mylotting if ever I take up the offer. So, I rather give up this offer than to tide myself down with unwanted problems. I appreciate your kind advice and glad to have such friend like you by send by friend request. So, I could look for you through email notification and we could have more interaction!
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• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Many times i reject an job offer, i will not force my self to work for a particular job for a reason of no choice, force job is less progressive in my part, you can't work properly if you have a lot of things to consider regarding your life and your work, for me work should take in no stress way. For me what you decide is right forcing our self to work will only cause stress.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Hi jonastabuena, Working in a stressful environment is not healthy. If we have a choice, it is better not commit to it. So, I can understanding as to why you are making such decision. Thanks for your affirmation and sharing!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
If I were in your shoes I would also decline to babysit for 24hrs for 5 days a week. Babysitting not only comes with a heavy responsibility but the thought that I would be deprived of my leisure time and other activities that I loved to do is something that I would not want to accept no matter how much monetary rewards is being offered.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Yeah, this is very true. It is very hard to take this heavy responsibility. I would prefer to only care for the day time. With a baby aroung for a full day would surely deprived me of my leisure time and other activities. Thank you for your sharing!
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
5 Apr 13
Hmm... That sort of job is indeed difficult or challenging. It would also cause you to certainly have no more time for yourself. The major problem there is that there's no end to that contract. You'd be attached to the child and soon you're going to find yourself in a situation when you no longer can work other jobs except being the nanny of that boy. I certainly would say "no" to that one either. I had the chance to be hire without effort when my mom recommended me to work for her friend. It was an awkward feeling and I think most people there thought I was only there because my parents know the boss. It didn't give me much respect for myself and I always kept on looking for something else. Eventually, I found something that I was really the one who looked for and I asked for a release ~ the asking to resign was tough since it somehow showed I had no gratitude. Whew! I think it's better if we find our jobs. I know it's quite difficult to do that, but at least we're hired for who we are and not because someone gave us favors. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Hi laydee, Yes I do agree with you this job is indeed difficult and challenging. I can foresee I will be totally tied down with just caring for the baby and not able to enjoy life with my family, besides coping with house chores. I believe this is not what I am looking for and I will surely miss mylotting too! But the most important issue here is taking care of a baby 24 hours and five days a week is indeed very tiring! I have rejected the offer and glad that I am comfortable with my decision. I am very happy to come to know you, and have requested you to be added to my friend list so that I could receive email notification on your post as well. Happy mylotting!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
5 Apr 13
To look after someone else's baby for five days a week both night and day is a heck of a responsibility. Why won't the parents take the baby at night? I could not have borne leaving my baby for five days a week at that tender age
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Hi cynthiam, I did ask this same question to the baby's mother too. I hope she could take care her baby for the nights as this is the most crucial stage of a mother and baby's bonding but she insisted to look for 24 hours. Anyway, that is her choice and I cannot force her to think the same as I am. Anyway, after weighing much on the pros and cons, I have decided not to take the offer. Thanks for your respond!
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@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
RM1000.00 a month which is about US$350.00 a month. That is big bucks. You can babysit in the comfort of your home 5-day week. That's is a good offer. Take it. Imagine a two-month infant sleeps at least 18 hours a day and this will give you a lot of free time to do myLot. In your own house means anyone can help to take care of the infant when you are not free. My advice is to take the offer.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Yeah, you are right. I can never earn this US$350.00 a month from here in MyLot, haha! Well, not all babies are asleep 18 hours a day. Some has irregular hours and very light sleeper. And they are very fragile and prone to get sick easily. Overall it looks like a good deal. But after much consideration into the pros and cons, I find it hard to cope with it for day and night and five days a week. If it is only for day time, I may consider to take the offer. But the lady insisted to have 24 hours. My daughter is married and my son is in his third year Engineering Course. My hubby is busy with his work. So, no one is around to help me in the house if any need arises. Besides, I have house chores to do and may need to go out doing some errands on and off. So, I think it is not feasible to commit to this offer. I really appreciate your advices and happy mylotting!
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
5 Apr 13
Taking care of a baby is a big responsibility, but if you need the job and it pays well, then maybe you could come to mylot for a few hours on the weekend. I know if I was offered a job like that and it paid very well, I would be willing to sacrifice my love of mylot and take that job so I could take care of my family. I would say "yes." I hope you weigh the pros and cons very carefully before turning down the job offer.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 13
Hi Arieles, It is true and I absolutely agree with you that taking care of a baby has great responsibility. It does pays well and I have consider much on pros and cons over it and decided to turn down the offer. I have opted for early retirement for good and I do not want to be so stressful again. Nice to hear your good advices!
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