Do you think jealousy among couples is healthy for a relation?

India
April 15, 2013 12:36am CST
I have seen loads and loads of couples fight for the most petty reasons and then they end up suspecting each other getting jealous and breaking off the beautiful relationship. I wonder if getting jealous of your partner all the time and not trusting your partner is good? But is jealousy to some level healthy?
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18 responses
@daisy777 (214)
• South Africa
18 Apr 13
Jealousy can be very destructive if it's not controlled. That little green monster sitting on ones's shoulder can cause havoc in ones relationships. I think the key is trust and without trust there's bound to be jealousy. It is important that couples discuss their differences and try and sort it out.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
OBVIOUSLY, it's not healthy and good for the relationship if there is too much jealousy.
• United States
16 Apr 13
No I don't think jealousy is good at all. It's bothersome to the person who is the object of the jealous person. It's a sign of insecurity. Besides that, a jealous person will hurl insults at you and accuse you of anything and everything.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
I think jealousy is healthy if not that much. It depends on the situation. If we feel jealousy that easy and unreasonable then that is not good anymore in the relationship.
@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
jealousy just as simple as it is, is a way of a manifestation of love to one another. But when it is hurting the other and restricting that person to grow and become his or her own person is not helping the relationship at all. There are some crimes of passions committed because of too much jealousy. this is not healthy anymore when it breaks the other person.
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
Hello urvisimba, Jealousy is always counted in a relationship.This is unavoidable,many couple have experienced like this and having it is good, this is an evidence that you love your partner but too much jealousy is also irritating.Jealousy happened to some couple because of too much love.We need to experience a little bit of jealousy in order for us to figure out how much someone really means for us.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
16 Apr 13
There are two different types of jealousy. There's the controlling, you have to check in with me every 24 minutes, and I want your GPS on your cell phone turned on, so I can track your movements. That's not good. That will tear apart your marriage. The other kind of jealousy, is simply I want you to be only for me. This is the kind that says you can't have a boyfriend or girlfriend outside of our marriage, because you are only for me, and I'm only for you. That's good. If you don't have that, then your marriage is doomed. BTW, if you are not married, then it doesn't matter. Those relationships don't last anyway.
@grvdubey11 (1879)
• India
15 Apr 13
Jealousy and possessiveness can kill best of the relationships. Of-course if you feel that someone is coming between you and your partner you can discuss it but in a polite manner.When a serious and beautiful relationship develops there are many people who try to break it for whatever reasons, by being jealous or possessive you are only helping their cause.Best wishes.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
I do think that jealousy could never be out of the relationship. But to only a certain extent will it be tolerable. Now, if one or both seem to be just jealous all the time over the simplest thing, well, that would surely be the end of the relationship.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
15 Apr 13
I suppose it's not healthy for a relation between lovers.While you really need to hold a nice attitude toward anyone you like and thus you are given back more,but maybe that's common for people but i never did.Can be weird?lol,i don't know.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Apr 13
First of all if a couple is fighting they do NOT have a beautiful relationship like you state! A relationship is not beautiful if you have to fight about everything. BTW it may look like fighting about everything to you but it doesn't mean it's about that. What is important in a relationship is that both partners accept and respect eachothers wishes, goals, view on life. Men seldom do. Women frequently give up everything what is important to them from the very first start. Because they are blind, in love or feel the need to prove they are the best, great, most neloved and caring person (the way many women are raised!). After "neing in love" so the first weeks/months are over, the excitement is gone, the couple starts to live partly their own life again (with old friends). Then the fight starts.. plus the misunderstanding (is this normal? Why not Always being together etc). If it's about real jelousy I think it's already there from the very first start. this has to do with "posession". If it starts in a later period it has way more to do with a lack of understanding, attention (!) and in the end also trust.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
A little amount of jealousy is good for the relationship. It only means that the couples are scared of losing each other over someone. But there has to be limitations on this. If you constantly suspect your partner that s/he's doing something behind your back even if there's nothing to hide, then that's too much and will lead to an unhealthy, destructive relationship.
@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
15 Apr 13
in some countries ,jealousy is good,because it means your partner loves you so much. but if the jealousy is really too much and annoying,it really disturb the relationship. i have a really jealous wife,i try to tell her there is nothing to be jealous but she never changes. peace
@amundy8 (58)
15 Apr 13
No, jealousy is only healthy when it is minimal and when the couple trust each other. It is not healthy at all if they can't trust one another. The accusations come, and cause the accuser to seem guilty themselves and make the accused person wonder, "Are they accusing me to hide what they are doing?" Then it seems like the blame is being shifted. That's why communication is so important. People now seem to find every excuse to leave instead of working it out, and it's often caused by jealousy woth lack of trust and communication.
@urbandekay (18278)
15 Apr 13
No, it is the enemy of love; love is trusting, is not easily provoked and thinks no evil, If you abandon suspicion you may get hurt or you may not but if you don't you will ruin every relationship all the best, urban
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Fighting can only lead to other things that can hurt relationships. It is better to understand and accept the fault of each other and not blame. Jealousy can be healthy in some other reason but not too much. It can be considered as a spice of the relationship, but too much can be a poison. Have a nice day!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Jealousy is healthy in any relationship, it's sign of love. But too much is not good anymore- it's sign of doubts. If you love your partner- you should trust each other without any doubt. Too much jealousy is also possessiveness and too dangerous.
@Kmz059 (652)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Yes it only means that he/she care and loved you. And fighting or having a misunderstanding is normal for a relationship it can make our relationship stronger and healthier