Backfighter bites terribly...I feel so....

@Shavkat (75124)
Philippines
April 19, 2013 9:25am CST
...way out of my wit. I have a co-worker that is so tactless. It seems my patience ran out of my senses. Thus I confronted the person without any hesitation. I need to stop him and be not a friend. He said so many things against me without knowing it. In my side, I don't care and being vocal will be a great thing to do. What do you think?
15 responses
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
Being bad mouthed and ruining your reputation behind your back will normally make you feel bad. Pray. It is right that you confronted the person. That kind of person will never be a good friend to anyone. I am just wondering what is his purpose for doing that to you. Is he secretly in love with you and he got rejected or what?
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
It is job=related my friend. I don't know if it is a sign of insecurity or he just wanted to pull me down with the people I am working with.
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
I think this means that career wise he is intimated by you. I agree that he is insecure. He envies you for a job that you do better than him. Just ignore him anyways just continue to do great with your job since others will notice this better than the bad things that he is saying about you.
@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Hi Shavkat. Well, I think you did the right thing. When things become intolerable, and action must be done. Good thing is your co-worker already knows you don't like him and you don't like he's saying as well. Honestly, I don't understand these people who go around saying so many things against a person instead of just talking to that person and try to settle things quietly. If not, then they should just mind their own business.
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Exactly, I can't phantom the behaviors they are showing to those innocent souls.
@Pegasus72 (1900)
19 Apr 13
Sounds like things are getting heated at your job, try to keep your head, sometimes the one who flies off is the one to lose their job, instead of the person who caused the problems.
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
I agree. I just can bear their wrongful doing.I hope they will change.
@Pegasus72 (1900)
19 Apr 13
Some people never change and you are left wondering why they never grew up.
@celticeagle (122844)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Apr 13
This is your job isn't it? Where were you planning to have this vocal exchange. I would calm down and think it over alittle. What did he do? Is it really worth maybe losing your job over? Are you going to revert to his level just to make yourself feel better? Is it worth it?
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
Hi. Actually, I had concealed my sentiments for quite some time. It is in the job. The people I am working with known his personality. At first, I ignored it. But then, I confronted him since my job will be jeopardized with the actions his doing against me. Though I reported him tomy superior and they are looking forward to consider evaluating his behavior. For me, I think it is worth a try to confront him and no regrets in my part.
• United States
19 Apr 13
Sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn't. I used to complain to my husband that he didn't stick up for himself enough. Some body could accuse him of something and he would never even stick up for himself and tell them he didn't do it.
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
I guess it depends on the personality itself. But then, we should need to defend ourselves in times like this.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
19 Apr 13
Just ignore him and believe me this will make him nuts. These type of people just want the attention of others and they don't deserve a moment of our time.
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
There was a point that I thought about you've said.
@lumenmom (1995)
• United States
19 Apr 13
It is good for you to speak up for yourself. Otherwise the person will continue to do it and you will feel bad holding the anger inside of yourself. Sometimes a confrontation will cause you both to discover what the problem really is and maybe you can resolve it and become friends.
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
I agree. It is not healthy to have an extra buggae from within.
@bestboy19 (5481)
• United States
19 Apr 13
Think it through before you say anything. You don't want your own words to come back to bite you.
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
I am aware of that my friend. I confronted the person in a professional way.
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Nice job, sometimes we need to get out from the shell and be harsh just to stop an annoying nonsense person. Backbiters are insecure type of person and they be avoided because they are negative type of individuals. Your strong and i am pround of you. Confronting a person is a sign of strenght.
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Thanks. I do think that they are against me without looking the bright side of it.
@sbatz72 (17)
• United States
19 Apr 13
Yes, this is where I have made my mistakes in the workplace. I did not speak up for myself. I regret it. I watched all these people who were against me and bad mouthing me go up the chain while I stayed at entry level. You are right to think about yourself. You will likely get a promotion for it.
@Shavkat (75124)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Thanks for the comment. I just felt so unfair being scrutinized by other people.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
26 Apr 13
You just did the right thing for him to shut up. He deserves that and he should now know his lesson. You'r great.
@rubyroy (824)
• India
23 Apr 13
Just tell him facts and say no more nonsense,then be careful in future dealings with this person.
@jenny1015 (13380)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
Do what you think is right. We should never tolerate such kind of people. They should know that what they are doing is hurting us and that it is no way acceptable.
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Hi Shavkat! Sad to hear about that. You know most of the persons who talks behind your back are those that envy you. These people wants to destroy you but just be yourself, go on what your doing. There is a quote i read from a social network site, it goes like this; "Ignore the people who talks behind your back, because it is where they belong, behind your back."
@911Ricki (13591)
• Canada
21 Apr 13
I think this happens in all workplaces, or even in everyday life. You just snap at people.