Age does not matter

@cgalavia (1436)
Philippines
April 22, 2013 3:22am CST
I have an old friend who has a sweetheart but her parents does not like the guy because they think he is still very young.My friend is older than the guy by six years and they used to go out together as secretly as possible.What should they do to prove that age does not matter to those in love with each other?This problem has been troubled to their love affair for over a year now.Please share your advice..
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16 responses
@Kmz059 (652)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Yes, truely age doesn't really matter. My father is 10 years older than my mother. But they fought for their love, they got married and had two children(me and my younger brother) Unfortunately they separated But the relationship of two people depends on them. If your friend really love the guy then they should fight for it.
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@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Hi Kmz, you are right.I often tell this to my friend that if they really love each other rhey should fight for their love and just ignore what other people is saying,what is important is they are happy.This is also very common nowadays,lot of couple got married with a big gap like your parents, they were able to go through.I salute them.They must really love each other.Thank you for the response.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
26 Apr 13
I also think that relationship is more important than age. I think it is good to have good love between your parents.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
26 Apr 13
Age does not matter at all if it were just opposite in age with the guy. I mean, if the guy is six years old than your friend, then there should be no problem at all. In our culture, it is supposed for the guy to be older than the lady and it seems to be natural to people. I think that her parents may be opposed to their love affairs out of this reason?
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@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Hi william,the guy is younger to my friend that's why the parent's of my friend really opposed.I don't know if there is another reason,maybe yes, maybe not.Thank's for the response.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
26 Apr 13
I think age does not matter in true love and marriage. I think there are lots of things that matters more than the age. I think most probably one should also consider how each of them get well after marriage and how much love each other has.
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Your right friend.A lot of matter to worry than the age gap.Thank's for the response .
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
26 Apr 13
I think 6 years is consider the same age group in my opinion . If they are both adult I dont see what is the problem . People should never question love , it can happen to anyone anytime .
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@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
I can agree with you friend.But of course, there are parents who are very protective especially here in the Philippines, this kind of issue triggers a lot to many.It just sometimes there are people who makes things complicated when in fact it isn't. Thank you silver for the response.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
22 Apr 13
relationships where a man is older than the woman are more common and are easily accepted by the family rather than that of your friend. however, if they truly love each other, then time will prove to their families that the diffenrence in their age doesn't matter. the guy might be mature for his age. if her parents trust their daughter, they will soon understand the reason for her choice and will accept him eventually. unfortunately, no amount of arguing over this matter will help. only time will be able to help them.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
I agree. Reasoning with the parents might not really work. They just have to wait for them to accept the situation.
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Hello dagami and beamer, You're both right.Although, the guy is younger to my friend, I can see that the guy is mature, affectionate and thoughtful .What matters is maturity in outlook and in affection to one another.Yeah,time will resolve this issue.Thanks for the response.
@Ashokraj (107)
• India
22 Apr 13
Definitely age does not matter for love life. They love each other from heart and want to live together. They should prove to their parents age doesn't matter for love. For that they should live together with love happily. They should let others know that. All the best friend.
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@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Hi Ash, You are right.Age is an issue of the mind over matter,If you don't mind, It doesnt matter.Thank you for the response.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 13
They must prove their parents that they love each other, and show the world that they love each other, they don't need to see each other secretly, sometimes our parents can detect a serious person if that person is really sincere to his/her intentions, there is always a lot of basis why parents should disagree a particular things specially when their children is involve. Actually i don't think the age here is the issue, the really issue is the guy if is he is stable enough and responsible enough to take care of your friend. Relationship is not easy much more the word "married" or live-in. The good thing your friend can do, is not focus on emotions only, for emotion is not stable, she must consider the practical side. Love can not be eaten when you are hungry, a good relationship or married can be broken when the family suffers hunger. Discontentment, argues, mis-understanding, blaming each other, this things arises when those time comes. Unless the head of the family is eager to support his family no matter what happened, those bad things can be fixed.
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
26 Apr 13
Hi jonas, Well, I have met already the guy and he is really kind and very responsible to his family,He already have a stable job.What they really wanted is to open their relationship and be accepted with the family of the girl.Thank you for the response jonas, your idea helps a lot.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Although I am one of those who never count younger guys my age (maybe a year or two is fine- but beyond that limit)I don't judge those women who prefer to love younger guys than they are. Love is not about age, race, culture or religion. So, there is nothing wrong about age gap as long as they love each other.
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Hello jaiho, You are right.People can't help who they fall in love with.It just happen.Thank you for the response.
@Camylo57 (86)
• India
25 Apr 13
Well! cgalavia, all that I can respond is by saying that, Love and Age is a matter that exists in the Human mind. Then the question arises, "What is Mind ? I would say, " Never Mind" because Love cannot be described. Well the answer may sound funny, but is not Life so?
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
26 Apr 13
Hi Camy, It maybe funny but we have a different perception about love. Thank's for the response.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
28 Apr 13
I think it depends on her age and his age. As long as he doesn't seem like he will go through any major life changes. Sometimes when a person is young they decide in a few years that what they thought they wanted out of life isn't what they really want. Which that can affect the goals, and things of the couple. So as long as they know they will be heading at least in a similar direction in life then they should continue to work it out.
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Hello dominique, What you said can be also another option to do best in their relationship.Thank's for the response.
• India
30 Apr 13
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, if they both are in real love , then age is not a great factor. Hope your friend's parents will realize this fact. As you mentioned they both are meeting secretly and have fun with each other, it clearly shows that they are interested in making a strong relationship. The parents must understand their feelings and reject the age factor
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Hello friend,Yup, I can see that their relationship are so strong.I am hoping too,My parents friend will soon to realize this.Thank's for the response.
• Indonesia
24 Apr 13
Although age really doesn’t matter for love life. It seems that the parents doesn’t agree because the man is younger than the woman. Usually if the man older it’s more commonly accepted than if it’s reverse. Your friend can fight over their love and if they truly love each other. Other people’s opinion shouldn’t matter.
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
26 Apr 13
Hi random, I think the issue here is not the guy being younger to my friend, What's important is they really love each other.Many couple have succeeded in their relationship despite of the age gap.Yes,fight for love. Thank's for the participation random
• India
30 Apr 13
well, really age is not the matter if the one who is younger is enough mature to understand .... sometimes the partner who is much older also can be a problem of not understanding and not having enough maturity.. but if they are both mature then age can not be a matter.. I hope that their parents come to know about that he is enough mature ....
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Their parents will soon to realize this issue.Thank's for the response.
@nixx_04 (20)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Yeah, age really doesn't matter.But this depends on the case, coz for example, if the girl is at age 23 and the guy is only 16.If I were the mother of the guy I would do the same thing too.
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
That make sense nixx. Thank you for the response friend.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Age gaps shouldn't be an issue in any relationship. But it may however bring about some challenges especially if they are surrounded by close-minded people. Sad to say that there are still those who frown on relationships where the guy is too old for the girl or like in your friend's situation, the girl is older than the guy. Personally, if they are both of legal age, they do not need to prove anything. I mean, it's their lives, and if the parents truly love and respect their daughter, then they should just be supportive of her
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Precisely beamer. Besides,Age is just a number and love have no boundaries.Thanks for the response.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
22 Apr 13
I think 6 years is not that severe age gap.. I think parents are just like that..but I think they should wait until the parents finally accept their relationship.. but they should not stop showing to the parents that the guy is serious and sincere with his intention to the girl..
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Hi ctto, Your point is right.the guy must communicate properly with the parents,expressing his thoughtfulness and care.Parent's heart must be won by a true love.Thanks for the response.