Family matters

@SomeCowgirl (32191)
United States
April 27, 2013 2:35pm CST
I am so tired of the if I don't get it it don't get done attitude around here. I guess it's really my attitude though. Family has gone to a birthday party and I took the time to do some cleaning. I found the kitchen table again, that darn thing has been lost for awhile. Threw out some food that had been bad for a few weeks now, and if I don't throw the bad food out then it doesn't get done. It's up to me and one other person, and I guess the other person doesn't want to risk getting yelled at. For me, I dont' care if I get yelled at. I know it was bad food and I know it wouldn't be fit to eat, and that is that. If they suddenly remember it being in there and want to yell at me, so be it. It's their perrogative. It's mine to not listen to it. Just frustrated with all that needs to be done, and me being the only one to do it.
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21 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
28 Apr 13
I can relate to how you feel. I often feel that way. I'm the only one who does all that needs to get done at my house. And I do get frustrated when I have to pick up after my husband when it's not that difficult to put your plate in the sink, or put your clothes in the basket. I feel like I already do a lot so doing those things shouldn't be such a big deal for him. But like you said if you don't do then it won't get done. Clothes would pile up on floors, and dishes would just start being stacked up on the kitchen table. Sorry to hear that you have to deal with all that. Sometimes no matter how much we talk about helping out or what needs to be done it will often always be us doing it.
• United States
28 Apr 13
oh I forgot to add you should look into the Flylady website. It has great tips for getting organized with our homes,life daily throughout the week. It has helped me a great deal when I have often felt overwhelmed about my responsibilities.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
28 Apr 13
I really wish that you could move as you are so unhappy there and seem to take so much flak from the other family members. They don't appear to appreciate all that you have done and all that hyou are doing. I am so sorry my dear friend and just wish that things would change in your life
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
28 Apr 13
To be quite honest, I haven't done nearly what I should. Part of it is because there is so much and I feel overwhelmed by it. Part of it is because I don't know where to begin. The only thing that really bothers me is that it's like no one cares if the bathroom is dirty, or that we can't close the door all the way. They got used to it, and now I have to as well.
@marsha32 (6637)
• United States
22 Sep 16
Just checking around on old familiar "faces". I see you've not been here in some time. Maybe you might come back some day too. I'm sure glad that I did!
@dawnald (84852)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Apr 13
Tell them you ate it.
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Most of the ladies at home do this chore. I myself experience this thing and yes, I have to do it no matter what other people in the house react. I do not know but I am also annoyed every time I see long leftover in the table or in the fridge. And yes, if I will not do the task, it will stay there until I will. That is life..something to accept when living with anyone or someone. We wish everyone in the house will have the initiative so to keep home clean and healthy.
@Pegasus72 (1900)
28 Apr 13
I am glad you are cleaning and that you got rid of food that could make someone sick. I hope that you will be treated better in the days ahead.
@GardenGerty (149167)
• United States
28 Apr 13
I feel that way at work and at home both. I also have a table that has gone missing. Hubby feels compelled to cover up any flat surface.
• United States
28 Apr 13
Some people would rather deal with getting sick with food poisoning, I guess, than to throw out old food. You, on the other hand, take care of such minor details. I mean, who wouldn't want to take I'll by eating bad food? Your family owes you for being so concentious!
@sid556 (30962)
• United States
28 Apr 13
I know just what you mean! I have a daughter that is extremely cluttery. She and my 2 yr old grandson have been staying with me for several months now due to financial troubles. I understand the 2 yr olds little messes but I don't mind helping pick them up at all but it isn't just him. She has ALWAYS been a clutter bug. A couple months back her story was that the apartment we were in was too small and we were moving anyway. Now we are in a new and more spacious apartment and I would love it to look nice for more than a minute or two. She has a lot on her plate and I understand that she gets overtired but geez...enough is enough. We get into spats over the clutter which is not confined to just her room. To her credit, she does spend a lot of time in an attempt to organize things but then she runs out of time before it is finished and then it gets worse and then she tries again the next day...it never ever reaches the point of looking organized. The baby shares my room and I sleep on the couch so my room is a mess. Oh geez...I'm getting irritated just writing about it but you get the picture...I do understand. If I had a solution for you...I'd offer it up. I do not.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
28 Apr 13
I am glad I am single and live alone! I don't have to deal with stuff like this! I don't get yelled out when bad food needs to be thrown out and for not cleaning the place! Sure those things get done but they get done when I want them to be done! I don't have the stress like you! I would go nuts if I did!
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
I think household chores should never be counted nor be ignored by all members of the family. We should just do it heartily in order to avoid troubles or awful discussions with the other members especially with our parents.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
I second to that! It's hard to be doing it all the time but somebody has to do it. All they can do is at least the effort that we made.
• India
28 Apr 13
i just understand your condition, and you really sounds in trouble. But let me tell you it's always usual in this freaking world. I too faces these conditions many times. even though i'm a bachelor so it doesn't matter for me now, but a time would come when I'll also be seeking the perfection inside me, thats what we live for....
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
I am living with my friend and we are only two at the boarding house. I am not the type of a person who cleans everyday as I am not a messy type one. But, sometimes, my friend get annoyed with me as I just left my dishes unwashed and leave the house going for work. I was already late and I did not have enough time to finish it and so I just leave it there until it was a habit. I knew my friend got upset on me and so now I am trying to get up early and will finish all the things that should be done before going for work.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 13
When I lived with my ex, my ex wasn't house-trained at all and I was forever picking up after them, they would leave clothes on the floor, dirty plates on the coffee table, I would spend all my time cleaning up, I know my partner worked and I didn't but that didn't mean they couldn't do their bit, they were the most untidiest person I have ever lived with, it got frustrating, especially when we had guests, my ex would get into a right flap that everything wasn't done to their perfection, when it was me getting everything prepared!
@celticeagle (142588)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 13
I can certainly understand your frustration. And bad food can make them sick. No, you sure don't have to listen to it. You are all adults aren't you? They should understand the situation with bad food. Sounds like quite an undertaking you have ahead and too bad you don't have any help with it.
• United States
28 Apr 13
I know the feeling very well. I do all the housecleaning myself because Randy and my brother will not help. I have done everything to get them to help me out including making a chart of who does what and that gets ignored. I hope that you will be able to move out someday and be able to do the things you want to do. As much as I love my Randy and my brother I wish they would help me out. Just keeping helping out.
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 13
I went through the same kind of thing when I lived with my family, my parents were so picky about how things were done so I was always worried about doing things the way they wanted them done. It was a LOT of pressure all the time. Now that I live with my husband I already know my husband won't do anything around the house so I do everything...
@mariaperalta (19074)
• Mexico
27 Apr 13
You sound like 911ricki, you need to get out of that house. I would never put up with that stuff. You need peace. Have a great sat. there.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
27 Apr 13
i remember when i was younger and working away from my province. i would go home for a month each year. the first thing i'd do was clean the house from top to bottom. my parents weren't dirty and they had someone coming over to help with the laundry and other household chores but somehow this didn't satisfy me. i would srub the house clean and while i was at it, i would also rant continiously on how and why they allowed the house to stay dirty, etc. etc. my parents were used to me and they didn't mind. however, my dad did tell me once, "if you don't like doing it, don't do it. nobody's telling you to do it." there are always things to do in the house. the chores are never ending. just do the important ones today and let the others wait until tomorrow. don't push yourself too hard.