Time for a little catching up

@GardenGerty (136412)
United States
July 21, 2015 2:23pm CST
The entire last eleven months of my life seem to have revolved around my older sister. Her living situation had deteriorated and she called me wanting to go into an apartment. None available, so she lived with me. She is her own unique self, and has no real friends. She has a lot of negativity. She still wants to boss me around. I quit a job both because it was hard to keep up with her and keep up at a job. So currently I am out of work. Hubby and I want to move. She does not like the looks of the new town, so we are leaving her here. There is, thankfully, an apartment available and she is kind of excited about having her own place. That is a good thing. I have helped her get the kind of medical care she needs, I have learned a lot about getting stents in arteries and diabetes, etc. She is the only sister I have left, and I do love her. I will like her a whole lot better when she is in her own place. So that pretty well covers the last year of my life. She moves out next week
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• China
22 Jul 15
Sounds she can take care of herself .Sorry ,You have resigned from charity where you had experienced in attending to handicapped people.
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@GardenGerty (136412)
• United States
23 Jul 15
I allowed myself to end up working too much, many extra hours for many days and weeks at a time. It made me physically ill, so I tried a job change but left it quickly to care for my sister. There were some weeks we went four days to different doctors.
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• China
23 Jul 15
@GardenGerty Oh ,I see.We should put health before everything .
@ElicBxn (61189)
• United States
22 Jul 15
I said for years that I loved my brother a whole lot more when he lived a few hundred miles away from me. I don't much like him most of the time. I do like his "new" girlfriend, even though he's had her for a while.
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@GardenGerty (136412)
• United States
22 Jul 15
My brother comments that my sister has made bad choices all her life and now she is paying the consequences. Sad.
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@Polly1 (12646)
• United States
21 Jul 15
Imagine my surprise when I logged into mylot and you were the first person I saw. Good to see you..As for my opinion, good luck with everything. I have had house apes before. I used that term to see some humor in the situation or I would have gone nuts. You love your family doesn't mean you have to always like them. Hope with the move, that you both get to get your sister closeness back. Its so hard to live with someone or have someone live with you....
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@GardenGerty (136412)
• United States
21 Jul 15
Hi @Polly1 I will go check and make sure I am still following you. Having her here at the time was the right thing to do, but it was hard on hubby as well. Truth is, sometimes it is even hard to live with a spouse.
@inertia4 (28171)
• United States
22 Jul 15
Sometimes siblings can be overbearing. I know that myself. My brother is pretty much OCD. And believe me, that drive me nuts. I get frustrated right away and then I go off. So, it is a good thing that she is on her own.
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@GardenGerty (136412)
• United States
23 Jul 15
We get along okay, but I really suppress some of my anger or anxiety with her. She has lived in many abusive relationships and sometimes is very sensitive. I believe I have helped her to come a long way this year.
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@inertia4 (28171)
• United States
23 Jul 15
@GardenGerty Abusive relationships can damage a person for sure. I understand. Well, as long as you are a good support system for her.
• South Africa
22 Jul 15
It's time for your sister to be on her own, to learn some responsibility. If you feel you've done enough to carry her around, well you have. Keep the love for your sister and always keep in touch with her as a way of continuing to show your love to her.
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@GardenGerty (136412)
• United States
23 Jul 15
I will always care for her, and I will still help her with her medical appointments. She is seventy years old and this is the first she has ever gotten to make some of these choices.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
21 Jul 15
Sometimes the closest of families can be your worst enemies
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@GardenGerty (136412)
• United States
21 Jul 15
She is nine years older, and a half sister, but she is mine, and I try to be good to her.
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• United States
21 Jul 15
the saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder" really does ring true in most cases. Good for you for helping her out, and also good for you that she is going to be in her own space and you will have your own space back....a new space even....good luck on your move!!
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@GardenGerty (136412)
• United States
21 Jul 15
If everything goes as we would want I should have quite a bit to write about.
@cupkitties (7439)
• United States
22 Jul 15
I love my siblings better when they're not here. Especially my baby brother who likes eating all our food as if we buy it just for him. Speaking of bossy sisters, my sister is also bossy as well as her daughter and my older daughter. Can you imagine three bossy people in the house together? lol
@GardenGerty (136412)
• United States
23 Jul 15
That would be frustrating. Grown up women need to be in charge of their own space.
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