Would you call this consideration?

@vandana7 (98823)
India
October 8, 2015 11:59pm CST
Seriously. Sometimes human beings shock me out of my wits. My new maid's son underwent appendicitis operation. This happened about 4 days ago. They have had 30 visitors since then. Now my new maid is so exhausted with hospital duties and guests most of who stay overnight that she is sick! But this is not something that is exclusively associated with maids though they have larger families. Even rich folks get one visitor too many when they are sick. What more, the person who is sick sort of keeps a register in mind who visited them and did not when they were sick. lol You tell me whether you would like to rest or greet folks? You tell me whether you would like your care giver to get rest or spend time giving something or the other to visitors? I mean height of it...I give up ...I am an alien.
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
9 Oct 15
There's definitely a fine line between too much and not enough. You'd think all the visitors would make it their duty to relieve her load a little, not add to it.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
9 Oct 15
Funny, how people don't realize that they are adding to the problem. It is double draining of resources for the poor lady. After all, she has to cook for all of them. I would rather organize a round of sending food over so that the lady is relieved. Local relatives should be doing that.
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
9 Oct 15
@vandana7 I think where I live people would consider it a duty to help the carer all they could. That's my experience, anyway.
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
9 Oct 15
@vandana7 a sad state of affairs
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 15
It's nice to know that people care to visit you when you're sick, but...staying overnight? I'm not sure I'd be comfortable with that.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
9 Oct 15
Mother in law, mother in law's mother, husband's brother, brother's wife, the list gets longer with her family and distant cousins as well.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
10 Oct 15
@cahaya1983 ..yeah hospital bills would mount too.
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 15
@vandana7 I'd probably take a little longer to recover in that case.
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@buddha3 (1026)
• India
9 Oct 15
It's the same in other circumstances as well. When we know that someone has lost the job or failed in a relationship, but we are very eager to contact them in such situations on the pretext of providing consolation!! I personally feel that unless you are too close to that person, you should refrain from doing it. Maybe after a considerable length of time, you may take up the issue to know what really happened.
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@buddha3 (1026)
• India
9 Oct 15
@vandana7 Hihi :D Don't embarrass Indians here :P I'm sure others are considerate enough :P
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
9 Oct 15
@buddha3 ..the idea is not to insult or embarrass but to make people realize how they are perceived and where they should stop to think and be a little sensitive.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
9 Oct 15
I hate it after people visit somebody at the hospital, they come out and make plans to go for movies, or shopping. Wow, that is what I call caring. Right?
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
10 Oct 15
I would rather not accept visitors when hospitalized. It is not a party afterall. Having too many visitors won't give me rest and would be burdensome to my husband who of course would stay with me.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
10 Oct 15
Exactly my thought. Usually, patient has little sleep because of pain or fever. Either confirm whether he or she is awake and then go in, or don't bother. There is a nice way to send a card through nurses too.
@sofssu (23662)
9 Oct 15
Haha that is love gone wild.. LOL I hate people coming to see me when I sick for one.. and I hate to talk when I am tired.. No thanks .. I'd rather die alone.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
9 Oct 15
Couldn't agree more on that. lol
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@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
9 Oct 15
I know that people visit because they want to show they care, but too much is definitely not pleasant for those who are sick.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
9 Oct 15
Or those who are caregivers.
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@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
11 Oct 15
Yeah, we are just too socialized and feel entitled to drain the host... I am pretty nasty when I am sick, and mind you I am nasty with relatives anyway, so it would not be good for them to come visit me. Recently I had a very bad patch and someone came... I am going to pay for my conduct in upcoming family function I think! If it's not me who's sick then I don't know how I would end this influx. Quite mild that way.
@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
9 Oct 15
In a case like that you expect immediate family and maybe some of the son's friends. Sick people are best left to rest. Send a nice card, make a phone call, buy them a crossword puzzle book or a video game to while away the time. But stay home and let them heal.
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@marguicha (215402)
• Chile
9 Oct 15
Sick people should have a small amount of visitors or they will wear the ill person down
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Oct 15
A phone call is good many a times. If not, and I can visit, I will definitely go during visiting hours and return back to home (if in my town). In case I am in their town, I would prefer to stay at either the Hotels or even at some one else's place (if anyone is willing). I offered my cousin and his father that I would stay at the Hospital one night and they could stay at my place, when my aunt was ailing and misdiagnosed to have some brain tumor (and if your recall, that was about 3 years back).
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
11 Oct 15
This seems to be a cultural thing. The people from Southern European countries who live in Germany get many more vivitors when they're ill than Germans. When I was in hospital, I wanted to see nobody besides my husband and a close friend.
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
9 Oct 15
Most hospitals would try to restrict the number of visitors for the sake of the patient but it's not so easy for them to keep the mother in mind.
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