Do you have friends who never call you but then moan you don't call them enough?

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I'm not the easiest of people to get hold of because I travel so much so generally I tend to be the person who instigates phone calls more than the person who receives them. That doesn't bother me too much - I'm quite happy to have the control over when I speak to people that's lost if you're the one who gets called. BUT it does leave me a bit miffed if those people get moany that I don't call often enough. I'm still in contact with my neighbours from either side of me on the street where I had my first house. Andrea is 80 at the end of this month and is older than my mum but more like my big sister. If I ever had a problem, she's the one I'd go to. She's an ex-nursing sister and she's had a colourful life. The other, Geraldine is about 10 years younger and is always unhappy and always complaining I ring Andrea roughly once a month. She's easy to talk to and always seems happy to hear from me. Geraldine I ring maybe once every 3 months. I should call more but it's hard - she's always so bloody miserable. She's driven her whole family away from her so she's very needy. Andrea has to keep quiet about hearing from me because Geraldine gets jealous and moans to her that I don't call often enough. Andrea just asks her "How often do YOU call?" and the answer is that she doesn't. I would call more often if I didn't feel that I was just going to be made to feel bad about not calling more often or if just once in a while I didn't have to instigate everything. Do you have friends you find hard to call more often?