Tolerance to retain family ties

Oh - I could tell you an eyeful about my parents and how they decided to do away with their own siblings - and they came from big families! But sparing the details, they were not tolerant of their siblings and cut them off while the others did keep united for the sake of "family". Me, I only have one sibling - and there have been a few incidents where she has overstepped the boundaries - but not what I would exactly call a wrongdoing. It's not worth splitting a family over - or perhaps I am more tolerant than my parents were.

It's hard to reply, because it depends about who did what, for which reason and the gravity of the fact.

I think it depends on how you want to handle the scenario and what is your relationship with one who is doing things wrong. In my context, I do not care anyone beyond my wife and then my brother and then my parents. Beyond them, if anyone tries doing wrong, and it is serious wrong, I will have no issues to cut off the ties. Learned it the hard way, but that is it today. I have severed relations with almost everyone else in the family, just because they did not stand by me or even had the time to call me up and ask about my being, when I was on the bed for those 8 months in 2008. And yes, as I said, I did learn it the hard way. But now, there is no issue

For me , i won;t tolerate wrongdoings just as my father won't too . In ourfamily , if you err big time , you will be whipped by our father on your butt with his belt , when we were still children . I am glad we were raised that way , because no one got wayward .

Each family is unique in the way they bond together. As far as I'm concerned family ties are held together by love, rather than by what any one member may do or not do in their lives. I wouldn't support major wrongdoings, but can accept deviations from the norm.

It's difficult to answer your question as there are many degrees of wrongdoing. I'm lucky in that my family is close and we all love each other.

I can't tolerate wrong doings. I always make sure anyone who commits wrong is exposed and restrained from doing the same no matter what it will cost.

the feud with my sister has already strained past breaking point sadly - we haven't spoken in five years despite my efforts to compromise

It really does depend on what the wrong doing is. If it's just annoying then I simply dismiss it. If it's something that is harmful then I will not care much if it causes the family to break up what's the point to being united if it's not healthy.

It would entirely depend on the circumstances before I would split my family apart for wrong-doings. It would have to be a most intolerable situation. Lucky I don't have to chose because my family is strongly united

When my mother passed away of cancer, two of my sisters couldn't wait to invade her home even though my mom had willed the house to my brother (who still lived there). He was a wuss and let them sell everything in it and one of the sisters moved in. The stress caused my brother to have 2 heart attacks @allknowing . They threw most of her valuable belongings in a dumpster. I hate those 2 sisters.

It depends on what you mean by wrongdoing? To be intolerant for minor infractions will only work to tear the family apart completely in the long run.

Well, if they are criminals I might want to keep them out of my home and just stay away from them altogether. I will put up with a lot of annoying behaviour to have everyone get together.