Had to Un-Follow a Person Today

@poehere (15227)
French Polynesia
November 26, 2015 4:12pm CST
I am so sad that I had to un-follow a person today. This is the first time I ever had to do this. But this person left me no other choice. I was sure that everyone who had wanted to follow me kept tabs on what I had written and posted here. However, I guess this person decided to ignore a few of my discussion. How unfortunate for them. I have posted a discussion on here about flooding the sites with one post after another. I know many people read this, agreed with me, and left a lot of comments behind. In my eyes it was what you could consider a semi-popular post. Well anyhow here is my sad story. I have been rather busy lately trying to set up some new websites and blogs for people. I came on here late and wanted to catch up on my reading. The first place I checked was People. I wanted to see what the people I follow had written lately. WOW Simple Amazing – this page was filled with 1 person who had flooded my People’s page with 20 Discussions. Yes my friends 20. I answered one but then was faced with way too many and it was making it difficult to find other people’s work. I had no other choice but to go to this person’s page and click on that nasty little button called Un-follow. So guys and gals please let this be a warning. I am tired of being flooded with tons of your discussions one right after another. Any person whom I follow and do this to me again I regret that I will Un-Follow you. I am so sorry but you leave me no other choice. Image - personal image
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55 responses
@SIMPLYD (90852)
• Philippines
27 Nov 15
That's okay . You have to do what you think will un-stress you . [
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@vandana7 (91549)
• India
27 Nov 15
I have been blocked by somebody, and to be honest, it felt bad.
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@SIMPLYD (90852)
• Philippines
27 Nov 15
@vandana7 Don't feel that way , because you are not alone . And to think that i haven't done anything bad to that person . Anyway , i don't let it bother me . I still have you and the others .
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@SIMPLYD I never did this before. I hope I won't need to do it again. I like to be friends with all and I never block anyone from my stuff. I don't feel a need to do this one. I just got mad when I was flooded with stuff that is all.
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@Hatley (163984)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Nov 15
a d it definitely was notmje as I am having mouse trouble so can only do a couple which puts me behind but I am waiting form y son to come with a new mouse.
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@vandana7 (91549)
• India
27 Nov 15
I know what it is like Hatley. I am going through some myself though not as bad as your mouse.
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@pahak627 (4548)
• Philippines
27 Nov 15
Hope your mouse will be replaced soon patsie so that you will be more comfortable doing mylot. I know it's hard having problems with a mouse.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
Having problems with a mouse is horrible. I think it is the worst. I personally try not to do too many posts in a day. I did one yesterday and thought I wouldn't do one today. But after seeing this I had to do one today too.
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@GardenGerty (147295)
• United States
26 Nov 15
Love your image. After a time I think the people who overwhelm us give up and leave as they get little interaction and do not earn for what they are doing.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
Thank you so much. My boyfriend and I were sitting on the beach at sunset with the dogs. I had my camera with us this night. We sat and played music and let the dogs swim in the lagoon. I took this then. During the longer days here on the islands we spend a lot of time on the beach watching the sunset. I'm not sure if they will leave quickly or stick around. They are sot of new here and I have tried to get them to understand this one isn't a wise move. But anyhow it is best to not bother and hit the little stop follow button and move on. First time I have ever done this one.
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@inertia4 (28111)
• United States
27 Nov 15
I understand what you needed to do. And I agree. I normally write maybe one post a day, sometimes less. If I were to write more in one day it might be about two. I think writing post after post is way too much. Is it wrong, probably not, but it does flood the page and make it hard for others. Moderation I say.
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@allknowing (105338)
• India
27 Nov 15
Bad enough because of time zone our posts get buried and with so many posts by one person we stand no chance being visible
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@inertia4 (28111)
• United States
27 Nov 15
@poehere I will probably post a mother one today at some point. I haven't posted one in a few days. So, I think the time is right. Lets just do what we do and enjoy ourselves.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
You are so right. If you look I do the same. I sometimes don't even post at all in one day. But I did post 1 yesterday and 1 today. Who knows what tomorrow will bring maybe none at all.
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@yukimori (9786)
• United States
26 Nov 15
If the person you're referring to happens to be who I believe it is, I'm not sure that reading (or even responding to!) your post would have made any difference. I've seen many posts where a small portion of the discussion is replied to, but the main point is completely ignored. I actually ended up unfollowing almost everyone I was following last week simply because I couldn't keep up with the page. I still need to go through and follow several more people again. Maybe this time around I'll be able to manage it better. I'd end up doing the same as you if someone I followed got that carried away. I just don't see the value in posting just for the sake of creating a post. I'd rather follow users who create a few really great topics once in a while than those who vent every single thought that crosses their minds here.
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@jstory07 (124645)
• Roseburg, Oregon
27 Nov 15
@poehere I have never posted twenty that is way to many in a day.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@jstory07 I can see 20 in 8 to 10 days but never 20 one right after another. I try to keep mine down and it might take me between 10 to 20 days to reach 20 posts.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
Personally I might post 1 maybe 2 in one day but I would never post 20. Some people I follow can or might post 3 or 4 which is fantastic because they are well spaced out. I don't find all of them at once and I get to see stuff from others. There is maybe 3 or 4 people here that do this and I normally don't follow them at all. I followed this one because they didn't post a lot. Then all of a sudden ti was bombing and flooding the site. I had to give up and just walk away.
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@yalul070 (1715)
• Manila, Philippines
27 Nov 15
It's okay. I'm just wondering. You said you responded to one of that person's 20 posts. Did this person even reply to your comment?
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@yalul070 (1715)
• Manila, Philippines
27 Nov 15
@poehere oh dear, they're here. I only hope that the admins here are quick enough to wipe them off myLot.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@yalul070 I guess I have been quite lucky lately to not have run into any of them. I hope they stay away from me because I don't like people like this.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
NO he did not. That is what made me even anger on this one. I think they just do this and I am finding out a lot of them are copied and pasted off other parts of the Internet. So now I can see why it is so quick for them to post here on this site.
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@Asylum (47930)
• Manchester, England
26 Nov 15
It would come as no surprise to me if the majority of that person's followers have done exactly the same. The whole idea of checking the discussions link under People is so that we can track what is being written, but that level of posting would simply bury the rest.
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@Asylum (47930)
• Manchester, England
27 Nov 15
@poehere Yes, it totally destroys the filtering system. I suspect that they may have become disillusioned due to poor success of their post and tried to compensate with numbers. Of course we both know that the best approach is to try to interact more.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@Asylum Yes if you don't see your earning increasing like you want then get busy and start to respond and comment on other posts. This will get you so much further and increase your stuff so much faster than adding so many post to the system ques.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
Yah exactly. I always go there to check on this section so I can comment on some of the stuff people write that I follow. I followed them at first because they didn't do this. Then all of a sudden it was almost a daily thing with them. So enough is enough and I need to not be bothered with this sort of flooding and hiding the rest of what people write on the site.
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@vandana7 (91549)
• India
27 Nov 15
Oh..recently I vowed not to start any discussions but have promoted myself to outlaw status. That allows me to hijack the discussions, and take them in any direction I want leaving pilot no choice whatsoever, and passengers petrified. Seriously, the first paragraph made me suspect whether you were talking about me. I haven't been interacting as much as I would like to.
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• Philippines
27 Nov 15
@Vandana7 but some don't like it when you don't 'stick to the topic'. also, why is it that some of us, when we read someone talking about other mylotters' way of mylotting, our first thought is, uh-oh, was it me?
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@hereandthere You know to me it is fine if we go off topic. As long as it adds to the conversation and we are both in sync with each other. But to jump in and change it from the beginning is not so cool. I would rather let it flow as the comment star to progress.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
That is excellent. I like to do that too. Now and then I do have something to say so I speak up and say it like today.
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@Bluedoll (16823)
• Canada
26 Nov 15
Wasn't me I can't post that many, too busy. I would if I were you not put down your post about flooding because I thought it was very good as it did get lots of discussion. I made a religious post but put a big God in the title so it can be easily spotted. If I ever do decide to post heavy don't hesitate to unfollow me because I totally understand your concerns.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
26 Nov 15
No do not worry please. I would never do this to you. You are not a person who could flood a site with your posts. Besides I do enjoy reading your when I can find the to read them all. I have been busy lately and had a lot going on so I have less time to come here and read so much. A lot of time when I do get a chance my notifications are flooded and I should answer people back first. I try to do a few then read and come back. So please don't worry I have never seen this from you. After I posted this one on flooding the site most of them all stopped. I was shocked this one guy didn't and I have over looked it twice but a third time is not possible.
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@vandana7 (91549)
• India
27 Nov 15
It was not me either...I can either type 10 posts (god knows from where I will get those topics) or visit others posts and make friends. Honestly, more variety helps to keep my mood better. So I am definitely not going to post unless the US President Obama sends me a frantic message to do so.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@vandana7 I agree. It doesn't take that much to think of someone now and then. I found out these people aren't posting their original work. They are posing stuff copied and pasted off the Internet. That is why they can do this so fast.
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@valmnz (17283)
• New Zealand
27 Nov 15
I'm about to unfollow one because of their consistently rude comments that I can't be bothered with
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@valmnz (17283)
• New Zealand
27 Nov 15
@poehere it doesn't really worry me, if they want to waste their time being rude, that is their perrogative. I don't mind others seeing how rude they are.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
I personally don't accept this either. You might need to block and unfollow at the same time then they can't comment on your work anymore.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@valmnz Yes I can understand this one. I just hate it when a person does this to me. I can see why you no longer want to be their friend.
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@softbabe44 (5823)
• Vancouver, Washington
27 Nov 15
I can see what you're saying I wouldn't go for that either it just doesn't make any sense why others do that.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
I already gave 2 chances and posted on here about excessive posting one after another you'd think they'd get a clue. Bit guess what they didn't and so now I can't follow a person like this. It is sad to say but 3 chances is 1 too many,
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@vandana7 (91549)
• India
27 Nov 15
@poehere ...for the record, I come here, and like I am doing now, using your post to keep in touch with people, you will invariably get notices. If you do so, would that be annoying? I need to know that..as it can annoy some.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@vandana7 Notices don't annoy me at all. I just get annoyed when I want to read some good stuff from people I follow and I can't find it because one of them bombed me with tons of his posts. Then I am annoyed and stop following them. First time a person really annoyed me though and it's the first time I did this one.
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@maggs224 (2332)
• Alicante, Spain
27 Nov 15
I have never had to un-follow anyone yet, but I can see how that would be irritating and un-following does seem like a good way to sort the problem out :D
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@vandana7 (91549)
• India
27 Nov 15
I agree.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
No other choice and it was a hard decision to make. But I have tried to point this out ever so nicely and even left really nice helpful comments. but when they don't take advice and keep it up then the time had to come and I needed to do this.
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@troyburns (1405)
• New Zealand
27 Nov 15
How on earth does anyone flood the system with 20 posts unless they are a) plagiarizing someone else's work or b) writing three lines of drivel for each post. It really doesn't sound as though this person has much of a clue how things work here.
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@vandana7 (91549)
• India
27 Nov 15
I was wondering about that too. I have such a problem in typing. May be they come up with three or four liner posts.
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@vandana7 (91549)
• India
27 Nov 15
@poehere ..that explains it, does it not. My mind runs faster than my fingers so it is such a mismatch.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@vandana7 I found out tonight that a few people are copying and pasting stuff off the Internet to here. This is how they can do it. I read some comments about this and how they have said what these people have done. I was sort of shocked but I saw a few others who have been here a long time explain it too.
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@anh101 (1379)
27 Nov 15
will it be me?
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@vandana7 (91549)
• India
27 Nov 15
Not at all. You are such a sweet person. Problem is, I can become diabetic.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
No my no it won't be you. I did not unfollow you. are sweet and don't fill my pages with tons and tons of post one right after another. Please do not worry I am not unfollowing you.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@vandana7 Already told you it wasn't you either.
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@sofssu (23726)
27 Nov 15
There are some here who write so many discussions but never respond or comments on what others write. I have noticed a few like that here. when you unfollow someone they will not know that you have done so.. they are not notified of that.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
This one is nice. I hate to do this but time like this call for drastic measure. I too notice this. I really try hard to find stuff others write because it does interest me. I might not comment on all the discussions but I do comment on ones I like and read. But that is what this site is all about.
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• Canada
27 Nov 15
20 does seem a little excessive.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
I had to agree and I was sort of tired to see this all the time so now I don't need to see it again. I am no longer following them and so I am now happy.
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@OneOfMany (12187)
• United States
27 Nov 15
I have trouble committing time to 1 post a day here, especially this month, let alone 20. Rapid-fire posts are not a good way to make you popular here.
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@OneOfMany (12187)
• United States
27 Nov 15
@poehere Well I don't have that problem lately, my posts barely get any comments these days because of my level of inactivity. I'm slowly growing out of the writing site era, simply because there's no profit in it. It's more a social thing anymore.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
I have a hard time too. Especially when you post a new one and some of the ones you posted a few days before keep getting a lot of comments on them still.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@OneOfMany Yes you are right here you won't make a living and this is more social than anything else.
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@Inlemay (17741)
• South Africa
27 Nov 15
that is all your prerogative - you choose whom you want here or not, but remember CHAT do make the $
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@Inlemay (17741)
• South Africa
27 Nov 15
@poehere well done then
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
Yes I know this one. But I am finding out I made the right choice. It appears a few people are cheating and copying and pasting stuff to the site. The one I stop following was caught for this and I think all of those posts were deleted anyhow. So I don't feel bad anymore for my decision.
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@MALUSE (69115)
• Germany
27 Nov 15
In my opinion you're taking things too seriously. If you feel molested by a member, it's ok to unfollow them. I don't think this needs an apology from your part.
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@boiboing (13167)
• Northampton, England
27 Nov 15
@poehere Did you sent the member a message to say what you'd done and why? They're more likely to learn from that rather than a post that they probably won't read.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
I just want to be nice when I tell others that this isn't the way to go. I guess when I say I'm sorry it isn't really an apology but me feeling sorry for people who just don't understand and get it. You try to help, you give advice, and then in the end all of it seems like wasted time. So the best solution is to pass these few people by and move on to more deserving friends.
• United States
15 Dec 15
@boiboing thoughtful advice.
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@birjudanak (14362)
• India
27 Nov 15
oh sometimes we dont know on our post what they talking if you hurt from it you can block that people because same happened with me while by mistakely i had block one person and i dont know when it and why,so when he post discussion i responses him by feeling interesting topic and he just post by bad word in other discussion by taking my name and said you not got money for it.also say me stupid,so i complain admin and admin has deleted his post from his discussion.i then i felt that thing is done by me mistakely is actually right because he loose his patient then i also loose my too.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
I don't block people because normally they are all so nice to me. I just had to stop following this person so I could find stuff from other people and read it. I didn't want all there posts blocking and over taking my pages.
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@poehere (15227)
• French Polynesia
27 Nov 15
@birjudanak Yes if people insulted me I would block them for sure.
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@birjudanak (14362)
• India
27 Nov 15
@poehere ok its your decisions but my one is felt that he is insulting me so admin say you can block him so you cant see him and you go ahead,even admin said me that he you bad language there for he is deleting post and thats why admin here.
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