He Pushes My Buttons
@just4him (305367)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
December 13, 2015 1:37pm CST
I wasn't home from church long before my oldest showed up. He didn't have anywhere to go because all his friends weren't up yet.
So he's watching TV and we get into an argument. A short while later, we get into another. By then he was leaving. At that point he said, "I've p----- you off. Goodbye." He wanted to make me angry. Up to that point I had held it together pretty well, even though I was angry. But when I raised my voice, it was like he had won. I could hear it in his voice as he left.
I don't know why he felt he had to get me so angry this morning. I'm trying real hard not to get angry with him and let him know he is welcome here, and that I love him, but when he goes out of his way to get me to the point where I'm raising my voice, then he's happy. I just don't get it.
I'm sitting here still rattled by this morning.
I hope your day has been better.
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@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Dec 15
I know I'm a doormat for my children. I have put my foot down a time or two in his life.
@celticeagle (158606)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Dec 15
Some people like to irritate. They seem to get ng out of it. Like they feel you care or something. Maybe his s elf esteem was down and he had to irritate so he knew that someone cared.
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@celticeagle (158606)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Dec 15
@just4him ...And he needs to hear it I think.
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@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Dec 15
@celticeagle I'm sure he does.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Dec 15
I'm sorry your morning went that way. I don't understand people who just like getting a rise out of others. I hope the rest of your day gets better.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
13 Dec 15
I am sorry that you are upset he obviously knows you well enough to get under your skin. I think you need to give him a hug when he tries to get to you, that will throw hiim off. Tell him you love him and walk away.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
14 Dec 15
@just4him ohhh that is too bad, my oldest son is a hugabug. He is 6 feet 4 and gives the best bear hugs. My younger son is not too much of a hugger.
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@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Dec 15
@BelleStarr I almost need to force a hug on all of them, even my daughter. Now my grandchildren are huggers 
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@FibroGodess (540)
• United States
13 Dec 15
He probably has things bothering him that have nothing to do with you. That said, it is not an excuse. I agree with Susan. Demand respect in your hoe. *be well*
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Dec 15
no my day has had me in tears twice now. First someone stole ten dollars out of m y handbag then my log book for bloodsugars anmd my whole kit plus my supplies disappeared from my bed then I found that they were taken beca use Im not supposed to have needles ie
lancets in m y room. Now if they had come to me and explained all of that I would not have been upset but this way really scared me, Now I feel so alone here. what nexr?
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It's so sad when we need to resort to those measures.@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Dec 15
That is terrible. I'm glad you found out about your blood sugar kit. Did you get the money back?
@fu763699431 (22)
• United States
14 Dec 15
Alright,my mom sometimes did the same.I always go outside with angry but after calming down myself i came home normally and said"Mommy i'm back”then nothing happened
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@fu763699431 (22)
• United States
15 Dec 15
@just4him Whatever,just remember,we are family!
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@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Dec 15
You pushed her buttons? Or she pushed yours? I'm glad you went back and nothing happened.
@lokisdad (4226)
• United States
3 Jan 16
sorry to hear some kids just like to irk their parents on purpose like kids do. Our son likes to peave his little sister off and he doesn't quit until she yells sometimes. He says that sometimes he can't help it he finds it funny to hear her yelling upset. Like yesterday he purposely drank all her water and didn't refill her cup she can't reach the sink even on a chair. She said something to him and I could hear him haha I drank all your water Im not getting you more. She said you know what that was a really stupid thing to do and your mean. So for him being spiteful he had to go refill her water and got in trouble for a bit. Sorry you are going through that.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Dec 15
sounds like some weird mental issue thing, honestly. gotta just try not to play his game
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Dec 15
@Jessicalynnt I think that ha ppens at t i mes to all of us.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
14 Dec 15
@just4him oh I know, that urge to open the mouth and say something gets me in trouble ALL the time.
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@Marilynda1225 (79561)
• United States
13 Dec 15
Don't know what causes your son to want to irritate you but hope you can enjoy your day and let it go
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@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Dec 15
It was quite good today. I got a lot done here and the Packers won. Good day.
@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
15 Dec 15
I learned a long time ago that if my kid is an adult I never give advice unless its asked for. I keep the conversations smooth and I never ask a question I really don't want to know the answer two. They are a guest in my home they don't live here anymore...There is no time for anger... I'm sorry that happened to you, I hope in the future he understands you are the mom and he should act like an adult instead of a brat.
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@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
17 Dec 15
He's a lot like his grandfather, my dad. I don't know a time we didn't visit that he and Grandpa didn't get into an argument either over sports or politics. It was always Grandma who broke them up. Though Dad always had respect for his father even in arguing with him.
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@Elizaby (6902)
• Pensacola, Florida
13 Dec 15
The moment your son tries to start an argument remove yourself if it is possible from the area and then pray for God's guidance in how to handle the situation with love. It takes two to argue and with you removing yourself from the situation and coming back with a smile and doing something in love for him will throw water on the coals he is trying to fire up.
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@marijuana (570)
• Tel Aviv, Israel
14 Dec 15
I don't get it either. How a son seem to have pleasure in making you really mad 
How old is he?
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@marijuana (570)
• Tel Aviv, Israel
14 Dec 15
@just4him oh! that made me speechless! I thought he was just a sulky teenager :( I am sorry about that.. Try to wear your sweet smiles all the time he is around so not to give him his twisted satisfaction.
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@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
14 Dec 15
Well sorry he had to ruin your day and pick a fight with you. I hope he apologizes later on.
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@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Dec 15
He has been like that all his life. I never looked at it as something he would never outgrow.
@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
13 Dec 15
My younger son is quite opinionated and occasionally pushes my buttons too. Some days the only thing he has going for himself is he is cute and I love him. He is away at college so he doesn't get to push my buttons like he used to. I still love that brat baby though.
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