I Almost Choked My God Daughter The Other Night
By Ann LeFlore
@poehere (15123)
French Polynesia
January 9, 2016 3:28pm CST
I just returned home from working the past 3 ½ weeks to find my God Daughter waiting for me. Her parent’s needed to go to another island for a few days to attend a funeral and she didn’t want to go. So when they called I told them what time I would arrive back in Tahiti. They dropped her off with my sister-in-law until I arrived at home.
When I agreed to take care of her I didn’t realize I would have the worst nightmare of my life. In the past 4 days this child has pushed me to my limits. She has asked for food and refused to eat what was cooked for her, throws a fit over chocolate ice cream that my boy friend bought for her, and sat around here pouting all day long and playing on my bed.
There are a few things I was taught when I was growing up. First, you don’t waste food. If you ask for it you’d better eat it or else. Many nights I sat at the dinner table for hours on end because I didn’t eat all the food on my plate. The second thing I was taught is that you don’t play on the bed during the day. After growing up like this I can’t stand a person to play on my bed with their dirty feet. I have to sleep there at night and can’t stand to get in bed to find sand and dirty there. Not sure how you feel about this but it drives me crazy.
Last night she didn’t realize how close I had come to chocking her for the fit she threw at the dinner table. We were just talking about some birthday party for a cousin of hers today. I had no idea about the time of the party or any of the arrangements. I had told her earlier I would call her parents that night and see what was happening and when they were returning to pick her up. After this she started a crying fit at the dinner table and started to pick at her food and throw it all over her plate. I can’t stand a child, especially one that is 11 years old, crying at the dinner table over something so stupid. I had to leave the table with her. It took 45 minutes to calm her down and stop her crying. Now this is ridiculous and uncalled for if you ask me.
I love my God Daughter; don’t get me wrong on this one. But, to have a child that waste food, throws a fit over something stupid, and has to have her own way all the time doesn’t set too well with me at all. After all I had been through this past week with her I was ready to choke her and just leave. I couldn’t take anymore of this mess. I swear I’ll never offer or accept to watch her again. Not until she grows up some and can quit acting like a spoiled baby.
Now sure what you would of done on this one. But when her parent’s came this morning at 9:30 I was so happy to see her leave. She basically has no interests and can’t keep her mind on anything for an extended period of time. Normally 11 year old kids love to do crafts, play with their friends, or even help in the kitchen. She wanted to bake cookies so we did. After the first pan came out of the oven she was done and gone. No more help on this one.
What would you do if you were faced with a child like this? I know I can’t strangle her, I can’t call her parent’s to pick her up, and I can’t
Personal Image - taken at my home this week
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8 responses
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
9 Aug 16
@poehere ok well strangling is out of the question. lol not sure what I would have done. I haven't done a lot of baby sitting in my time actually so I actually wouldn't know. Makes me think of that show called Super Nanny. She gives out good advice for raising / dealing with children. I'd be completely hopeless though.
Sorry you went through such hell with her though!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
2 Feb 17
@Daljinder haha geez. Wouldn't that just impress anyone else watching.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
2 Feb 17
@VivaLaDani13 Who cares about impression by then? I might look half crazed by then with hairs pointing every which way, epitome of frustration, ready to smack my head on a wall. lol
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
30 Jan 17
@VivaLaDani13 well........um I wouldn't know what to do either Maybe join her and throw a tantrum too?
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@GardenGerty (169535)
• United States
10 Jan 16
@poehere This on top of having just finished being away for almost a month was extremely trying.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
10 Jan 16
@GardenGerty Oh tell me about it. I just wanted to come home and relax and take care of a few things that were urgent here. But instead I came home to a Steven King Horror film. I was sure I was living in the Twilight Zone and at any moment I would wake up and see Alfred Hitchcock telling me I have just entered into the third dimension
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.@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
9 Jan 16
Yeah this one is so true. I did blow up now and then and really told her off. I was busy cooking and all she wanted to do was make a mess and call my name very 5 min. Finally I threw down the spoon on the counter and asked her what. She said oh nothing. I told her to go and find something to do alone and stop this mess I was trying to finish up dinner. It was a trying week for sure and not one I want to have to go through again anytime soon. I felt like this last week lasted around 4 months and it would never end.
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@celticeagle (189927)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 16
It is uncalled for. I wonder if she thinks she is a teen already. It's not easy just getting home and then an unexpected visit. Ugh! Patience is so important in child rearing.
@celticeagle (189927)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 16
@poehere ...Ignore her. Thank goodness you don't have her often.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
10 Jan 16
@celticeagle That is one is so true. I couldn't accept that mess everyday. I would put a stop to it quickly.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
10 Jan 16
No basically she my brother in laws last child and she is a girl so she gets what ever she wants. I never saw this from her brother and her dad was a lot harder on him than he is on her that one is for sure. All she basically has to do is cry and she gets what she wants, One time she said I will just tell my dad and he will say yes and do what I want. She knows she gets her way and thinks it is like this with everyone.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
10 Jan 16
Yes this would of been wonderful but it can't happen like this. I am not her real mother only her second mother and if anything happens to her family she will come t live with me. If that one ever happened then it would be different and she wouldn't be like she is now. But considering I don't see her as often as before it is hard to deal with stuff like this.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
9 Jan 16
She is totally spoiled. Her mom was in a scooter accident a few years back and broke her leg in way too many places. they ended up putting a bar in her leg and some screws to hold it in place. Well she spent close to 6 months in the hospital. During this time I had her most of the time and her dad had her the rest. This is when she learned all she had to do was pout or cry and she got all she wanted. Not with me but with her dad. When her mom finally got home they just continued to do this. Now she is out of control and a complete brat if you ask me. I know my grandson is a picky eater but she tops it all in how she does eat. I have to keep reminding her to eat with her fork and not her fingers. She is 11 years old and still acts like some spoiled child. Oh well I learned a big lesson on this one. I won't be taking her for some time and not for a long period of time again. Next time it will be for 1 or 2 days at the most and not longer. That one is for sure.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
9 Jan 16
@TheHorse Yah so - so. She is not a top performer if you are wondering. Plus the time her mom was in the hospital she didn't attend classes either. She was basically out of school for around the last 4 months of the year. I am not sure how she was moved up but they moved her up anyhow.
@paigea (36143)
• Canada
10 Jan 16
I don't know what I would have done. We looked after grandkids who would not eat anything. But the rest of their behaviour was fine. The older ones were 12 and 13. I let them fix their own meals a couple of times.
At least she has gone home now and you can relax.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
10 Jan 16
Yeah she was something else. She wanted pancakes and eggs one night for dinner. She finished her eggs and wanted more. Well after making them all she ate was 1 bite and took them out and gave them to my dog to eat. I told her next time she will not get more even if she asks. I am not one for wasting food and especially if I have to leave the table and cook more when I am eating. I told her enough was enough and I wouldn't accept this one again. You can't add anything to mash potatoes when you cook them otherwise she won't eat them. No making BBQ chicken she won't eat this either. She has got to be the worst eater I have seen yet. But one thing she does love and will eat is lentils. So basically I cooked this and she ate it here like 3 days because she refused to eat anything else.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
10 Jan 16
@paigea You can say that one again. She wanted to make cookies. She told me her mom won't let her help. OK not me. I let her measure everything and mix it all up. After the first pan is done she is gone. Now she is complaining it takes to long to cook them. Now she wants to do something else and wants me to stop baking the rest of the cookies. I told her forget it I was finishing and I was done for the day. I told her to go and find something else to do. Well she did. She went and climbed in my bed and went to sleep. She slept for around 4 hours. Wow amazing child and not sure how this one has happened at all. but I can just guess she is the last child and home alone so she basically gets all she wants.
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@GardenGerty (169535)
• United States
10 Jan 16
Well, as you said, feed her lentils. I read that she slept for four hours straight, and it makes me wonder if she is sleep deprived somehow. I was always a tough one and this would not fly with me.
@Namelesss (3364)
• United States
10 Jan 16
After the first day or so I would have definitely sat her down and told her in no uncertain terms that she was being a brat. I would ask her why, give her a chance to respond and go from there. I would let her know I would not be responding to her bratty behaviour.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
10 Jan 16
I have always been a very laid back person and when I raised my daughter there were some unspoken rules in all of this. I have always allowed my daughter and other children to voice their opinions. But this child just doesn't say much at all and her face and reactions tell it all. Oh well she is home with her parents now and I have my home back. Nice to have some peace and quite here for a change.
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