Our House is not an Eatery
By arbie bee
@brokenbee (11937)
Philippines
January 27, 2016 12:19am CST
When we were preparing for lunch, my nephew came home from school and he was not alone. He was with his two classmates. My mother got mad because for how many times she did remind him not to bring his classmates anymore to have their lunch because my aunt and uncle are here for a vacation, he brought them here once again. He brings them here almost everyday and they don't bring their own food.
It's okay to feed them once or twice but not everyday. Our food is just enough for us and what my mother cooks for lunch, sometimes we leave some for our dinner and if we feed them, there will be no more for dinner and we have to cook again. Prices of goods are already high and they are not part of our budget. Well, we can still share but not always.
One thing more, when they eat here, my mother will wash more plates and other utensils since my sister in law doesn't wash plates, even what she used and her kids. My mother also gets tired to wash all of those dishes.
Sometimes, they eat ahead of us and we still have to wait for them to finish before we can have our lunch. And sometimes, they had already eaten half of the rice we cooked and we will only have what's left.
My mother is planning to tell my brother about it so that he can talk to my nephew not to bring his classmates here anymore. My brother doesn't know about it because he's not at home during daytime because he's at work.
Do you welcome guests to eat at your house everyday?
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22 responses
@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
27 Jan 16
Your nephew should ask your mom (his grandmother) for permission. I think once in a while is fine, but everyday wouldn't be acceptable especially since food is expensive now a days. I know my parents would want a heads up if someone will be coming over also.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
It's my mother who always had a problem when he brings his friends over. He's not listening when my mother says that he can't bring them here anymore.
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
27 Jan 16
@just4him I didn't bring my friends by too often. I didn't want them to know where I lived actually. 
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
what a dilemma you have there, hija. sorry ha, but what the nerve of your nephew to bring his classmates in your house to have their meals; worse is when they do not even wash their dishes. If I were you, i will DEFINITELY tell my brother all about this. and why is your 'hipag' (sister in law) not washing the dishes? Is she a senorita? does she think you are all her household helpers? it makes my blood boil when I read these people taking advantage of the goodness and generosity of others.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
I am not sure how to tell my brother about it. I think I just have to wait for my mother to do it. Yes, I think my sister in law thinks she is a senorita here. Haaaaaay! There were times before when they eat ahead of us, she still lets my brother wash the dishes even if he just got home from work.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
@brokenbee even if she is ill, that does not give her the PRIVILEGE of not doing some household chores with you. tell me her name and I will go there and knock her head with my fist.maybe she thinks you are always fed by her husband (your brother).
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
@ridingbet and she is not ill. During lunchtime, she hurries to go out to accompany my niece to school even if she still has enough time to wash their dishes, if she wants to. But it's not her husband who feeds us. Yes, they give my parents some money but I don't think that gives her the right to act that way.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
Yes, something has to be done so that your nephew will stop bringing those classmates of his in your house . 
And the nerve of those classmates to always go there to eat . They are shameless . 
I too would be anxious if that happens to us . Once it enough , but two is too much , is what applies here .
And the nerve of those classmates to always go there to eat . They are shameless .
I too would be anxious if that happens to us . Once it enough , but two is too much , is what applies here .2 people like this
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
@brokenbee Then the nephew should be told to tell them to eat where their house is .
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
@SIMPLYD yes, and I think the only one who could do this is his father. My nephew is not listening to us even if we tell him so many times.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
Yes, and there are eateries near their school. The house of the other boy is even nearer from the school than ours, and he still comes here to eat for free. Whoa!
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@CookieMonster46 (13453)
• United States
27 Jan 16
How old is he? is this high school or what? I know here, kids come over , or go to other kids homes, to eat for lunch sometimes. Mostly here, kids go out to eat in fast food places, they won't bother to go home for lunch. If so it is easy stuff a sandwich or something simple to make.
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@CookieMonster46 (13453)
• United States
27 Jan 16
@brokenbee Oh I see, we had a family in school the mother never made lunches, but the kids didn't leave campus, they didn't have food all day from 1st grade on she said it was up to them to have time to make a lunch. I was a food server in the kitchen,so if we had extra food left over we gave to this family. The parents had to pay for monthly school lunches, if you didn't pay then you brought lunch.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
He is in grade school - 5th grader. The mother doesn't prepare him lunch or even his breakfast. She just lets the child prepare his own breakfast and comes home for lunch with his friends. They too have a school canteen and there are several eateries near his school.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
27 Jan 16
@brokenbee My food supply does not accommodate other people. I have a very limited budget.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
@just4him yes, I understand. We are also on a limited budget.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
Yes, I would not want to have daily guests to eat with us too.
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@trivia79 (7827)
• El Segundo, California
28 Jan 16
haha! that was very filipino act hahaha 
i understand that.
I understand the situation of those who always eat on your house haha.
I am like them too. But the difference is, my good friends' parents were humble and hospitable enough to offer us some foods. Lucky me! hehehe 
i understand that.
I understand the situation of those who always eat on your house haha.
I am like them too. But the difference is, my good friends' parents were humble and hospitable enough to offer us some foods. Lucky me! hehehe 2 people like this
@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
28 Jan 16
We always feed them when they come here even if we don't have enough because what we have is just enough for our family.
Why, do you go to your friends' house and have your free meals there everyday? Haha!
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@trivia79 (7827)
• El Segundo, California
28 Jan 16
@brokenbee oh not everyday. It's too much haha
back in the college years, whenever we our doing thesis or projects, we always having an overnight stay with one of our groupmates or classmates. Actually, sometimes, they are sharing money to buy some foods for the overnight stay and i'm always the one who says "Pass!", hahaha 
. But still, i get benefits from what they bought haha
back in the college years, whenever we our doing thesis or projects, we always having an overnight stay with one of our groupmates or classmates. Actually, sometimes, they are sharing money to buy some foods for the overnight stay and i'm always the one who says "Pass!", hahaha . But still, i get benefits from what they bought haha 1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (169474)
• United States
27 Jan 16
I only want extras when I know they are coming and I can budget and plan for them.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
Yes, we can have guests once in a while but not everyday.
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@allknowing (153530)
• India
28 Jan 16
These days cooking food at home is quite a task as it is and normally there is just enough for those who are around. It is time this is stopped.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
28 Jan 16
But we can't let them do the dishes because they might not wash our utensils properly.
@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
28 Jan 16
@brokenbee It is fine that they can hang out in your place. Perhaps they can just bring their lunch box along. We don't need to push them away. It is a learning process for them to be in the stage of maturity. Sometimes they may not aware that there wrong doings, it needs to be guided.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
Yes, that's already an abuse. I even suggested to my mother that she should talk to the classmates so that they will know that they are no longer welcome. But my father disagreed. He said they just have to talk to my brother (my nephew's dad).
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
I don't think it's appropriate. unless you are on a project and got no choice but to go there and take a meal while working on it, this is abuse. the nephew should be taught a lesson, otherwise, it will cost his allowance for every classmates he allowed for them to eat there. It's not fair for the mother. maybe those kids should do the dishes when their done eating. but that won't happen, they will keep on abusing you there.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
There was a time when my nephew washed the dishes. We still had to re wash what he had done. Whoa! I hope my mother will talk to my brother about it soon.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jan 16
Yes, this has to be stopped, but when they are here again, my parents can't help it but to share with them our food.
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@Iam_jauntyjen (5452)
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28 Jan 16
I understand where you are coming from. Quite similar with my brother's habit. What he does is, he would call to tell us that they are visiting. " We'll go on Saturday for weekend visit, we'll bring food", he would sms me. True enough, they brought some food. But the funny thing is, the food is just enough for the three of them : he, his wife and his daughter.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
28 Jan 16
But at least they brought some, for them hahaha! But of course it would be better if they also brought some extra...
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@Ladypeace (2028)
• Singapore
28 Jan 16
That really isn't too nice at all. Your nephew and his friends may not realize that they're imposing on your family.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
28 Jan 16
Hmmmm yes you are right. I hope my mother will talk to his dad about it so that he will no longer bring his friends here.
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@softbabe44 (5815)
• Vancouver, Washington
28 Jan 16
Thats seems like it would be better to ask
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@Auntylou (4262)
• Oxford, England
28 Jan 16
@brokenbee Children usually do!
I would say to the children themselves that I do not have enough food to feed them that day.
If they do not always get, maybe they won't bother coming!
@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
28 Jan 16
Yes... Sometimes he brings three of his friends. Sometimes, two. And they really have good appetite.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
17 Feb 16
Thank you! I am glad my nephew stopped bringing his friends after this incident.
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@quarternoes (236)
• Indianapolis, Indiana
27 Jan 16
Everyday. Of course, the camaraderie here is close. No one is related, but we help each other until the next good job comes up
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@hellopeeps (403)
• United States
28 Jan 16
Definitely ask the parents before inviting others over for dinner.
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