What would you do?
By brendamarie
@whiteream (8567)
United States
February 15, 2016 10:24am CST
My husband's best friend's ex, wants to come over and visit. I was never close to her. I kind of feel uncomfortable about her wanting to come over. Her ex-husband and I are very close friends. I think she wants to visit my son. It is his birthday. I don't know what to tell her. What would you do?
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11 responses
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
16 Feb 16
@whiteream Oh is that so . Maybe she is trying to be close to him , because she knows your husband adores him . Doing that would be an added points for her .
@whiteream (8567)
• United States
15 Feb 16
I may just do that. It just doesn't feel right to me. My husband's friend is more like a brother to hum. I just very uncomfortable with her coming over to my house.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
16 Feb 16
@whiteream
I can understand the uncomfortable feeling and it would be very awkward to have her there.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
15 Feb 16
Well, if she wants to visit your son, i find nothing wrong with that for as long as she will only pay a short visit and will not stay for long. However, if you don't feel like allowing her then be true to her. Just tell her politely the reason why you are not comfortable to let her come over.
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
15 Feb 16
I think I am going to ask her ex if it would bother him that I saw her and depending on how he feels, what I will do.
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@LadyDuck (502715)
• Italy
16 Feb 16
@whiteream I am sure that if your son would like to see her it would be different, but in this case, tell her that you prefer not to see her.
@whiteream (8567)
• United States
15 Feb 16
somehow you always see things that I don't see. She isn't coming ober anyway. My son doesn't even remember. If he wanted to see her it would be different.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
15 Feb 16
Hmmm sounds kind of fishy to me.
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
15 Feb 16
I was never close to her, so. I don't know, she may just trying to be nice.
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@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
18 Feb 16
Sounds to me like she has some other reason for wanting to visit, like trying to see what her ex is up tpo now. I see from other responses that she will no longer be coming and that is best for one and all I think.
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
18 Feb 16
ya, I was just uncomfortable with the idea. No one else really seemed to mind. But, she isn't and that is that.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
15 Feb 16
I think you should just tell her straight forward that it isn't appropriate or else she might continue to ask as time goes on.
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
15 Feb 16
Abby you are always the one with the up front answer. I guess, that would be best. I don't want to hurt her feelings. I hope she understands.
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@simone10 (54180)
• Louisville, Kentucky
17 Feb 16
@whiteream If he is okay with it, then it would be up to you and how comfortable you would be.
@whiteream (8567)
• United States
15 Feb 16
guess not. She just wants to come over by herself and visit, he isn't even involved. I haven't seen her in years. It is just wrong even for her to ask, I think.
