My Mind Is Going In Circles

Dizzy
@HazySue (39265)
Gouverneur, New York
March 22, 2016 12:46pm CST
Have you ever been in a situation where your mind just starts spinning? No, I don't mean spinning because of dizziness or anything of that type. I mean your mind is turning round and round looking for an answer. You mind seems to scurry here and then scurry there just looking for a clue. I can't quite explain it but you understand it if it has ever happened to you. It generally involves an important question or action in your life. You must make the correct decision or answer. It could have long lasting results. This time I am not entirely sure of the right thing to do. My friend is having a problem and needs to have a place to stay. On the one hand I really want to help her, on the other hand she is impossible to live with. The last time she stayed with us it almost broke up my marriage. What do I do? http://flickr.com/photos/41582768@N00/3354544960
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celticeagle
@celticeagle (189833)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Mar 16
That's part of my anxiety issue. I can't calm my thoughts. Drives me to distraction. Ugh! I would do as much to help her as you could from a distance. You know it will be a problem if she stays over. Nope sorry.. Healthy boundaries is very important. You can only do what you can do.
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celticeagle
@celticeagle (189833)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Mar 16
@HazySue ....It's natural to worry about those we care about, but, we need to be able to do some meditative things that help us to shut off our mind and get the rest we need. When it keeps us from getting that it becomes a problem.
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Susan
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
24 Mar 16
@celticeagle I have been thinking about it a lot. I hope she finds some place to stay.
Susan
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
23 Mar 16
@celticeagle you are right of course. I know it's silly but I do worry about her.
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marcyaz
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
22 Mar 16
Since she is impossible to live with and almost broke up your marriage the last time you must say sorry you can't stay here. I am sure she will be able to find some other who will let her stay with them maybe you can suggest someone to her.
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Susan
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
22 Mar 16
@Marcyaz you ae right, of course. It's sad because we have been friends since childhood.
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marcyaz
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
22 Mar 16
@HazySue It is sad when you know someone all your life but they could hurt your marriage. I hope she still stays friends with you when you tell her no.
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Susan
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
23 Mar 16
@Marcyaz I know that she will not. But, my husband is more important.
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Patsie Hatley is Deceased
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Apr 16
do not let her in agai n your marriage comes first always. but you can be there for her'let her weep o n your shoulder but do not let her into your home againb.
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Susan
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
3 Apr 16
@Hatley my marriage and my husband do come first. I will not let her in my home again. We have had the argument to end all arguments and she is no longer speaking to me. That's ok I have finally had enough. I can see she was never really a friend.
Blondie2222
@Blondie2222 (28610)
• United States
23 Mar 16
Yes I'm going thru that right now as i have to make some important life decisions involving my health and my mind is just spinning right now. I could not sleep last night because of it. But if you want to know more i did do an update last night on everything going on
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Susan
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
23 Mar 16
@Blondie2222 I will go and see what is going on with you. I hope it is something fixable.
Marlina
@marlina (154103)
• Canada
22 Mar 16
To me the answer would be very simple: my marriage would come first, no doubt in my mind.
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Susan
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
22 Mar 16
@marlina my marriage does come first, I made my mind up right after I published this.
Judy Evans
@JudyEv (382021)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 Mar 16
Try to find her somewhere else to stay. She isn't likely to have changed and your marriage is more important.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (382021)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 Mar 16
@HazySue Then stay firm and don't take her in.
Susan
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
23 Mar 16
@JudyEv to tell the truth I would not wish her on someone else. She is great at first but I am afraid that she will become the unlovable unreasonable person she became after a few weeks with us.
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