Is live together relationship as good as marriage?
@sathviksouvik (23245)
May 14, 2016 2:20am CST
These days in western societies many couples dont believe in marriage. They live together. Marriages are not registered nor there are any ceremonies which bolster the marriage.
In Indian societies also it is becoming popular. But the trouble lies if either of the husband or the wife deny the relationship, children are at a loss.
Our laws are structured in such a way that if divorce is sought, there also it is Court's order which separates husband and wife. For custody of children also both the parents are supposed to put their claims forward. Thereafter the familycourts decide on the fate of the children.
In live together relationships, there are no proof relating to wedlock. As long as both the husband and wife are earning and children dont have problems it is fine. But a registered marriage is better if possible.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
14 May 16
On the contrary, are marriages any better? Marriage means you are stuck with a person who is horrible. In live-in you can walk out without any legal hassle.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
14 May 16
@sathviksouvik .. No children should not be born in live in arrangement. Live in is to test compatibility. Marriage is for having babies and helping them till they become adults. Once the children are gone, parents should still have a choice to live or move out.
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@sathviksouvik (23245)
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14 May 16
Thanks DJ for the comments. Children fall in trouble in these types of arrangements.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
14 May 16
i have known a few couples who have been together for years without a marriage license and it seems they are happier than a lot of married couples. There children have not suffered just because of a piece of paper. I guess it all depends on the couple.
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@sathviksouvik (23245)
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14 May 16
Thanks Marcyaz for the comments. If they maintained the relationship it is fine.
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@noni1959 (13048)
• United States
14 May 16
I know several who have been together 20 plus years and never married. I have been married twice for love and each marriage - one seven years and one 14 - cost me emotionally and financially in the end. My children were better without my ex husband around. I made two "love" choices and there will not be a third. If I have a long term relationship later, I will stay in my home and he in his. No living together. No marriage. We all have our reasons and they are to be respected unless it hurts someone. Long as you are honest in the beginning it shouldn't hurt anyone. Children need stability of marriage but there are times it's best to walk before they are grown.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
15 May 16
Some states have common law marriages in which the couple acknowledges each other as husband and wife and have resided together for a certain amount of years. This is considered a legal marriage depending on the state. From what I've seen, live in couples are often together longer because they don't take each other for granted the way married couples often do. They know one or both can walk away from the relationship at anytime so they better be good to one another. A registered marriage might be better in certain states however. Case in point: In my state, Georgia, an unmarried man has no parental rights whatsoever. He has to go to through the law and deal with all the paper work. so it's probably best to be married. Or move to another location if possible.
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@sathviksouvik (23245)
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15 May 16
Thanks shashta for the brilliant comments. You brought one important facet, that laws in USA are different in different states. This is something interesting. In India there are more than 28 states, but the laws are uniform. the law of Georgia is interesting.
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@gochunehal (782)
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14 May 16
Marriage is good cause now a days we can't trust anyone fully ..By chance in livin relationship one went away without any talk then the other has no right to say anything to him or her..so I think marriage is good as we got a proof and we have right over that person and we can ask questions to them
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@sathviksouvik (23245)
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14 May 16
Thanks Nehalji for the wonderful comments. Today no one wants to take responsibilities. Live together is that of relationship.
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
14 May 16
You are right Dr. Chatterji. The youth today in India want to run away from responsibility and therefore do not want to get tied up into wedlock. Its the children from them who suffer. Such children often take to crimes when deserted. This is one of the causes that crime index is increasing throughout the world. Parents should teach their children to be responsible and compassionate.
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@sathviksouvik (23245)
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14 May 16
Thanks Aninditaji for the comments. If a husband and wife can accept each other as partner what is the problem in getting marriage registered? I dont have any defence of people not marrying.
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