Tuesday- May,31, 2016
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (189820)
Boise, Idaho
May 31, 2016 6:27pm CST
Woke about 5a. and waited to hear if my daughter's alarm would go off at 5:30a. It didn't so I woke my grandson up and then went to where she was sleeping. It took ten minutes or more to get her up. Took about 20 minutes to wake up my grandson. Ugh! They were up late last night.
It is now nearly 7:30a. and he missed the school bus so he has to take the city bus. They are now scouring the house to find his watch so he knows what time it is for catching the inter linking buses. He ended up not going because he refused to try to take the city bus without a watch. I called the school and explained this to the Ascent social worker.
I went to bed about 10:30p. last night so I think I got about 61/2 hours of sleep. Not the best but I will try to stay up so I will sleep tonight. Trying to get on a good schedule so I will be sure to be awake June 8th for my doctor's appointment. I hope my grand daugthter comes to take me or I will have to pay for a taxi. She forgot last time and so I had to reschedule.
My daughter's payee called because she was confused about the rent that has recently changed. I asked her what her perimeters were as far as what she can do with my daughter's SS money. She has been sending her the amount left over after her bills are payed. I told her about my daughter's spending and how she blows her money instead of buy ing groceries and being responsible with it. She said that she could put a fourth of what she has left on her debit card each week. I said that would be great. So, she is going to start doing that. I asked her what she would say to my daughter as reason for doing ths(so she doesn't get upset with me and we have a big row) She said she would just sent a note saying she was doing this so she would have money throughout the month. Whoa! So that will be nice. See how my daughter reacts.
I had a good conversation with my daughter. About the plan for groceries this month. I asked her what the plan was with her boyfriend. (I have issues with her boyfriend who has been staying here since Friday. He lies, he uses drugs, he is disrespectful, he has physically abused my grandson once in the past, and he is not responsible with money.)
I repeated what I have told her before. I told her I was born in an era when men supported their woman and didn't live off them. I told her I was sorry if she thought I was terrible but this is the way I feel. She agreed with me. I told her it would be okay if he put some money into the kitty but he doesn't. Hopefully he will be going home in the next day or so. I also told her that he is disruptive. After he has been here for a few days he and my grandson have arguments and he causes a disruption to the schedule.
Well, tomorrow I will have money in my account and we can order out for dinner. I am so hungry for a cheeseburger and a chocolate shake. Mmmm.
Hope you are all having a great day.
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5 responses
@Jdaw1985 (4025)
• Fayetteville, North Carolina
3 Jun 16
That is great to hear about the SS money. If you do not mind me asking why can you not be the payee for her since she is living with you? I am glad that they are going to do that to help you out though. Hope that makes things better now. I would have made the boy friend leave the day that he got there that is your house right?
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Jun 16
Yes, it is.Hope it works. The reason I can not be her payee is that she didn't want me to be and I beleive, if remember correctly, they didn't want a family member to be that was living with her. It is my daughter's and I's house. But, I don't want to have words with him and have to make my daughter have to make a decision between us. Pick sides sort of things. But, if it gets too bad I surely would.
@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jun 16
@Jdaw1985 ....He is a putz. Thinks he's great but leaves a lot to be desired.
@Jdaw1985 (4025)
• Fayetteville, North Carolina
5 Jun 16
@celticeagle That might be true about you living with her. But from what I have been told they would rather put it into a family members name than some one else's. I do not blame you I would have to say words to him as well.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
1 Jun 16
the spacing of the money out was a good idea, and done this way, hopefully if she does get mad it will be at the payee, who wont care a lick how mad she gets.
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 16
@Jessicalynnt ....That's something I need to scratch out with my daughter.
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 16
Yes, but after thinking more about it she needs to have money to pay on her computer so I may have to talk to the payee about this.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
1 Jun 16
@celticeagle could that bill be worked into what the payee pays?
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 16
When my daughter isn't manic she pretty feels the same way I do about her boyfriend. But, right now she is still sort of manic and so she has to have him around. If her boyfriend does anything else I will ban him. I can't do so now or have a fight on my hands that I don't have the strength to fight.
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 16
@LadyDuck ....That's part of being an adult.
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@LadyDuck (502266)
• Italy
1 Jun 16
@celticeagle I understand, not always we can do what we would like to do.
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@msiduri (5687)
• United States
1 Jun 16
Don't hate me for asking, but if he has been physically abusive to your grandson (you don't mention how old he is), what is your daughter's boyfriend doing around at all?
I realize this is your daughter's responsibility and not yours. But even if the boyfriend were a prince of men—and I gather he's a few stripes short of this—physical abuse of a child should be enough to give him his walking papers.
Yes, easier said than done.
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 16
This happened a long time ago She made him move out and she wasn't friendly with him for quite a while. Slowly they got back together. I monitor the situation as much as I can. Her boyfriend has a certain tone of voice he uses when he is upset with my grandson and then I am on point immediately. Any physical stuff that should transpire now he will be gone for good and I will make that stick. I think everyone should have another chance so I let it happen but, believe me, I keep my eyes and ears open.
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@msiduri (5687)
• United States
1 Jun 16
@celticeagle Ah, understood. I can't say as I envy you. Just the same, you are not obligated to have someone in your home who doesn't treat you with respect. I can understand you tolerate it because you want to keep your daughter and grandson near you and to be able to monitor the situation. I would, too.
I wish you and your family all the best.
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 16
@msiduri ...Thank you for understanding.
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