My Dad when I was little...
By DJ
@Daljinder (23193)
Bangalore, India
June 4, 2016 3:04am CST
This is in response to @JaboUK 's post "A stranger to his children". She asked, Was your father around much when you were little?
I was going to reply there but I thought I might as well make it a post. I haven't done a proper post in awhile. Thanks to her that I can rectify that. 
So, here we go...
Dad saw me three months after I was born because he was in another state regarding work when I was born. He came and stayed for a short while.
(Following this time, my brother was born and my parents separated, not divorced, for sometime. Mom took bro with her since he was a baby and I stayed with Dad. I was an year old. Re-conciliation happened and they got back together.)
Then Dad again went out of station for job. This time my Mom went along with him since she had her job in the same place as him. My brother and I stayed with our grandparents. We used to see our parents on weekends and would go stay with them during Summer and Winter vacations.
Following Mom's paralytic attack, she quit working and came back home to stay with us. Dad used to visit every weekend-our favorite time of the week. Because he would always take us out, buy us things and do fun activities like visiting zoo, regular parks (family picnic), amusement parks, museums, etc. I remember once he took us to an exhibition of Dinosaurs. It was the very first one and elaborate. So cool!
I also remember when me and my brother were little like 5 or less in age, Dad would make a plate for himself to eat. He would then have bro and I sit with him. Most of the time we ourselves will sit with him because he used to make eating fun. LOL!
He would enact a plane flying with his hand that held a bite of whatever he was eating and then feed the first bite to me. Repeating the process, the second bite to my brother. Then third one to himself. The cycle continued until we were full.
He would also buy us sweets, candies and ice creams often. Whenever we would ask, "Why?" His reply would always be "Because it's my birthday today" And we would believe him every single time!
He was a strict father and still is. We used to be all angelic when he was around. His name alone was enough for us to straighten up and clean up our act by the time weekend arrived. 
The weekend visits continued into my high school days.
Do you have any special memory with your Dad?
(Photo by Pixabay)
So, here we go...
Dad saw me three months after I was born because he was in another state regarding work when I was born. He came and stayed for a short while.
(Following this time, my brother was born and my parents separated, not divorced, for sometime. Mom took bro with her since he was a baby and I stayed with Dad. I was an year old. Re-conciliation happened and they got back together.)
Then Dad again went out of station for job. This time my Mom went along with him since she had her job in the same place as him. My brother and I stayed with our grandparents. We used to see our parents on weekends and would go stay with them during Summer and Winter vacations.
Following Mom's paralytic attack, she quit working and came back home to stay with us. Dad used to visit every weekend-our favorite time of the week. Because he would always take us out, buy us things and do fun activities like visiting zoo, regular parks (family picnic), amusement parks, museums, etc. I remember once he took us to an exhibition of Dinosaurs. It was the very first one and elaborate. So cool!
I also remember when me and my brother were little like 5 or less in age, Dad would make a plate for himself to eat. He would then have bro and I sit with him. Most of the time we ourselves will sit with him because he used to make eating fun. LOL!
He would enact a plane flying with his hand that held a bite of whatever he was eating and then feed the first bite to me. Repeating the process, the second bite to my brother. Then third one to himself. The cycle continued until we were full.
He would also buy us sweets, candies and ice creams often. Whenever we would ask, "Why?" His reply would always be "Because it's my birthday today" And we would believe him every single time!
He was a strict father and still is. We used to be all angelic when he was around. His name alone was enough for us to straighten up and clean up our act by the time weekend arrived.
The weekend visits continued into my high school days.
Do you have any special memory with your Dad?
(Photo by Pixabay)13 people like this
14 responses
@rona07 (1641)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
Good to know you have a great relationship with your father.. It doesnt happen to most people. I had some memories with my dad.. Those time when he makes big kites for us and when we sing videoke. But whats printed in my mind where the times he will beat my mother esp when drunk.. I dont hate him tho. They are separated nw. And i saw that he is a good father to his son.. My step brother... So its good... At least he changed.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Jun 16
I felt sad reading your response. You know, me and my dad never were well when we should have a great time. But now, when he is old, sicker i have not given up on him. I still love him. Yes, at 42, I do look at things very differently and do understand today, why he wasnt there when I needed him the most. I feel blessed to the Lord, that I have wonderful grandparents to bring me up, give me the right values and a vision to look at things differently. this might not have been possible if my parents and me were all good from day 1 of my life. I would surely say it was a blessing in some way and I never understood it back then.
In your case, I feel your dad wanted a son (just like in mine, my parents wanted a girl).
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
10 Jun 16
@rona07 It's good that you don't hate him because hate only hurts you. It's too much of a negative emotion to hold on to.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@thesids My parents aren't everyone's cup of tea.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Jun 16
@Daljinder Sadly I dont have tea. I only have coffee... dark black
But wait... I cannot be off with my bad sense of humor here. It is a close to heart post for sure.
It is not that me and my parents do not have anything good between us... it is just that our differences have been many and more closed because of my first 11 years when I was brought up by my Grandparents. Later in 1995, when my Grandpa passed away, there were some findings which made our relations more complex. Today, we are all good - maybe just because of maturity or anything, but still we dont prefer staying together. Somewhere I feel that I never was blessed to have such a relationship with my parents but then, I cannot deny the fact that the relation I shared with my grandparents was in any way bad. I am what I am just because of them. So I am still at that position where brain does say, all good, but heart does have some problems in accepting that.
But wait... I cannot be off with my bad sense of humor here. It is a close to heart post for sure.
It is not that me and my parents do not have anything good between us... it is just that our differences have been many and more closed because of my first 11 years when I was brought up by my Grandparents. Later in 1995, when my Grandpa passed away, there were some findings which made our relations more complex. Today, we are all good - maybe just because of maturity or anything, but still we dont prefer staying together. Somewhere I feel that I never was blessed to have such a relationship with my parents but then, I cannot deny the fact that the relation I shared with my grandparents was in any way bad. I am what I am just because of them. So I am still at that position where brain does say, all good, but heart does have some problems in accepting that.2 people like this
@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
10 Jul 16
@LadyDuck 
That is sad... we want more of them, surely.
That is sad... we want more of them, surely.2 people like this
@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@LadyDuck Were you daddy's girl growing up?
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@LadyDuck (502729)
• Italy
10 Jul 16
@hora_fugit Yes, we would never want to see them go. Thank you.
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@jaboUK (64346)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun 16
@Drosophila It was just a ruse to get picky eaters to eat
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
4 Jun 16
@jaboUK lol!! I was never a fussy eater! Always a foodie. My ma reported me learning to use a spoon faster than walking, cos I was too impatient to wait for feeding
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@garymarsh6 (24028)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun 16
It sounds like you had very nice parents. My parents were very kind folk and I am grateful that they were so nice. I know this is not always the case and it saddens me to hear some very sad stories. I guess we were very lucky indeed!
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@garymarsh6 Yes we were. I can always count on my parents to have my back. That feeling of security is enough to be thankful for among other things.
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@Lucky15 (37391)
• Philippines
6 Jun 16
@Daljinder haha..i will be saving it for father's day..our story..his story ;)
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@Lucky15 Oh June 20, is it? Sure I will wait till then!
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@Lucky15 Oopsies! Sorry for making you teary! I hope you are all sewed back up by now and all the enthralls bit are properly put inside back. 
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
4 Jun 16
Yes my dad knew how much I loved chocolate and on certain days after work he would bring home some chocolate candy for me. I always knew by the look on his face when he walked in the door if he had brought chocolates or not. That was Special for me. Even after I was grown and had children of my own and had moved thousands of miles away when I was there for a visit he would have a chocolate for me.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
10 Jun 16
@Marcyaz Aww! Don't you sometimes wish to reverse the time and go back to the days when Daddy brought us treats?
Sigh!
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@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
4 Jun 16
I remember very different things about my dad 
...can't share most, so here is a list of sharable ones:
He was finicky about his meals and neatness and yet would not eat without me sharing from his. That when I was so clumsy while eating and used to drop more than I ate. I also used to sit on table, beside his plate, as I was really tiny! lol
Then, he inculcated in me and other children of him a passion for reading. Am really thankful about that. Now I am on my own and being lazy, rarely read anything.
Comics! He would not let us read comics! 
(Quite another matter that I didn't know what a comics was and didn't give a dime about reading those...)
...can't share most, so here is a list of sharable ones:
He was finicky about his meals and neatness and yet would not eat without me sharing from his. That when I was so clumsy while eating and used to drop more than I ate. I also used to sit on table, beside his plate, as I was really tiny! lol
Then, he inculcated in me and other children of him a passion for reading. Am really thankful about that. Now I am on my own and being lazy, rarely read anything.
Comics! He would not let us read comics! (Quite another matter that I didn't know what a comics was and didn't give a dime about reading those...)1 person likes this
@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
10 Jun 16
@hora_fugit Those are some good memories indeed.
Exactly how much tiny are we talking?
I did read comics as a child but wasn't crazy over it. My cousin though had a small cabinet full of it and wouldn't miss the latest in the series.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
5 Jun 16
Lots that is the problem. Without those I would have nothing. Like in train..he would be afraid I would fall off..(he told me that..actual reason may be I would be kidnapped ..now that I am grown up..lol. So he used to book those two single seats and spread his leg across in such a way that I would not fall..oh dad it is so uncomfortable..why wont you let me sleep up...no..you sleep here..you will fall and break your head..sure..never managed to..after I grew up..lol. Then he cried when I had massive bout of chicken pox...I looked real ugly...and then when I had tuberculosis...I saw him sitting in the night and crying. Dads cry.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
10 Jun 16
@vandana7 Dads rarely show emotions outwardly! But they do care...
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@beenice2 (2967)
• Sackville, New Brunswick
25 Jul 16
My dad, always been there for us. He was a quiet man, but I can tell you when he told me just once, around the table to stop crying because, for him it was enough, it made an impact on me. Beside that , my dad always been a stable figure all the time he was alive.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
4 Aug 16
@beenice2 Sounds like a good stable relationship! Good to know that!
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
4 Jun 16
Sadly, I don't have any good memories associated with my Dad, I do still love him though. As I will only have 1 Dad, and he did a great job raising me.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
6 Jun 16
@Daljinder well I am a testmonial of good up bringing and yet I can't recall any good memories with him. He doesn't have a particularly good temper, so most of my memories with him ended with his bad temper.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@Drodophila 
Your comment confused me. Sorry! 
How is it done? No good memories and yet good job raising? Didn't those things go together? 
Your comment confused me. Sorry!
How is it done? No good memories and yet good job raising? Didn't those things go together? 2 people like this
@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
6 Jun 16
There has been bits of separation but they happened back in the old days so it doesn't matter much now. The most important thing is that your family is a happy one, with everyone caring for each other. So in the end it is a happy story
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@ria1606roy Yes it did work out in the end.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@just4him Yes I did read that and responded.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
21 Aug 16
@Daljinder Such cute stories! And I was like "awwww" just thinking about you being little and being fed! AH SO ADORABLE!
Well I was more of a mummys girl when I was little but when all that crap started happening between them, I started hanging out with my dad more. He is a really great dad.
I am sure there would be a lot of memories but the memories I can think of now are, many years ago, me, dad and his then girlfriend went away somewhere. Their room was upstairs and I slept down in a little bed downstairs. There was a big storm going on. I was enjoying looking out the window that my bed was near to see the lightning and the rain but really big storms scare me sometimes. Especially when I am home alone. Anyway, dad came down stairs and laid on the lounge because he near I was going to be scared lol I thought that was really nice of him.
Another memory that I just wont let him forget, when I was little, me, Andrew, dad and mum went on a little holiday. We were walking along the beach while the sun was setting. And because it was becoming darker, dad was running up to what he thought was a milk carton to kick it but turns out it was a rock HAHA! He wasn't wearing any shoes so yeah would have hurt but it was just funny after.
I can't think of anything else at the moment.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
26 Aug 16
@Daljinder lol yes and no! I was thinking about it the other day, I wish I could show you some home movies. There's one me being a total smartass and threatening to whack my brothers with a cricket bat lol I wanted to show you and Wesley. I don't share this stuff with people easily. I just wish I knew how to share it. They are on video tape so don't know what to do.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
26 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 Sounds interesting scenario. lol What did they do to evoke your ire? 
Try any of these if suitable. You need to get gmail account in any case for so many reasons.
Try any of these if suitable. You need to get gmail account in any case for so many reasons.
There are many video sharing websites and social communities out there that let you share your videos with the entire world, but in many cases you might only want to share private home movies with family and friends. When it comes to public video sharing s
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
26 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 Aww!! Daddy protecting his little girl from storm monster. 
Were you this tiny adorable thing?
Were you this tiny adorable thing?1 person likes this
