Celeberating 60 years of marriage...
By DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
Bangalore, India
June 5, 2016 1:29pm CST
...of my grandparents. 
This Sunday, June 5, 2016, was their 60th wedding anniversary.
We didn't have any party planned because my grandparents had planned a trip to their hometown in Punjab. The place where they were born and brought up. The place where they were married and had lived.
Whenever they are there, they also visit the place that used to belong to their parents.
Reminiscing all the memories!
They boarded the train Sunday evening and will be staying there for a week or maybe more.
To tell you little something about them:
My grandfather is an Ex-Army. He is a retired Captain. He turned eighty in April. My grandmother is a housewife. She is in her late seventies.
Grandma once told me that she was only two and a half years old when Grandpa's mother chose her to be her son's future bride.
When both of them came of age, they were married. Before that there was no contact between my grandparents.
(Photo by Me- They are my grandparents shortly after their marriage.)
This Sunday, June 5, 2016, was their 60th wedding anniversary.
We didn't have any party planned because my grandparents had planned a trip to their hometown in Punjab. The place where they were born and brought up. The place where they were married and had lived.
Whenever they are there, they also visit the place that used to belong to their parents.
Reminiscing all the memories!
They boarded the train Sunday evening and will be staying there for a week or maybe more.
To tell you little something about them:
My grandfather is an Ex-Army. He is a retired Captain. He turned eighty in April. My grandmother is a housewife. She is in her late seventies.
Grandma once told me that she was only two and a half years old when Grandpa's mother chose her to be her son's future bride.
When both of them came of age, they were married. Before that there was no contact between my grandparents.
(Photo by Me- They are my grandparents shortly after their marriage.)19 people like this
20 responses
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@hora_fugit Thank you for the correction! I felt off when I wrote the date in the post because I remember that we had celeberated the 50th anniversary on June 5.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@Hatley Thank you for the good wishes! 
Memories are precious, aren't they?!
Memories are precious, aren't they?!
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
10 Jun 16
@AZIZ404 I guess they see marital relationship as a shackle.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@TheHorse @vandana7
I always see Love marriage and arranged marriage as:
In love marriage, couple are already used to each other's quirks and there is understanding. Love too before the marriage. While in arranged marriage, all those things come after marriage.
In love marriage that love may not stay after marriage as things change. In arranged marriage couple may never find love.
There is no sure fire formula for successful marriages. Love or arranged doesn't make it successful.
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@sathviksouvik (19295)
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6 Jun 16
Happy marriage anniversary to your grand parents.
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@sathviksouvik (19295)
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7 Jun 16
@Daljinder Their photo is excellent. Thanks for the share.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jun 16
It's midnight right now. Sorry!
And its 1:00 am IST as I log in to find a discussion from your or even MIL.
I would love to know more and more about the grandparents and their marriage and whatever else you will share... I have a kind of love and respect for the life of people of that era. The love they share(d), the love they believe(d) in and the way they love(d) is simply a mystery and unknown thing to many of today's generation.
And for the record, I am interested also because I was brought up by my maternal grandparents....
Oh, off discussion, but how are you feeling? has that temperature thing (earlier post) become a matter of the past yet?
I would love to know more and more about the grandparents and their marriage and whatever else you will share... I have a kind of love and respect for the life of people of that era. The love they share(d), the love they believe(d) in and the way they love(d) is simply a mystery and unknown thing to many of today's generation.
And for the record, I am interested also because I was brought up by my maternal grandparents....
Oh, off discussion, but how are you feeling? has that temperature thing (earlier post) become a matter of the past yet?1 person likes this
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Jun 16
@Daljinder thank you for the wonderful picture of them. A very happy anniversary wish from me.
Good that you are feeling better.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@thesids I will do a post on my maternal grandparents soon!
I agree the meaning of love is very different from what the meaning of love is today. Theirs is more pure and steady than it is now. Today everyone seems to fall in and out of love on daily basis!
Yeah today I woke up feeling good actually!! I guess dehydration was the culprit and the loo too
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
@Daljinder That's a nice way of vacationing . 
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
8 Jun 16
@rebel_woman06 Thank you for the wishes. Grandpa came back today after four days of stay and Grandma will be staying there for some more time. My aunt (Grandma's daughter) and her two children will be vacationing there. It's Summer holidays here.
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@rebelann (112732)
• El Paso, Texas
6 Jun 16
That's wonderful @Daljinder here it has gotten out of hand. I sometimes wonder why people even bother to get married in the first place.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@rebelann Honestly speaking, divorce is the very last resort in marriages over here. Literally!
Not every single argument end in divorce.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
6 Jun 16
@Daljinder Yes, do a post on it. It's such an alien thing for Westerners to get their head round.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@jaboUK I will. It all comes to how our family structure operates beside the culture of course.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@JaboUK Yes it was an arranged marriage. Yes they are happy with each other from what I see if I discount all the things happening in life in general. Happiness depends on many factors. Not just love between the couple.
About no say in the matter, I think it needs a post of its own!
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
8 Jun 16
@just4him Thank you! Yes parents in away still choose prospective partners which I explained in detail how it goes in my new post. And no it is not done in childhood. What I mentioned in the post about Grandma being chosen by her mother in law at two and half was a jest made by the mother in law. She thought Grandma was pretty as a child so she joked about it. There wasn't any commitment/arrangement /promise of marriage. But fate/ destiny or whatever you may call it made it a reality when they grew up.
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
6 Jun 16
@Daljinder would love to heat their stories. ;)
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@Lucky15 As long as they are adults and willing...
In earlier days, child marriages were very common. My grandparents marriage wasn't child marriage. They married when grandma was about 18ish? lol
Thank you for the wishes!
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@Fordalong (108)
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6 Jun 16
Yes it is such a wonderful news!. And to think that they both got into an arranged marriage at such very tender ages makes it even more interesting.
All over the world there have been lots and lots of arranged marriages that never made it this far ; some have crashed by the way side, some others have practically crashed even before it began.
Gods Grace and Mercy have brought them this far. And again, A lovely 60year Marriage Anniversay to them!.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
4 Aug 16
@Daljinder I really like this photo. I hope they enjoyed their time that week!
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
11 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 Thank you! Yep they did. Grandma stayed behind for longer though because her daughter and her kids were going to join her for rest of their holidays.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@Pankhini I am sorry to hear/read that. Three months interval is very close. 
Thank you for your wishes!
Thank you for your wishes!1 person likes this
@Pankhini (485)
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6 Jun 16
@Daljinder dont be sorry... they had lived their life to the fullest... no regrets...
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@marguicha (222167)
• Chile
5 Jun 16
Congratulations! I did not see any photo here.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@marguicha That's because I did not upload them then. It's up there now!
Thank you for your wishes!
@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
6 Jun 16
I think that is a lovely way to spend their anniversary and I think they are lucky that they obviously got along well in spite of being strangers when they married.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@BelleStarr That is how arranged marriages go. All the dating, wooing, understanding, adjustment and falling in love comes after the marriage. I think they seem to work because the commitment is there in the form of marital bond. The uncertainty factor is lower.
Yeah it's a good way to celebrate. I have been to that place too with my grandma. She gets emotional whenever she visits her parents place.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@marlina Yes an arranged marriage. All the marriages in my family are arranged except one that was love marriage turned arranged. If the couple is happy, both kind of marriages are welcome.
My parents knew of each other before their marriage because they shared relatives. Their marriage was an arranged one too. They will complete 32 years this November.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 16
@zap_81 LOL! Yes, I think it was meant as a joke. But anyways turned into reality.
Thanks for the wishes!
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
8 Jun 16
@Daljindar Congratulations to you grandparents.My prayers for them to be together for a lot more time. I feel good to see such a lot of long marriages.
Being Indian I can well related to arranged marriages.
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@Fordalong (108)
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6 Jun 16
Wow!! A VERY BIG CONGRATULATIONS TO YOUR GRAND PARENTS! THIS IS GREAT NEWS! GREAT MARRIAGE ANNIVERSARY! I really love it whenever i hear such wonderful news. And my sincere prayer for your grand parents is that God would keep them in strength [strengthened bones, nerves] in every fibre of their being! And may God grant you blissful years ahead and long life so that you'll grow to their age, and also grant you more grace in your own marriage so that you'll someday also celebrate your 60th Marriage Anniversary.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
10 Jun 16
@Fordalong Thank you so much for your enthusiastic and heartfelt wishes for my grandparents and myself! Thank you so much for the prayers too. Amen to that!
