Tomorrow People will Understand
By DianneN
@DianneN (247219)
United States
June 8, 2016 8:13am CST
Tomorrow our family will be together to say our final goodbyes to my husband's brother, Bernie, in Manhattan, where he lived most of his life. That is, all except our oldest son.
He is on a business trip in the Bahamas for his law firm. He is presenting to attorneys from all over the world, of which I am proud, and will be involved in panel discussions. He had his secretary try to get him out of the Bahamas to attend his uncle's funeral tomorrow, but the flights did not work out time wise.
He called us last night, quite distraught.
We comforted him by reminding him of the fact that he, on his own, went to the hospital with Bernie's wife, just so she wouldn't have to be alone when she spoke to the doctors about removing the respirator that kept Bernie alive. He was there to say his good byes, took his aunt home in a cab, and stopped by with dinner for her from her favorite eatery, Zabar's, later in the evening.
I'm sure people will understand.
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33 responses
@Juliaacv (48632)
• Canada
8 Jun 16
@DianneN Sadly it sounds like she may just have reacted out of exhaustion and emotion from losing her beloved husband who she's cared for during his illness. That cannot be an easy place for someone to be in, but difficult for your son as well. People will understand, and his Aunt probably does, but maybe she had difficulty conveying it thru her grief.
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@Juliaacv (48632)
• Canada
8 Jun 16
@DianneN I cannot imagine how she feels. Every relationship is unique, and they obviously communicated at great lengths to come to this decision, yet as a loving wife, I myself, cannot imagine how my heart would feel. I think that she must be a very very brave and loving woman to be able to go thru this, I'm thinking and praying for you all.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
it was so good of him to do all that.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
8 Jun 16
Your son has no reason to be distraughtas he went to the hospital with his Aunt so she wouldn't be alone when it was time to take the Uncle off the respirator. He certainly did all he could do in this time. If someone doesn't understand then that is their problem. Condolences to you and the family.
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@allknowing (130195)
• India
8 Jun 16
Your son was there for his Aunt to help her in those last moments. That is more than enough.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
9 Jun 16
He did the important things that needed to be done at the time they were needed, that is more important than being there tomorrow but I know how hard it is not to be able to be there for the gathering. I am sending you a hug before you go to say the final goodbye.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49163)
• United States
9 Jun 16
I am sure they will all understand. My thoughts will be with your family tomorrow.
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
8 Jun 16
ife isn't alway easy to cope with. somethings just don't work out.will say a prayer for Bernie and may he R.I.P.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
8 Jun 16
God bless his heart. People will understand his not being able to attend. If they don't, it is on them and not him.
My condolences to you and the family for your loss.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
8 Jun 16
@DianneN being there for his aunt in her time of need was huge.
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@DianneN (247219)
• United States
8 Jun 16
@ElusiveButterfly We told him that and believe that is what finally made him feel better.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
I am sure they will , knowing that your son who is now a part of a famous law firm has many things to attend to . Besides , he had his time with him when before his life support was finally terminated . In additon he has accompanied his wife in her most grievous hour.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jun 16
I am sure people will understand too. Sometimes there is nothing we can do to change things-especially when it comes to work. I'm sorry for the loss of your husband's brother. =(
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Jun 16
@DianneN Your welcome. I'm glad it went as well as possible and I am also glad your son's presentation went well. =) That was so nice of him to check on his dad, shows what a sweet person he is-you did a good job raising him!
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@rebelann (111307)
• El Paso, Texas
12 Jun 16
Definitely understand, it must have been so heartbreaking to have to go through with something like that as well as courageous. Both are admirable for having the courage to do that and it must have been a blessing to have your son there with her to keep her from falling apart. Will she be living alone now or does she have a sibling with whom she can live?
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