Should I keep this secret or not?

United States
June 13, 2016 8:03am CST
We have friends, a couple but not a married couple. They have been together over 20 years. We don't see them often, maybe three times in the last 7 years. We do communicate via e-mail. The last time we met up with them we arranged to meet at a restaurant and before the restaurant we both talked about stopping at the same outlet store. When we got to the store the first person of the two I spotted was the male. He was standing near the women's dressing room. I 'assumed' he was standing there waiting for his girlfriend to come out so I walked by and didn't let on I saw him. A few minutes later I ran right into the female who had not been in the dressing room at all, she was at the opposite end of the store. None of the items she had in her hand were things that needed trying on. We walked together looking for 'him' and as we went by the spot where he had been standing I realized that from his vantage point he could see right into the dressing room...there is no door, but curtains on each cubicle. I put all this out of my mind but something she said in an e-mail the other day brought it into my head again. She said he has a great sense of humor. I've never witnesses his sense of humor at all so not sure who he shares it with. Wonder if he would think it was funny if I mentioned to his girlfriend that he had been peeping. I think keeping my mouth shut is probably the way to go as they both would probably have all kinds of excuses why he was standing there. Plus what proof do I have now months later? What would you do? Photo: pixabay.com/en/shopping-buying-buy-store-shop-1182902/ :
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
13 Jun 16
Wow, that is a tough one. I think since you don't see them much, don't mention it to her. He would only deny it and she would believe him. It would cause a rift in your relationship. You can't prove that he was peeping. I would never trust him again, though.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
He's very quiet, but like they say its the quiet ones you have to look out for.
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@miniam (9151)
• Bern, Switzerland
13 Jun 16
wow, a peeping Tom or a Cross dresser?either way, I`d keep my trap shut otherwise you get accused of who knows what and you end up loosing a friend.
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• United States
14 Jun 16
@miniam Except all of you guy reading this LOL
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• United States
14 Jun 16
He's not a cross dresser that I know! Mouth is tapped shut!
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@miniam (9151)
• Bern, Switzerland
14 Jun 16
@AbbyGreenhill Good to keep quiet then.No one needs to know,
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• United States
13 Jun 16
I'd stick to not mentioning it but if you two were to meet again and he did it, maybe I'd bring her to the fitting rooms lol.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
@AbbyGreenhill Oh I see! If You ever see her again and he checks someone out. Alert her!
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• United States
13 Jun 16
I don't think we'll be shopping in the same store again, they live 3 hours from us.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
@infatuatedbby I would have to catch him in the act with her right there.
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@marlina (154103)
• Canada
13 Jun 16
I wouldn't say anything.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
I agree, my lips are sealed.
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@amadeo (111937)
• United States
13 Jun 16
I went through many times on this.Homeless shop lifting food etc.At one point I offer to pay for it. But he was so embrassed and left the article there and left the market. As for you.Yes,it should be reported.This has an effect on shoppers.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
@amadeo They weren't stealing - he was peeping into the ladies changing room.
• United States
13 Jun 16
I wouldn't report to the store - not much they can do at this point. I meant to tell her about it.
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@amadeo (111937)
• United States
13 Jun 16
@AbbyGreenhill did they get away with the purchase.
@thelme55 (79324)
• Germany
14 Jun 16
I would not tell her and keep my mouth shot. He would deny it anyway when confronted by her girlfriend. In the end, I would be the bad woman if I were you.
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• United States
14 Jun 16
You are right. This secret I'll take to the grave.
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
14 Jun 16
If you feel comfortable you could ask him about it or otherwise leave it alone. I don't think you should mention it to the girlfriend if anything you should ask him about if you are comfortable and if not just let it rest.
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• United States
14 Jun 16
We don't get together often and when we do the next time it will be just for dinner -so not time to talk with him alone. I think for me it's best to let it be.
@psanasangma (7910)
• India
14 Jun 16
Follow what your heart says!
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• United States
14 Jun 16
Yes, and it says keep quiet.
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@LeaPea2417 (40029)
• Toccoa, Georgia
13 Jun 16
I probably would not say anything.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
I bit my tongue then and I'll keep doing so!
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@sofssu (23660)
14 Jun 16
A tricky situation.. I would personally keep my mouth shut if I saw something like that..
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• United States
14 Jun 16
Thanks for your input....now for a roll of duct tape LOL
@LadyDuck (502466)
• Italy
13 Jun 16
I would bite my tongue but keep my mouth shut. I am sure it's better to say nothing.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
Oh I am, they are the type who would sue me for liable or slander or something.
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@miniam (9151)
• Bern, Switzerland
13 Jun 16
@AbbyGreenhill Lol and you thought it right,with the suing going on in the USA
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Jun 16
in this case what can you do, he could simply say you were mistaken, or something. quite sad really
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• United States
13 Jun 16
I'm sure he would deny or tell me I needed glasses or something.
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• United States
14 Jun 16
@Jessicalynnt I don't think, no I'm sure, we won't be shopping with them again for several reasons.
• Centralia, Missouri
14 Jun 16
@AbbyGreenhill pretty much, next time go up and say hey and start talking to him, ask him what he's up too, if he is waiting on his wife, etc, lol, put him on the hot seat but never actually accuse him of anything, see how he reacts
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@JudyEv (382107)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Jun 16
I'd keep quiet. I can't see any good coming out of this for anyone if you reveal what you 'spied'. The woman may not even believe you. And I think it would spoil a friendship.
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• United States
14 Jun 16
I don't think she would believe me, you got that right.
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@shivamani10 (11035)
• Hyderabad, India
14 Jun 16
Better do not reveal it to her.
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• United States
14 Jun 16
That is the popular opinion for sure.
@gr8nana6 (6614)
• Conyers, Georgia
13 Jun 16
I would try to forget I ever saw anything, she might not even believe you should you mention it to her. The best thing would be to not say anything.
• United States
14 Jun 16
I think she would not believe, she doesn't believe a lot of things I say LOL!
@sol_cee (38669)
• Philippines
14 Jun 16
A secret you should keep it. And don't go to any dressing rooms with him nearby.
• United States
14 Jun 16
LOL, I don't plan on shopping with them ever again.
@paigea (36143)
• Canada
13 Jun 16
I would most likely not say anything.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
I've kept quiet for months so far and I think that's best too.
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• Phoenix, Arizona
13 Jun 16
I wouldn't say anything. As you said, they would probably have all types of excuses. Also, if she joked about it once before, it might be something she is already aware of.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
They are like us, always together, so I wonder if she's ever noticed what he does if she does go in to try on stuff.
@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
13 Jun 16
I wouldn't have just passed by him in the first place. I would have caught him red-handed. Just casually approached him and caught him off guard. If there was any misunderstanding, it would have been cleared then and there. If I did pass by him then I wouldn't have been able to keep it from the friends. I would have asked him straight to his face. "What was he doing standing there?" Not in confronting manner either.
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• United States
13 Jun 16
I passed him by because I assumed she was in the dressing room
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
I'd rather not say anything...
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• United States
13 Jun 16
I am not, I've tucked it back into the recesses of my head.
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