Need to Get Out of a Slump
By paigea
@paigea (35830)
Canada
June 21, 2016 12:28pm CST
I was going to title this In a Slump, but decided what I really want is a plan to get out of this slump.
I really don't care about anything these days and therefore; my house is dusty and untidy, I have neglected contact with family and friends. My paperwork for mystery shopping is disorganized and not even contained in one spot. I have not been exercising. There are some deeply worrying family troubles and I am stumped trying to figure out how I can help.
The only thing that pushes me to action is the news that someone is coming to visit.
So, what I need is a plan. 1. I logged into my housework support website (Flylady based) and posted a short To Do list. Those are the people who "get it" when I say
I vacuumed AND put the vacuum away.
Knowing I will get that pat on the back motivates me. How silly is that?
2. I had a big think and I want to be ready for family visits this summer, so there are things that need to be done to create that leisure time.
3. Hubby wants to go on a major trip next winter so there is money that needs to be earned. I want to help make this happen for his sake. I want to organize my paperwork and find more work.
Not sure what else to do to give myself that push to start moving.
Do you have a way to get over a slump?
Knowing I will get that pat on the back motivates me. How silly is that?
2. I had a big think and I want to be ready for family visits this summer, so there are things that need to be done to create that leisure time.
3. Hubby wants to go on a major trip next winter so there is money that needs to be earned. I want to help make this happen for his sake. I want to organize my paperwork and find more work.
Not sure what else to do to give myself that push to start moving.
Do you have a way to get over a slump?44 people like this
45 responses
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
21 Jun 16
I don't hit big slumps, thank God. I might go into hiding for an hour but that's about it. but if you do get in a cleaning mood I have some furniture that needs dusting.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
21 Jun 16
@paigea My husband does more than 1/2 the house work - he runs the vac which saves me a lot of time. With our dog that's a daily job.
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@paigea (35830)
• Canada
21 Jun 16
@AbbyGreenhill Husbands should do their share. And mine certainly does. I "help" a little with the outside work. He does the shopping mainly, cooking, and keeping the kitchen clean. I say I do the dishes but really it will be two plates as he cleans as he cooks. So, the laundry, vacuuming and dusting are my work pretty much because I chose them.
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@koopharper (7523)
• Canada
21 Jun 16
You've started with some clear goals, so you've started out right. I sometimes have trouble with motivation as well. Not sure how to really break out of it. Try and then try again. Eventually I get some momentum.
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@koopharper (7523)
• Canada
6 Jul 16
@enlightenedpsych2 I'm not always sure. I just know that if I keep plugging away eventually a wave of momentum will sweep me along.
@LeaPea2417 (36594)
• Toccoa, Georgia
21 Jun 16
I am in a slump too. The way I get out of it is to close my laptop and force myself to do other things around the house.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49297)
• United States
22 Jun 16
Music really helps uplift my spirit and prayer.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
21 Jun 16
I just have good days and bad days. My house is a mess because I'm too concerned about earning to do much housework.....even my husband cooks most nights now after a long day at work. I thought I would change this once hoome, but so far I've not.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
Family problems can really cause us to slump so when I get into that slumping moment, I always go to the Lord, I pray and believe all the problems will soon come to pass so life has to go on and I must stand and get back to my usual lively and bubbly self.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
21 Jun 16
acknowledgin' the trouble's a great place to start, hon. so glad that'cher takin' the action ya feel necessary to o'ercome such. fer myself, i jest feel better when the house's nice'n tidy. same with the outdoors 'n horses. when i'm able, i'm tendin' to all that i can.
sounds like a bit'f depression weighs heavy'n ya. family troubles can do such, but sometimes schtuff's jest outta yer control 'n ya gotta let others figure't out fer 'emselves. not always an easy task.
big hugs!
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
21 Jun 16
@paigea yes ma'am, but that sink 'r swim sometimes works miracles'n those that're strugglin'.
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@paigea (35830)
• Canada
21 Jun 16
@crazyhorseladycx In one case it hasn't and it is just frightening and heart breaking.
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@JamesHxstatic (29383)
• Eugene, Oregon
22 Jun 16
The only way I know is to get your head down and charge ahead, even when it feels useless. Some of what you do will be sloppy (I know), but the effort will build momentum. Sorry to hear of those intractable family troubles. They are the hardest to deal with because you can't "fix" them. My daughter has been going through some this last few weeks and I have felt helpless.
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@JamesHxstatic (29383)
• Eugene, Oregon
22 Jun 16
@paigea True. Helpless is not a good place for a dad, even when daughter is an adult.
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@paigea (35830)
• Canada
22 Jun 16
@JamesHxstatic Have you found anything to say or do that works?
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@Poppylicious (11133)
•
21 Jun 16
I'm afraid I don't. I seem to live in a cycle of slumping and hyperactivity. No rhyme or reason to it. Hope you fine your Oompf.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
27 Jun 16
Oh I so need to know more about that support group. I am afraid I have been in a slump as well. Those little pats on the back could help out majorly. I am working on the house. I have a daily to-do list in play and I have set up menus as well. I have been decent about following them too. My office is a wreck though. My desk is loaded to the max. As I type this I am sitting at the dining room table. I have the dry recycling (magazines, card board boxes and shredded paper) in my office as well and I need to get it to the recycling drop off. I made a list of major things to do and I am working on them one thing at a time.
Good luck with the chores and the work. 
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
27 Jun 16
@paigea Thank you for the info! I will go search the sheforums out. I do need to add pampering to my list. Sometimes my days are good and other times I feel as if the entire house is falling down around my ears!
@paigea (35830)
• Canada
27 Jun 16
I found my way to that support group through flylady.net . When I loosely follow flylday's system I do good enough and life seems good. My office is a wreck though.
The support group is on sheforums.com
Your list sounds like you are doing very well! When you cross anything off your list pat yourself on the back. And flylady says, put pampering yourself on your list!
Playing with children is definately an important part of the list. More important than a done ToDo list. Take care.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
28 Jun 16
@paigea Anyway,you have to thank that person who is visiting you.Now you have already started an action plan.
@silvermist (19702)
• India
29 Jun 16
@paigea Now that you have started you will make progress.I think it is nice for you that your husband does the shopping,cooks and keeps the kitchen clean.
@paigea (35830)
• Canada
29 Jun 16
@silvermist my husband is retired and he does a lot around the house.
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@jstory07 (135173)
• Roseburg, Oregon
23 Jun 16
Do something online that you enjoy doing and than go and do something that you need to do.
@paigea (35830)
• Canada
23 Jun 16
@Marty1 It is great when we find what works and then do it! I am the opposite. Starting with a book or online drags out too long and then the time is gone before I get doing things! I have to do several things in town today, so I should be getting things organized, not sitting here!!!
@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
24 Jun 16
Not really but maybe just work on getting energy, eating well and talk to yourself. Sounds like you're already getting the ball rolling.
@paigea (35830)
• Canada
25 Jun 16
@MarymargII Forcing oneself, seems the only way.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
25 Jun 16
@paigea It is hard when you are in a slump- I have been too sometimes but force myself out of it after a while :)
