What is the Biggest Challenge you face?
By Shiva
@Shiva49 (28366)
Singapore
July 9, 2016 9:42am CST
Life is no bed of roses.
We are equipped differently in terms of ability but we face some common challenges to survive.
We have to tackle them in personal lives and also at workplace.
At the home front, it is mostly to support our immediate family and also lend moral support.
At workplace, it is to meet the expectations of our employer and stay employable.
The biggest challenge I have faced is the unpredictability of human behavior.
I am a stable person taking maximum care to maintain peace and help others whenever needed over and above what I have to do.
However, there are the few out to take advantage, take others for granted. To prevent them from doing damage is a reality and I think the main reason for the issues we face all over is due to the few unpredictable spoiling our party.
Do you agree? What is the biggest challenge you face in life?
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16 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jul 16
The biggest challenge my husband and I have always faced are financial difficulties.
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
10 Jul 16
Good take.
It is tough to reciprocate the love of parents for their children.
I don't judge anyone as we go through different experiences.
But I do wonder about the hatred that is reflected in the daily news, killings reported as digits as if lives do not matter at all - siva
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@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
9 Jul 16
The biggest challenge I face is a mix of something done to me and my psychological reactions since then. Not able to meet the expectations because of it. 
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
10 Jul 16
I have tried to meet and exceed my own expectations.
When young we are under the influence of others but we have to come out of them over time.
I agree we cannot shake off some experiences that leave lifelong scars but we should step out of their shadows to find our self-worth - siva
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@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
10 Jul 16
@Shiva49 :) You cannot come out of physical scars!
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
10 Jul 16
@hora_fugit I think you should try as otherwise we will be punishing ourselves all the time.
Even some who achieved great successes had very tough childhood but that made them to try harder than those who were molly-coddled - siva
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
10 Jul 16
The biggest challenge for me at the moment is how to mold my students. Teenagers nowadays are very much difficult to handle. Too many distractions around them that make them not to focus on their studies.. And the biggest factor among them all is the media.
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
11 Jul 16
@Shiva49 In order to learn something we have to commit mistakes sometimes. I hope they listen to their parents and teachers who have much experiences to guide them while they are growing up so that even if they commit mistakes, it will not be too serious. Some teenagers think they already know everything that is why they no longer listen.
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
10 Jul 16
It is very tough indeed for the future generation as it is going to be a different world.
Hope they make wise choices from more than what we had to choose from.
Each generation has to go through a test of fire to understand what life is about - siva
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
11 Jul 16
@annierose In a way we were like them too during those years. Parents have always been lamenting about their teenage children being cocky and taking things for granted.
Asian societies tend to cling to children and they are still children to parents whether they are five or fifty!
I let go and told my son if he wants to call the shots he has to take responsibility for his actions too; it cannot be heads I win, tails you lose! siva
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@psanasangma (7910)
• India
10 Jul 16
There are uncountable challenges i ve faced now I could not say which is the tuft one and how I overcome. but I also belive because of this challenges I am at this position now
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@psanasangma (7910)
• India
11 Jul 16
@Shiva49 I agree with you. The problem are never ends and solution come along it also depend on how you deal every challenges according to the situation.
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
11 Jul 16
@psanasangma I agree as each person can be a problem.
We should know how to deal with situations and people.
When we are clear as to what we want then others should get the message - siva
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@crossbones27 (52907)
• Mojave, California
9 Jul 16
I agree those few seem to make life miserable for the vast majority. Maybe, not totally, but enough to notice and for some it is worse than others because they are not that stable to where they can handle such blows.
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@averygirl72 (38847)
• Philippines
10 Jul 16
My biggest challenge too in life is financial. I do get jobs but I get too stress at work I need to quit. I just stay at home and have small time business and online jobs that give me some money but not enough. Being a teacher is too challenging for me. Working with different people with different personalities it challenging for me. I wish life is perfect
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
10 Jul 16
I too cannot take ceaseless stress.
As I have indicated most are man-made.
I want to face challenges with cooperation and not with one hand tied behind by back like when others work at cross purposes.
Though I had the education to take up challenging posts, I wanted those that were more fitting to my general approach to life.
Life is sadly unforgiving with people ready to point fingers at others - siva
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@sofssu (23660)
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11 Jul 16
While I do agree with what you say but my greatest challenge has been 'me'. I know that I am constantly learning and evolving but it really takes hard work to change those things in me that have been ingrained from a young age.. though I know it is not the best way of life. To be happy, to be forgiving, to not expect anything from others etc are something I have had to work hard to teach myself.. and yet I falter at times.
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
11 Jul 16
I think no one is perfect and we are at various levels in terms of overcoming our "internal demons".
We have to keep learning, unlearning and relearning just like software updates are ongoing all the time.
I have succeeded in overcoming negative traits. I accept others as they are and when we do that they are mostly more than willing to reciprocate.
I am able to find happiness in the little things in life and keep away from those that lead to misery.
One is being happy with what I have than think about those I don't - siva
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@nanette64 (20363)
• Fairfield, Texas
10 Jul 16
Your discernment is correct @Shiva49 . My only challenge is staying alive because of my medical issues. Everything else is minuscule.
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@nanette64 (20363)
• Fairfield, Texas
11 Jul 16
@Shiva49 Thank you. Some folks say I'm too ornery to die. 
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
10 Jul 16
When our life itself is at stake others pale into insignificance.
When I have escaped few issues by the skin of my teeth I feel for a while I am very blessed with no challenges.
I have also realized a bigger issue keep others at bay!
Hope you enjoy better health to live a fruitful life - siva
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
12 Jul 16
@nanette64 May you live long as everyone has a right to live till the return journey gets confirmed!
I recall my grandmother who was so afraid to die that I thought she will live forever ! siva
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@innertalks (23734)
• Australia
10 Jul 16
What is the biggest challenge that I face in my life right now, be it outwardly, or inwardly, what is it that I must overcome to move past it?
My current biggest challenge is to reach past the fear that inhibits me from fully living as me.
I think that this fear is of my being able to find my way through the world safely. I fear that I cannot ever find a way for me to do this. The world seems to mainly work against me, not for me.
The trouble is though that I expect myself to do this without my needing to change from who I am right now, but the truth is that we can only move from where we are right now, by changing who we are right now.
Our greatest challenge is always to move from where we are now, to the next step of who we can be in the future of our path, onwardly growing forwards as us. Our path grows with us, being created for us as we grow.
There is no point looking for a new path for ourselves then if we are not growing a new one for ourselves. Our only path will remain our old one, until we change who we are right now.
@innertalks (23734)
• Australia
11 Jul 16
@Shiva49 I read a psychologist's book recently who said that certain types of personality's, set into place when we are young, set up at that time, as a sort of defence mechanism, once thought to be really you, are very hard to change, as they are also set deeply into your subconscious mind.
Funnily enough, this guy said that although counsellors could never change these types, a religious group sometimes can do so. They abandon their individual personality to take on the one that the group that they now belong to advocates, in other words they become a better person, as a result of their doing this.
The good then must group themselves together, and try to reach out to even these types, otherwise the bad groups will grab these types and make them even worse!
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
11 Jul 16
@innertalks Sometimes we are at a vulnerable stage and clutch at straws for survival.
I know some go to mediums for relief.and comfort.
I have some core beliefs like honesty, truth, hard work, that I have stuck to.
Also I won't deviate from those of my forefathers even though I may not agree with them! This is out of regard for the departed.
I have seen few jump from branch to branch to find solace but what they seek is inner peace that has to be cultivated to become a way of life. It need not depend on any particular belief.
Agreed, there are many fence sitters who join with the evil to spite the good. So the good have to stay united than get divided on flimsy issues like it happens now - siva
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
11 Jul 16
Yes, change is the only constant and we have to be nimble to adapt; otherwise, we will be just whirring our engines and deeper into the slush we mire ourselves in!
I do change (hopefully for the better), but not forsaking my core values.
One is with regard to wealth. Most will not miss an opportunity to enrich themselves but I like to restrict myself to my needs.
Though we can be adaptable, we have no control over how others behave and that is the biggest challenge for me. Some just do not care how others are affected by their behavior. I feel the state of the world is due to them, their lack of concern for the well being of majority.
How to change the few as they have easier access to more potent weapons of mass destruction? Also to think beyond weapons don't kill but we do! siva
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@responsiveme (22923)
• India
9 Jul 16
At the home front in my relationships with relations.:)
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@corvinus (159)
• Philippines
13 Jul 16
The biggest challenge I faced so far is a medical one. I suffer from a serious stomach ulcer I thought I was about to die. It also gave me some anxiety attacks. It's true that our stomach is the second brain. When it feels something bad it controls your thinking. Glad that I'm slowly recovering from my condition.
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@beaniefanatic13 (5068)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
16 Sep 16
My biggest challenge is balancing work and home, I never feel like I have enough hours in my day to get everything accomplished. I try not to stress about this as much as I used too, I get what I can done each day and the rest rolls to the next day. Financial problems used to be my biggest challenge, but that has been as bad the past few years. Unpredictability of course can throw a big monkey wrench into a day, sometimes things pop up out of control making priorities shift. I tell myself that your only 1 persona nd can only do so much, after all your human, not superwomen.
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@Shiva49 (28366)
• Singapore
17 Sep 16
I think this applies to all especially to married women with children.
I do my best and accept the reality thereafter.
I work just enough to survive in reasonable comfort but working for others is not that rewarding anyway.
Yes, unpredictability of life can make our planning go haywire and hence I plan only short term but make sure I do enough so that I do not have to depend on others monetarily.
As long as we do our best we get fulfillment and contentment - siva
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