I am so broken....
By Ms Rae
@carebear29 (32002)
Wausau, Wisconsin
August 8, 2016 1:55pm CST
So this morning my husband was taking a shower and getting ready for work when his phone went off next to me. Well, need less to say, it was one of my ex friends messaging him. The stuff I read and the pictures I seen I walked into the bathroom and snapped on him. When I confronted him he said that he heard I was leaving him and was finding someone else. Like seriously? Well, I took pictures with my phone of some of the conversation he had with her and what not as proof.
His lies are worse and he has fully lost my trust. I told him he was warned by me several times if he didn't straighten up I was leaving and taking our son. I would have left by now if I gave up on our marriage. I cried so bad and I even told him after he "blocked" her if he did it again and got caught by me, I was packing up me and his son and he was never going to see us again. And I meant it this time with authority. I am still heated and upset and no longer trust him anymore. He now he to rebuild his trust with me. I told him that the one accusing was the one doing an he has been caught red handed several times by me now. Maybe this will knock some sense into him. I told him I am going to stop trying to save our marriage and move on if he don't help on his part. I also told him "actions speak louder than words."
We will see what he does and what happens from here on out. I told him I should have just packed and left a long time ago but this is his one and final chance. But over all I am emotional hurt and heartbroken. I don't know if I will even get over this...All I can do is pray! TTYL! 
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@yukimori (10192)
• United States
8 Aug 16
Actions do speak louder than words. What you're showing him with your actions is exactly the opposite of what you're telling him with your words. He does things you say are unacceptable, but you keep sweeping them under the rug.
At the very least, I would suggest a trial separation and individual counseling for you. From the outside looking in, there are some very unhealthy dynamics in your relationship. I think getting away from it and focusing on yourself and your son for a while might do a lot of good for you. Finding a local Al Anon meeting to attend (or doing it online) might be beneficial, too, since his drinking has been a problem.
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@carebear29 (32002)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
9 Aug 16
@yukimori We have been through a seperation and I have told him I might do it again til he figures out what he wants.
@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
9 Aug 16
I am with Yuki. It's not about him figuring out what he wants. Consider what you want. Staying for the sake of kids is not an excuse and not a good reason at all. I am a child of such marriage where parents stayed together for the sake of me and my brother. It did NOT do me and my brother any favor. Both of us are super vary of getting emotionally attached in a relationship.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
8 Aug 16
Sounds like it might be past saving...although you may not want to hear that.
I shouldn't have married my husband after he cheated on me while we are dating.....because I still hold that grudge against him. Mostly because he never would admit it, but I had witnesses to what was going on.....and yes, text messages and phone calls between the 2 of them to prove it too.
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@GardenGerty (169448)
• United States
8 Aug 16
With this one? Something I did not know.
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@carebear29 (32002)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
9 Aug 16
@marsha32 Yes I have the proof too
@GardenGerty With my husband
@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
14 Aug 16
please call yer local woman's shelter, hon. ya sound like ya need counselin' 'n a safe place fer yerself 'n yer son. i believe i've mentioned this 'fore? continuin' this downhill spiral aint healthy (mentally nor physically) fer any 'f ya :(
what more proof do ya need that he's not gonna change?
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@carebear29 (32002)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
14 Aug 16
Now that I just went through a similar issue again with him he is a little bit better
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
15 Aug 16
@carebear29 i reckon that means that'cha aint gonna seek some support 'n weigh yer options :(
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@Mike197602 (15504)
• United Kingdom
8 Aug 16
Didn't you say a while ago you had a friend that wanted to take it to the next level?
You seemed pretty open to that which suggests to me your marriage is over.
Why prolong things?
Splitting up is maybe the best option?
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@excellent10 (360)
• Israel
10 Aug 16
Every end is a new beginning .. if you feel there's nothing, maybe it is better to move on..
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@carebear29 (32002)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
11 Aug 16
Yes it does. So far he is doing okay
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@carebear29 (32002)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
9 Aug 16
I know. Everyone of our friends and family knows what he did. They aren't happy
@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
13 Aug 16
I am not sure if things have progressed since this post, but I hope things have improved.
and you have put your own happiness first. If you're happy, people around you such as children are more likely to be happy.
@carebear29 (32002)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
10 Aug 16
So far they are slowly. I can only hope
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
9 Aug 16
I don't know why you keep giving him chances. Kids aren't and shouldn't be the excuse.
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@carebear29 (32002)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
9 Aug 16
I know I shouldn't but I think I gave him his reality check yesterday. Now I think he realizes what is going on
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