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I was told once that if you have a sibling marry someone, especially if said someone then parents a child with said sibling, even if they later get a divorce, you are still a sibling-in-law with that former spouse. And, you know, I'm really okay with that - to a point. My brother is the only one of us who's been married - at least up until this weekend when my sister will get married. He and his first wife also had a child together. However, this woman did her best to isolate him from us. I don't know why, maybe because she personally had a bad relationship with her mother? It didn't work. I don't have the best relationship with my brother, but his relationships with our parents and our other sister were/are fine and strong. Honestly, the only bad relationship in the family was ever between me and my brother, and, honestly, he started the problem - I just never have had the energy to try and mend it. So, when I think of this woman, I think of her as my niece's mother, before they divorced, as my brother's wife - never as my sister-in-law. In the 25 years since my brother divorced her, I have met many of his girl friends. I have liked them all, the first one has some really bad baggage and some out of control kids, but SHE was nice enough. I honestly really like my new sister-in-law, in fact, I've liked her right from the start. I didn't feel like his last girl friend, who I liked well enough, liked me that much. That's fine, I wasn't marrying her and, as it turned out, neither was he... However, this weekend I am gaining another new sister-in-law. And I like this one too. She's actually a little older than I am, about our brother's age. I like this gal better than my sister's last girl friend. Not that I disliked the previous one, I just didn't feel that she was as supportive as my sister needed. I mean, I'm friends with her on Facebook... So, did you know that even former spouses are still your in-laws? Hmmm... I wonder if you can get that undone? Make them... what? out-laws...?