I Felt So Ashamed of Myself !
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
October 5, 2016 1:31am CST
My husband resigned since June and he already did the requirements at his former office sometime ago and was waiting for the release of his last pay already .
But still after how many weeks , he was again texted to appear at the office for some missing 201 files of clients , which my hubby doesn’t like anymore because he said they keep making them go back and every time there is a missing file.
I am a bit pissed by their doing that too . 
Thus , while I talked yesterday to the accountant about it , I was already high pitched . But despite me already annoyed and high pitched , he remained calm .
I modulated my voice when I realized , he was so calm , while I was so stressed already .
So today i went up to husband's former office , I apologized to the accountant and told him in a joking manner that I felt so ashamed of myself because I was already high pitched and annoyed , yet he remained calm yesterday , to which he smiled and said “ it’s okay , please tell your hubby to come here and get his check on Friday “. 
Cool ! It got me thinking why finally they will be releasing already my husband’s check .
Probably , he after all, thought I was right when I told him that hubby will be going to the National Labor Regulations Commission already to complain . Or he realized too that I was right that they just have to look for the files , since they were maybe just there on the filing cabinets ?
Have you experienced being ashamed of yourself too for getting angry while the other person remained calm ?
Thus , while I talked yesterday to the accountant about it , I was already high pitched . But despite me already annoyed and high pitched , he remained calm .
I modulated my voice when I realized , he was so calm , while I was so stressed already .
So today i went up to husband's former office , I apologized to the accountant and told him in a joking manner that I felt so ashamed of myself because I was already high pitched and annoyed , yet he remained calm yesterday , to which he smiled and said “ it’s okay , please tell your hubby to come here and get his check on Friday “.
Cool ! It got me thinking why finally they will be releasing already my husband’s check .
Probably , he after all, thought I was right when I told him that hubby will be going to the National Labor Regulations Commission already to complain . Or he realized too that I was right that they just have to look for the files , since they were maybe just there on the filing cabinets ?
Have you experienced being ashamed of yourself too for getting angry while the other person remained calm ?30 people like this
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
Yes, my husband too is like him . Quick tempered but in a little while he is again nice .
I am hot tempered , though rarely , just when the situation really is very annoying .
And you are right , those who stays calm is the better listened . The calmness shames the other party . 
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
5 Oct 16
in the spur of a moment, we tend to magnify a small dot, and when we see we are barking at the wrong tree, our emotions also die down. i think your emotions that time is understandable. it happens.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Oct 16
@ridingbet Ha ? I think you are entitled to that . Our project based employees - the workers are given their 13th month pay . That is mandatory when you are earning from a company , my friend .
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
10 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD true. Me as a part time employee am also deprived of some benefits like 13th month pay
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@Letranknight2015 (51511)
• Philippines
5 Oct 16
At least that's settled, and the staff probably won't have any grudge or won't feel bad for your hubby's last pay. Reminds of me my last pay in a call center and a staff complained that I should have gotten this earlier. Unfortunately, I should have told her that I kept calling for my last pay and only this time I got it.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
Yes, i was surprised when i asked for an apology that he said it's already for check preparation . I can;t believe it , because he said he will not sign unless my hubby will come and look for the missing ones .
My getting angry has a positive result after all. 
In that case , you are also a calm person , my dear .
My getting angry has a positive result after all.
In that case , you are also a calm person , my dear . 3 people like this
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
@just4him Oh you are so in control of yourself my dear .
Though sometimes i also vent out my anger when i am alone in the room and rant out loud with the walls only , listening
But at least when we do that , we can't hurt any person's feelings .
Though sometimes i also vent out my anger when i am alone in the room and rant out loud with the walls only , listening
But at least when we do that , we can't hurt any person's feelings . 3 people like this
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
5 Oct 16
No it's not my husband's 201 file but some 10 201 files of tenants . So , i suppose they weren't missing just misfiled . I also told them , hubby can come to locate them , but they make sure they release his pay already or else he will go to NLRC to complain .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
5 Oct 16
@magallon Yes , i guess it's that because they know that an employee is entitled to his last pay , when there are no material accountabilities anymore .
And the accountant said , he told the new Accounts receivable clerk look for it after i left .
And the accountant said , he told the new Accounts receivable clerk look for it after i left . 3 people like this
@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
5 Oct 16
Let me get this straight - '201' here is a name of file not that they're missing a total of 201 client files and expected your husband to locate them, right?
Sometimes our emotions would just show up in the tones of our voices when we speak - at least you realized and even apologized for it... I think I did that to my husband before...
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
5 Oct 16
Yes, it's a name of a file and there are missing 10 201 files of the clients . So it means its not literally missing but just misfiled.
Anyway , hubby said he will be going there on Friday , to locate them . He will be surprised he can also get his last pay already . 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
5 Oct 16
@sunrisefan It's a client's file . In there are the files of their payments for the lots they purchased . Although, there is still an e-file for those .
Hubby said , he will be going on Friday and locate them . But the accountant said it's done . Ha? How come so fast ?
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
5 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD Is a 201 file an employee file and not a client's file, Ms. LT?
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@RichardMeister (5328)
• Otis Orchards, Washington
5 Oct 16
Here in the U.S. once you quit a job they don't want to see you again. I've been told, when I quit a job, not to let the door hit me in the butt when leaving. Many places here now require a card to get in the building and once you quit your card is deactivated so you can't get in.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
And do they already give you your last pay outright when you quit ? Here , you have to come back and make a clearance from all departments that you have no accountability , before your last pay will be given .
It seems you are begging for your last pay which you worked for when you were there .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
@RichardMeister DOn't they have to perform a clearance form , to make sure you have no more accountability anymore ?
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@RichardMeister (5328)
• Otis Orchards, Washington
6 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD In today's world here the pay is direct deposit so it goes right into your bank so there is no need to go back.
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@AkoPinay (11544)
• Philippines
5 Oct 16
I am high pitched when I am not angry, I am calm when angry I remember before I left my job, Sales was given to the new hired employee. My superior asked me the List Price I was using, I replied calmly that "I am no longer involve in Sales, you can make your own Price List." 
I remember before I left my job, Sales was given to the new hired employee. My superior asked me the List Price I was using, I replied calmly that "I am no longer involve in Sales, you can make your own Price List." 3 people like this
@MissNikki (5237)
• Maple Ridge, British Columbia
5 Oct 16
I think that in this situation you had the right to be angry my dear. It was kind of you to apologize though
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
Actually , i have been keeping my anger to myself , because they keep making it difficult for my husband to collect his last pay , despite doing the requirements . So , that day , i cannot control being high pitched already . 
Though , i apologized because he still remained cool while i was so angry already .
Though , i apologized because he still remained cool while i was so angry already . 4 people like this
@CoolPeace (1566)
• Miami, Florida
6 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD. I can understand why you are mad because they keep calling him back saying they need this and that and never gave him his check.
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
5 Oct 16
Yes I can very well understand what you must have felt....
It has happened with me also
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
So you think they were scared of my outburst ? Or they maybe just afraid i will go to my boss , who is also their boss and tell her about the withheld last pay of my husband .
As to wanting to see my husband , he has been just there weeks ago .
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
6 Oct 16
My husband gets angry too fast at situations and it's better to remain calm but we can't help ourselves the odd time- so never worry!
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
11 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD Never worry- as I said- we all do it sometimes!
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@Yadah04 (3363)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
i thought you have every right to be stressed and acting that way. who wouldn't be, when they keep on letting your husband come back for his former work. i feel like they are harrassing him or something for not releasing his check. but then, good thing it was released. good for you. and great job on that other person being calm and all. i think we can learn from his demeanor.
i have not yet experienced that, and i do not want to experience it anyway.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
Yes, i know i have the right to get angry already . But Then i felt ashamed i was already high pitched yet the accountant was still soft spoken .
I am thinking , that they signed the clearance of my hubby for the preparation of the check , because for sure if i tell my boss who also their boss , about it , they would be reprimanded for harassing my husband .
I am thinking , that they signed the clearance of my hubby for the preparation of the check , because for sure if i tell my boss who also their boss , about it , they would be reprimanded for harassing my husband .2 people like this
@RitzzView (2994)
• India
5 Oct 16
Yes, absolutely experienced this. Its also the psychological fact that when the other person is calm when we are angry, we tend to be guilty of our behavior. And its good, cause it doesn't provoke two parties arguing endlessly, and also makes us realize our own mistake! :)
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 16
@RitzzView No . I am just curious sometimes . 
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@RitzzView (2994)
• India
6 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD Hehe! Do you really count who lose and who wins the arguments?
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@CoolPeace (1566)
• Miami, Florida
6 Oct 16
They was probably mad because he resigned and wanted to make excuses that files were missing. Regardless they should of gave your husband is last check on time.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Oct 16
You made me laugh saying that .
Hubby resigned because he is not used to having a boss . He is used being the boss that's why in the former company where he is the team leader .
Going back to the issue , yes , the last check should already be given to him since he has complied before what was asked of him . 