Stunning News But I'm Behind Him All The Way
By fishtiger58
@fishtiger58 (29819)
Momence, Illinois
November 22, 2016 9:20am CST
As many of you know my youngest son is in his 3rd year of grad school at Michigan State University. He has one project to present to his professors and he will have earned his Master's Degree in Astro Physics. While he was at Purdue University getting his Bachelor's Degree in Physics he was a happy guy. Then just over two years ago he went to MSU to earn his PhD.
The work at Purdue was a piece of cake compared to his graduate studies at MSU. I started to notice that whenever I talked to my son since going to MSU he always sounded mad or irritated. I thought for the next two years he was irritated with me. How wrong I was.
Recently he told me and his dad how unhappy he is. I was shocked and saddened that he took this long to tell us his feelings. He said he is sick of the garbage he is experiencing at MSU. While it's a fantastic university, the " I'm better than you because you are a 2nd year grad student and I'm a 4th year grad student " has become way more than he can bear. He has decided to take a year off. Heck he may never go back. But now that the decision is made he sounds once again like the happy kid I have always had. And I couldn't be happier. His mental health is so much more important to me than his education. And soon he will have that Masters Degree, in about a month he tells me.
So he will get his Masters Degree and he is doing a research project for his professor that he wants to finish and then he is quitting. I and his dad don't have a problem with this. He is a grown man and can make his own decisions. He still has a bright future and can do almost anything he wants with that Masters Degree.
He is coming home today for Thanksgiving and I can't wait to hold my boy in my arms. I can't wait to see his smile again and look into his beautiful blue eyes.
I don't know what the future holds for my son, but I have every confidence that it's a bright future.
This is a picture of both my sons. Sam is on the right he is my oldest age 25. And Danny is my youngest age 24, on the left is the one at MSU. This was taken in August of this year.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
Yup my older boy loves his beard. He is such a hairy guy like my dad. He can grow that full beard in a week lol. My younger son not so much. He can't grow a full beard to save his life lol.
@amadeo (111937)
• United States
22 Nov 16
@fishtiger58 I have been growing one.But it is not doing so well at this time.Will see it.To keep it or not
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Nov 16
@amadeo Good luck with that and have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving.
@Marilynda1225 (91202)
• United States
22 Nov 16
Your sons mental health certainly should be a priority and I give him a lot of credit for realizing that he needs to step away from his education for now and reclaim his happiness. I'm sure you'll be a happy mom being to hug him when he comes home for Thanksgiving. Both your sons are handsome devils 
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
You can have the best education in the world, but if you are miserable things may not work out for you. I'm also glad he finally talked to me and his dad, he knew we would be behind him in whatever decision he made, it was quitting school that scared him. I am and forever will be proud of him for the person he is and all his amazing accomplishments. Thanks for all your kind words, I think they are handsome too. And more importantly they grew into the good men I had always hoped for.
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@snowy22315 (209208)
• United States
22 Nov 16
Well, if he is not happy with the program he shouldn't continue..Life is too short..sorry to hear it though
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
I am too, but as I said it's his decision. He may take that year off and then go back. Time will tell.
@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
22 Nov 16
Sorry to hear he has been unhappy this whole time. At least once he does the project he is going to do for his professor and he quits hopefully he will be more happy.
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@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
23 Nov 16
@fishtiger58 That is good that he is happier now that he made his decision. Parents always know when something is wrong with their children.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Nov 16
@Tina30219 We really do. Who knows them better than their parents
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
He is actually much happier just with the decision to give it a rest. I am pleased as I knew there was something wrong and he wouldn't tell me.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
Yes people can certainly be mean. It has just been to much for him. Thanks I think they are both beautiful but then I'm their mom.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
23 Nov 16
@fishtiger58 And you have the right to think they are beautiful, but don't tell them that, tell them they are handsome young men.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
24 Nov 16
@just4him Yes handsome lol, I guess beautiful is reserved for girls.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
22 Nov 16
You did what any good parent would do. You stand behind him and you support him in the decisions that he makes. His mental health is far more important. He is blessed you have such wonderful parents. You have done a great job raiding them. Happy Thanksgiving.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
Thanks so much, you kind words touch my heart. They both grew into the men I had always hoped they would.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Nov 16
@Happy2BeMe Thanks you have a happy and safe Thanksgiving as well.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
23 Nov 16
@fishtiger58 that Is wonderful. Enjoy your Thanksgiving.
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
23 Nov 16
I hope he can find a better place to continue his studies for his PhD, but in the meantime, I am glad that he is coming home and will be finished there soon.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Nov 16
I am too. He got home last night and told me he is still stressing about school and not sleeping well. I don't like to hear that. He says once he is all the way done he knows things will improve in the stress department. Should be mid January when he is finally done with it all. But I can see he is happy about his decision.
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@LadyDuck (502886)
• Italy
22 Nov 16
I am sure that he took the right decision. I know that I was not happy in the school where I graduated and I was more than happy when it was over. Life is too short to throw away our best young years. I am sure that from now on he is again a happy guy. I like this photo of your sons.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
He is happy again the way I remember him in his younger days. We so agree with his decision. Thanks I think they are both beautiful but then I'm their mom.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
25 Nov 16
Nice to see you too Jabo. I just needed some time off as well as my son needing the same thing. Life is short as we all know, so I'm glad my son made this decision, he is already much happier.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
22 Nov 16
yes ma'am, ones happiness truly means more'n anythin'. i'm glad he spoke with y'all'n yer saw 't that way. the hubs could learn a thingy 'r 2 from yer hubs'n that aspect. enjoy his visit 'n happy turkey day to all.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
23 Nov 16
@fishtiger58 bless yer heart, i'd be doin' the same. the youngest 'tis to come tomorrow, i've great hopes they turn 'em loose from work 't noon so's they get here 'fore dark. gotta gimme some baby lovin'! aint seen the lil fella'n nearly 3 months now. no doubt i'll be shocked's to how much he's grown :)
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Nov 16
@crazyhorseladycx that's awesome, hope he arrives soon for you. Nothing better than holding you baby in your arms, even when they are all grown up, they will always be your baby. Have a most wonderful Thanksgiving.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
I am pleased he is happy again and with his decision. He should be here within the hour. Every car that goes past the house I'm looking to see if it's him.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
23 Nov 16
@fishtiger58 Happy Thanksgiving to you, too!
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Nov 16
He is much happier with his decision. That's what matters most to me and his dad. Thanks you have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Nov 16
It is horrible, just a needless stressful situation. He made it home safely and thanks. You have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving as well.
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@responsiveme (22923)
• India
23 Nov 16
That is just the right decision you took. You both are very wise. Have a great family time.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Nov 16
Thanks it is the right decision.
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
22 Nov 16
Happy Thanksgiving..
I hope u and your son figure out what is good for you
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
He has made his decision. Maybe in a year or so he will return but we shall see. For now he is a much happier person. That is all that matters to me.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
23 Nov 16
You gotta do what you gotta do. My 19 year old dropped out of college after about a month or so. He never did well in school, and I knew college just wasn't for him. He'll find his own niche in the world. Right now he's working, living with some roommates, paying his bills and his car payment... and has thus far proven to be a very responsible 19 year old. Can't ask for much more than that!
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Nov 16
No you can't ask for more than that. Good to hear he is doing well. Have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving.
@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
I am too, no sense in being unhappy. He is happy again the way he should be. Thanks I think they are both gorgeous but then I'm the momma.
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
22 Nov 16
It sounds like he made the right decision for him....and if he's happy with it that's what matters.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Nov 16
I think so too and am glad he told us about his unhappiness. He is my happy kid again and will be here within the hour. I can't wait.
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