Co-sleeping Mother Charged in Baby's Death

@akalinus (40610)
United States
December 21, 2016 9:41am CST
A Florida mom has been charged with manslaughter for the death of her newborn child. It turns out that this was the second time it happened. Social Services and doctors warned her not to co-sleep. I know a lot of people do co-sleep with their babies and have not had any tragic deaths. There is now a debate on whether co-sleeping is dangerous or healthy. What do you think? Did you ever co-sleep with your babies? Is it safe or dangerous? Do you think the mother deliberately smothered her infants?
A Winter Haven mother has been arrested and charged with aggravated manslaughter in the death of her second newborn baby.
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@vandana7 (98963)
• India
21 Dec 16
In India, in rural places...100 percent of women co sleep with their babies ..no incidence such as this...honestly it depends upon sleeping habits I suppose. If the lady is accustomed to large bed and sleeping alone...that can be dangerous I suppose, because we are so overpopulated and accustomed to sleeping in congested way ...I guess we are programmed differently.
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@Tina30219 (81536)
• Onaway, Michigan
22 Dec 16
Wow all I can say is how sad. Yes I find this a dangerous thing anything could happen. I never slept with my babies or had them sleep with me they had their own bed in their own room. As for this mother you think she would have learned the first time when this happen.
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@Tina30219 (81536)
• Onaway, Michigan
22 Dec 16
@akalinus Me as well. You would think she would have learned from the first time it happened but I guess not.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
22 Dec 16
Yes, if it happened to me, I would be terrified to have baby in bed with me.
@akalinus (40610)
• United States
22 Dec 16
@Tina30219 I agree.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
21 Dec 16
My first response was sorrow for her, then I looked at her history of violence. I don't know if she did it on purpose but I remember as a new mom falling asleep feeding my child at 3am. When I woke up he was on the floor asleep where apparently he'd rolled out of my arms as I fell asleep. I was horrified and so grateful that he wasn't hurt! I never let myself be that sleepy again. New moms and even moms with toddlers are run ragged and often exhausted, we fall asleep at odd times because we are so tired. I'm not going to judge this woman, it's something she'll have to live with.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
21 Dec 16
Sometimes, co-sleeping is the only way you ever get to sleep. I do feel sorry for her, it is terrible to lose a child. I just wonder if this is a coincidence or something more sinister.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
22 Dec 16
It is a horrible thing to live with, knowing that you are responsible for the deaths of two very young babies. What could be worse?
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@mom210 (9041)
• United States
30 Dec 16
I never did, I was just to paranoid. I always had their bed nearby so I could hear them and tend to them though.
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@mom210 (9041)
• United States
31 Dec 16
@akalinus Very true and I cannot imagine what this lady is going through losing not one but two kids. Poor lady.
@akalinus (40610)
• United States
31 Dec 16
Every person has to decide what is right for themselves.
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30 Dec 16
she's had TWO children die that way? oh my gosh! we were co-sleepers with all of our children. i'll be honest, i didn't sleep very well during that time because i was scared of something happening with the children.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
30 Dec 16
I did too. I always woke up if the child even sniffled in its sleep. I always knew where they were and never rolled on anyone. I can't imagine what it is like to lose two young infants that way.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
30 Dec 16
@jillybean1222 Yes, I would not have done it either. I would put the baby to sleep in its own bed and probably watch it breathe all night.
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30 Dec 16
@akalinus if it had happened once, i probably would never have slept with another child. so sad.
@JudyEv (326132)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Jan 17
I never slept with my babies. I guess it is dangerous. Certainly it was in this person's case.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
5 Jan 17
I would think she would be super careful after losing one baby.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
6 Jan 17
@JudyEv Some people just never learn. She would probably do the same thing if there is another baby.
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@JudyEv (326132)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Jan 17
@akalinus You would think that. She obviously isn't one to learn from her mistakes
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
30 Dec 16
We had a crib for our daughters in our bedroom until they were a little older then they slept in the same crib but in their room.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
30 Dec 16
I think it is natural to have your babies close in their earliest months.
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• Greece
22 Dec 16
I did not co sleep with either of my babies, I was too afraid of smothering them.
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@xstitcher (30411)
• Petaluma, California
18 Jan 17
I don't have any children, but if I did I would not sleep with an infant because of that danger.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
18 Jan 17
Yes, each person needs to decide for themselves what is best.
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
30 Dec 16
With the number of arrests she has it is not very much of a surprise. It is more of a surprise that they sent the baby home from the hospital with her.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
31 Dec 16
I hope there are no more babies. If there are, the next one should not go home with her.
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• Philippines
21 Dec 16
I hope she thinks about it while serving in jail as to how babies are important in the mother's life.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
22 Dec 16
I read somewhere that she was so bereft after losing the first child that she did not care anymore. Not an excuse though.
@moffittjc (118570)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Dec 16
About 15 years ago, this very same thing happened to my next door neighbor. She was co-sleeping with her newborn daughter, and rolled over on her during the night, smothering the infant. It was a tragic accident, but she was never charged with manslaughter.
@akalinus (40610)
• United States
21 Dec 16
That is so tragic and the pain she will endure the rest of her life is more punishment than she deserved. Did she ever co-sleep with another child?
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@moffittjc (118570)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Dec 16
@akalinus She has not had another child since then. It really tore their family apart. They had another young son at the time, and that poor boy got caught in the middle of all their family struggles.
@akalinus (40610)
• United States
21 Dec 16
@moffittjc That is such a shame. A family is never the same again when they lose a child.
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@just4him (307132)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
27 Dec 16
I fell asleep only once when I was nursing my daughter. Nothing happened with her. The fact this happened twice to the same woman, and both times the baby was days old, suggests to me there was more going on with her falling asleep with her baby. It seemed deliberate to me and I would have to agree with that police chief.
@just4him (307132)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Dec 16
@akalinus To me it sounds like something else - more deliberate.
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@just4him (307132)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Dec 16
@akalinus I would like to think so as well, but something just doesn't seem right about it.
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
27 Dec 16
No kids here and don't want any but - it just seems like a dangerous idea...I mean co-sleeping
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
27 Dec 16
Some people do and others don't.
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 16
I have never co-slept with my children. I didn't think it was a good idea, for many reasons. I think some independence even as a baby is a good idea. They don't always need to be attached at the hip, they need to be able to sleep on their own. I'm pretty sure this mother had other issues going on...those poor babies. =(
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Dec 16
@akalinus I have seen spoiled babies that every time you put them down they scream because they just want to be held 24/7. With 4 children and one on the way there's no way I could hold a baby all the time-just not possible when I have so much going on.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
22 Dec 16
I learned that if babies get all the attention they need, they are much more independent as they grow older. You can't spoil an infant, they need the attention and contact. I learned that too late.
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@akalinus (40610)
• United States
22 Dec 16
@LovingMyBabies Oh, I know. When one of my babies was in the hospital, they let me read their collection of medical, social books. That is where I picked up that info. Easier said than done.
• United States
21 Dec 16
heart-breakin' :( i watched the broadcast 'n wonder how much guilt her family now carries's well? 't said her sister knew she'd issues'n didn't get the help/support she needed. sadly, 'tis the babe who suffered...'n the one prior.
• United States
23 Dec 16
@akalinus ? there's free classes fer parentin' 'n this gal'd family that could'a (should'a, but that's mighty judgmental 'f me, apologies) seen what they could've done to help her.
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• United States
26 Dec 16
@akalinus agreed, but perhaps they did?
@akalinus (40610)
• United States
22 Dec 16
There really is not much help for young mothers.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
21 Dec 16
I think there is more to the story and we will probably never know it.
@akalinus (40610)
• United States
21 Dec 16
I think they will go into every detail and her history and everything. I wonder if the babies had some genetic disorder that killed them.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
24 Dec 16
@akalinus yes me too
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