I Have To Visit Him
By jaishankar
@else34 (13515)
New Delhi, India
February 21, 2017 7:00am CST
My father has asked me to visit one of his friends and hand over some documents to him.This friend of his is a chartered accountant.I personally try to avoid visiting this gentleman,because whenever I visit him, he treats me so meticulously and respectfully as if I am a very important,respected guest.Is not being given so much,unnecessary importance by an elderly gentleman embarrassing for a young man?
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@silvermist (19701)
• India
21 Feb 17
@else34 I think he is treating you affectionately,He is your father's friend.So he is treating you like his own son.Nothing to feel awkward.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
22 Feb 17
&silvermist,Yes,I know he loves me like his own son.He's an elderly gentleman of my father's age,but my father is not the only good friend he has.He has a big friend circle and he has many good friends.Their sons never get the same affection and respect from him.
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@silvermist (19701)
• India
22 Feb 17
@else34 Any way do not worry.Show him the respect and affection he deserves,in return.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Feb 17
@silvermist Yes,I respect him.In fact,he is one of the few persons who I respect.My problem is that the affection and respect showered on me by an elderly gentleman who is of my father's age leaves me utterly embarrassed.
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@luisadannointed (11842)
• Philippines
21 Feb 17
I think it isn't. For. Me I think it is a treasured experience that we youngster should follow as an example to be good to everyone we meet no matter of age or status in life.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Feb 17
You're right.It's indeed a treasured experience, but my problem is that when he showers so much affection and respect on me that I get badly embarrassed.If he finds something in me that he likes,only a pat on my back is sufficient to convey his appreciation for me.After all,he's of my father's age.Hope you got it.
@Fishmomma (11658)
• United States
25 Feb 17
Sounds like a wonderful gentlemen, who likes you a lot. I understand that you want to visit him and leave right away, but think you should do what you feel is best for both of you now.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
25 Feb 17
&Fishmomma Yes,every inch a gentleman and a man of noble character as he is, I hate to disobey him.But as he is of my father's age,I can't treat him as my friend with whom I can be informal.
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
22 Feb 17
let him have his moment, perhaps it is his way to show respect, or to make himself feel good. I am sure it's odd, but meet respect with respect, and it will all be fine
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
22 Feb 17
&Jessicalynnt He's a nice man and has a big friend circle.I know know he loves me and respects me,but what leaves me puzzled is that I am the only one among all the sons of his friends whom he loves and respects so much.My father also is not the only good friend he has.I get embarrassed because he's of my father's age.....I don't know how to describe what I feel.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
23 Feb 17
@Jessicalynnt I'd like to say it's affection and appreciation.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
22 Feb 17
@else34 well, it sounds like an honor
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Feb 17
&JudyEv, You're right.He's among the few persons in our area I respect the most.But he is of my father's age.My problem is that,by nature,I can't be informal with him....Still I'll try.
@Aushaw (880)
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21 Feb 17
Oh! Relax. Nothing is wrong. Maybe that is how he is brought up or maybe he would have heard something very respectable about you from others. Maybe that , might be making him respect you. There is nothing to feel embarrassed. You are saying he is giving you respect and importance not disrespect so why upset and if you feel so much difficulty in that just go hand over documents and leave saying you have got some work, that's all or still if you want , you also respect him just like how he does and leave the place soon after handing over the documents.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Feb 17
&Aushaw,I think so too.He doesn't let .me leave so easily and so early,insists me to sit and talk to him. That day I couldn't leave him after handing over the documents, it took me about half an hour to be back home.But,I agree,you're right.I would have to take it easy.I'll follow your suggestions.
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@Aushaw (880)
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24 Feb 17
@else34 Thank you buddy. Very nice of you.
If you are finding it very difficult to handle him during your emergency times, just let your father know that he takes lot of time to leave you so you will not go because I too do the same
when i am in such very difficult situations.
when i am in such very difficult situations.1 person likes this
@ptrikha_2 (49753)
• India
21 Feb 17
May be, you can try to talk a little about some general issues in society or politics, or some other random talk. And just feel fine. Its good to be in company of such nice people who are quite rare these days.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
22 Feb 17
&perishable 2,whenever I'm with him, he generally asks me questions about my hobbies and my studies.Sometimes he tells me about his childhood and his school and college life.It is not that I don't want to remain in his compony. I get utterly embarrassed only when he heaps on me the amount of affection and respect he never shows to sons of his other friends.He's a nice gentleman of my father's age.Hope you understand how we Indians behave with our elders.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
24 Feb 17
Is it not better than ignoring you as some old people treat youngsters. You are really lucky.
