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I grew up with parents who fought an y elled at each other eery day and had migraine headaches till I m oived out as a you ng adult then never had another one I hate those fioghts

I didn't. I just hate it so much. Oppositional and defiant is very hard to handle. And he's a teen too.

@Hatley ....I wish they would quit but maybe this is just how they communicate. I will put my ear buds in next time.

He has but it seems to make an outburst horrid cause we aren't used them happening all the time like we used to be.

He's 14. The oppositional and defiant part of his personality is better but it still comes to the surface at times. Especially when he doesn't get what he wants.

@celticeagle so the teens angst just kicks in at times but I bet he can be a oretty nice kid at times then

@Hatley .....He is a great kid. Smart, funny. But there are times.....

It does get old.

@TiarasOceanView .....Poor Cami. Some nights she will go through hell getting him to finally go to bed. Then she goes to do something else and ten minutes later he is coming out of his room again.

@celticeagle Yes and a minutes peace is all we get, never fails huh?

He'll be grown and hopefully have a better take on things. He is a teen and so I think part of it is because of hormones.

@celticeagle yes hormones are awful in the teems I was both shy and also prone to tears a mess as a teen

@celticeagle If he is ODD that's more than just normal hormones I would assume. What I am getting at is you seem to be the glue that holds the three of you together. Let's hope they can fend for themselves in time.

Yes, but his mom is milk toast and doesn't want to listen to it so she gives in. That doesn't help anyone. She knows but......Wha, wha.

@Jessicalynnt ....Cami can't seem to do that. I try to redirect them to something else. Talk about something else. He can't deal with that.

@celticeagle I read something once that said arguing just feeds into the kids fit. Say it once, only repeat if you honestly dont think they heard you, and then let the consequences fall where they may, Ive done this, modified with toddlers, depends on the kid and the situation. For snacks, I'd have them set out before he got home, and be busy doing something else, he can eat or not.

It sure can be.

Maybe I will have my daughter pick some up at the hardware store down the road.

I am committed though so can't do that.

I know how that is. Tough love is just that, tough. On everybody.

I've written extensively about them. Long story. I actually live with my daughter. She asked me in 2009 to come and live with them again and help her raise her son. He is ODD. Has gotten better but still has angry outbursts.

THank you. It has gotten better but not ideal.

@Happy2BeMe .....That is all I can do.

@celticeagle Just take one day at a time. I know it can be hard on the nervous.