Betrayals, So Many Betrayals!
By Catherine
@bluesa (15022)
Johannesburg, South Africa
April 3, 2017 7:32am CST
I don't hate men, I don't, really, it is just that I will not take nonsense from them. I am full of nonsense, so why would I want to add their nonsense to mine. (Note, men, I have said I am full of nonsense too)!
I don't have patience, I don't want to compromise. I like doing things my way. This is probably why at 40 I am still single and quite frankly happy being single. I also think I have saved myself trouble many times by being the way I am.
The more I see female friends of mine get hurt or disappointed or betrayed by men, the more sure I am just to have men as friends in my life. Though I know women can betray too.
And, sadly, a fellow female friend has badly betrayed a, uhm, fellow female, but, she has betrayed her with a man she knew hurt her. And the man knew that if he could get this woman to turn on her friend that it would hurt her, which was his goal!
It's a true pity the woman was more than happy to accommodate him with his goal. Okay, she is blindly in love with this man, but, it's all very upsetting!
Would you betray a female friend with a man you knew hurt her? And for men, would you remain friends with a man you knew hurt a woman?
Photo is a stormy afternoon during this Summer, I had to snap this shot, my mood on this is as stormy!
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
3 Apr 17
@TheInvisibleMan , don't be sad. I really don't hate men, I just am careful about trusting men. A lady has to look out for herself these days.
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
3 Apr 17
I'm sorry to see you feel like this about men. I was told that men don't think with their brains.
Be happy, I'm sure there are other men who can be trusted (very little but there are still some)..
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
3 Apr 17
@atoz1to10 . Yes, as I said, I don't hate men, I am just careful about trusting them. I am a usually happy person, moody, but happy. I am sure that there are men who can be trusted, as I said I am full of nonsense too. I just prefer being single in this crazy world today.
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
3 Apr 17
@bluesa As long as you are happy that's OK... Stay happy, and yes, men can't be trusted 100%... 
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@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
3 Apr 17
I would never deliberately betray any friend, certainly not with a man who had hurt them. That doesn't mean I wouldn't stay/be friends. I have one friend, in particular, who is very sensitive and if I stopped being friends with everyone who'd upset her, there would be nobody left (including myself!)
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
3 Apr 17
@pumpkinjam , yes, if a friend is overly sensitive I would also hesitate ending a friendship for them. But in this case the person was not overly sensitive and it's sad she was so betrayed. I can't understand how her friend could betray her like that.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
10 Apr 17
I have been hurt by men many times as well. I feel like I can't live with them and can't live without them though. Being the way you are is good as it seems to work for you! I would never date a man that a close friend of mine had dated that just is not a nice thing to do.
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@antonbunot (11146)
• Calgary, Alberta
26 Apr 17
God said : "Go on earth and multiply!" . . So, everyone should get married. But, wait, how come the priests don't get married. How come the nuns don't get married. They are not following what the bible says . . . Nah, let us forget that multiplication thing. . . 
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Apr 17
Hehehe @antonbunot , there you go, see, it is all very confusing, isn't it...so, I'll just keep not multiplying 
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@antonbunot (11146)
• Calgary, Alberta
26 Apr 17
@bluesa Well, my wife and I already multiplied . . 2X2 equals 4 kids. . . . In fact, the reason why I quit my vocation to the priesthood (I studied for 7 years in the seminary to become a priest) was because of the "Heavenly Order of multiplication" . . . . 
. . . In fact, the reason why I quit my vocation to the priesthood (I studied for 7 years in the seminary to become a priest) was because of the "Heavenly Order of multiplication" . . . . 1 person likes this
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
3 Apr 17
I never could betray a female friend with a man I knew hurt her of course. And I can't stand a man who hurt a woman even if he happened to be my friend. In fact, I had a friend who left his wife for another woman and since then, I've given him cold shoulder. I hate cheaters.
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I agree.
@1hopefulman (45111)
• Canada
4 Apr 17
Men betray, women betray! Men hurt, women hurt! What's new? 
Would I want to go and live on an island all by myself? Not really!
Life is what it is!
Would I want to go and live on an island all by myself? Not really!
Life is what it is! 1 person likes this
@1hopefulman (45111)
• Canada
5 Apr 17
@bluesa Your choice and you can always change your mind either way. God gave us two gifts, marriage and singleness and both have their advantages and disadvantages, their joys and sadness.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Apr 17
@1hopefulman , yeah, true, but I enjoy having my friends and will leave relationships to other people
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@PainsOnSlate (21845)
• Canada
7 Apr 17
I hope I never have the opportunity. I married my college sweetie 5 years after meeting him and this year is our 50th anniversary. I can't even imagine being single now, I imagine its not that much different from when I was in your shoes, I think your friend's partner is a loser she should be glad he's gone.(and the women too)
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
12 Apr 17
@PainsOnSlate this betrayal has eaten her up inside. A 16 year friendship has ended. But yes, it is better those "friends" are out of her life.
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@DianneN (254949)
• United States
3 Apr 17
It's so difficult to not get involved when it's a friend that's been hurt. However, not all men or women are like that. I happened to have been blessed with a real gem of a husband. Hopefully, you will find the perfect man for you, who will love and respect you.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Apr 17
@DianneN , I know this is not always the case, it just seems to happen to more and more of my friends. I know for sure you have a gem of a husband and I am so happy you have each other. If I am meant to meet someone I will and yes he would have to respect me, I am one feisty lady!
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Apr 17
no, i would not ever do that. i should be a compassionate friend to her and not abuse her vulnerability. so sad to know about that betrayal issue with a female friend.
and like you, i enjoy being single, and my son is more than enough to make me happy.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Apr 17
@ridingbet , it was a very sad moment to realise she betrayed her friend so easily.
Yes, sometimes it is best to be single and take care of oneself.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
@bluesa yes it is true. i am glad though because the father of my son made me a woman by me bearing my son. now, i am a very single parent.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
3 Apr 17
I am sorry to hear this. I would never betray a friend.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
3 Apr 17
@Happy2BeMe , yes, I was shocked that this woman chose the man who hurt her friend over her friend.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
3 Apr 17
@bluesa It is sad. She must not have been a true friend or she never would have done that.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
7 Apr 17
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I'm 35 and chronically single. I admit, at times I wish I had someone. But so many of my female friends say how they were betrayed , treated poorly, controlled, etc. It is probably less stressful to remain single. Now -- of course -- they are probably some abusing women out there too....
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
8 Apr 17
@FayeHazel , oh definitely. Like this woman was quite happy to betray her friend with the man she knew hurt her. And yes, I have a friend whose wife cheated on him. That's why I am quite happy being single, it seems betraying someone is too easy these days.
