Yesterday was awful and today isn't going how I had hoped either
@shaggin (74987)
United States
May 2, 2017 2:34pm CST
Last week my son and I went back to the counselor and she told us my son was diagnosed with Aspergers, anxiety and depression.
Yesterday he was in a horrible mood and cried all through the two live classes he had. He was awful while we went for a walk so I grounded him from the ps3. That made his rageing worse. I called his counselors office to see if he could be seen sooner then May 18th to discuss getting him on medication.
We went to see her today and she wants to have me do breathing exercises with him and did not set up an appointment for him to see the psychiatrist again so that means no medication. He has done therapy many times over the years it is time to move to medicine so he can get through life easier. Medicine is a last resort to me and that is where I am at with him. I'm frustrated now.
I drove an hour to that appointment then another hour to my dentist where I am at now. Then it will be an hour home.
We had a bad storm last night and the entire town has been without power for about 16 hours. It is the entire country with so much damage and black outs that elecricty is not expected to be turned back on for about 3 days is their estimate.
I have no running water. All our food is going to spoil. At least I have a propane stove so we can cook food. At least I have my cell to make calls and texts since the WiFi is out.
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
8 May 17
At least he has someone now when understands his diagnosis so that is much further then we have gotten before this. She does not know how much we have worked on his behavior over the years and how involved with am as a parent. It's hard when someone comes in the middle and sees how they have are and doesn't have a total picture of what we have been dealing with. Breathing exercises are not going to help this kid and therapy will only help just so much which is what we have already gone through many times.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
2 May 17
We have no water right now but it's because hubby didn't pay the bill. Unfortunately, I don't have access to his money to go pay it and he won't get back to town from work in time to pay it. We will have to suffer it out until tomorrow when he can pay it and wait until they come and turn it on some time.
Your son sounds just like my grandson....the only thing that really hurts him is to take away his devices when he is misbehaving....and as you say, it makes the raging worse.....which in turn he hasn't learned yet that that prolongs the punishment.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
4 May 17
@shaggin My husband doesn't pay anything on time. Cable will be next and if it's off when I get home Friday then off I will go to stay at my mom's house.
My daughter paid the water for us so it could be back on that day....hubby did give her the money when he got back in town from work. They only let you go about 3 weeks late before they shut it off. He was acting all mad about it, but I had mentioned to him twice that it was past due and both times he told me he would get it paid.
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
4 May 17
I do not really care for the ideas of what the counselor wants me to do for his behavior. Therapy has only helped just so much it's time to go a step further and give him medication so he can live a calmer less angry life. That stinks your water was shut off. You were estimating just a day it would be out so that is manageable. I hope it is back on now. Was it long overdue is that why they shut it off?
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@Shellyann36 (11383)
• United States
3 May 17
I am so sorry to hear about all of the problems with your son and the doctors. I know how frustrating it is. The doctors /therapists are not the ones who have to live through the incidents. I hope that a solution will be found that works for your family.
So sorry the electric is out. Hugs to you. 
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
8 May 17
I've been trying to get caught up on the comments here a little each day. With all the frustrating I just haven't felt like being here much. My son has been good for about a week now and I am thankful for that. He was grounded from the PlayStation for a week and was allowed to have it back today and he actually didn't want to go on. I was quite pleased with that.
@Shellyann36 (11383)
• United States
8 May 17
I hope things are going alright. How is your son?
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@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
14 May 17
Sorry to hear you have now power hope it comes back on soon. So sorry to hear your son is having a rough time I hope they get him put on some type of medication soon so things can get better for him and you.Hang in there you are doing everything you can for him.
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
14 May 17
I don't think they intend to put him on medication :-\ I am so miserable right now I don't even know why I am on here. I haven't seen my boyfriend in a month. He stopped responding to my texts and messages around noon on Friday. I know he saw the messages as they show on Facebook they were read. Not being able to see him I can handle but him ignoring me for no reason reply bothers me. He hasn't even texted me wishing me a happy mother's day. I was supposed to go out to dinner at a buffet with my parents and sister but I am feeling to sick because of all this to go.
@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
15 May 17
@shaggin They need to do something or find someone who will. Sorry to hear about your boyfriend was going to ask how that was going now I know.
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
3 May 17
I don't think I am strong at all. People say that to me at all but they don't see me crying on the couch while my son is raging in his room. I guess it's okay to cry though doesn't necessarily make me weak. Thank you so much for your kind words.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 May 17
I'm sorry your having such a rough time lately. =( I hope you get electric back sooner than 3 days. I remember being without it for around 5 days or so when the hurricane hit here. Gosh it was awful!
@shaggin (74987)
• United States
5 May 17
Wow I can't imagine not having it for 5 days. Even with candles my kids were very scared. It came back on after about 26 hours I think it was. Not my furnace is smoking again so I can't use it. I had to have my man drop my heater off that he borrowed a few months ago. It's the first time I've seen him in weeks and it was only for a second. I feel like crying!
@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 May 17
@shaggin , I hate it when someone you are entrusting with your family's health does not listen! She should realise that breathing exercises are too mild for what your son is going through. I hope you can eventually get the medication he needs. I also sat without power for three days last year, we barbecued all the meat we could, so it wouldn't go off. I hope you have power back by now.
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
8 May 17
Our power is back on now. It was off for along time then it was restored and then went it again the next day. I think everything will be good from here on out with the electricity thankfully. I haven't even tried the breathing exercise yet but I will give it a try soon just to say we did it. You are exactly right that is just to mild for what we are dealing with.
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@PainsOnSlate (21845)
• Canada
16 May 17
Sounds like a nightmare to have no power for that long. I hope you can get some help for your son, and find a way to make your life and his more comfortable.
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
16 May 17
Thankfully there is only about 18 days left of school and the summer is usually much easier for us since most of my son's issues are over having to do school work. He needs to learn how to handle it now so he can learn to be a good worker someday.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
3 May 17
Oh god. Im so very sorry to hear all of this. I hope things gets better for you soon
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
3 May 17
Thank you! Everything that could go wrong the past three days has at this point it's just becoming comical to me. Yesterday when we stopped at McDonald's I locked my keys in the van. Thank God my son's door didn't lock for some reason or we would have had to call a tow truck. Then the next stop when I went to pay for my groceries at Walmart I left my wallet in the van. Thankfully I had my purse with me and have an emergency credit card my mother has with my name so I was able to pay for my things without having to go back out to the van. Then at about 3 am this morning when the power came back on I set the clock incorrectly so at 7:30 am we got up thinking it was 10am and we were late to start school.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
3 May 17
@shaggin oh man. So sorry. Hope things turn around quick
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
8 May 17
I just don't see things smoothing out much in the future except for the weather so that is upsetting for me.
@shaggin (74987)
• United States
7 May 17
We got our electric back and then less then a day later it was out for another 12 hours or so when we got another storm with heavy winds that did more damage. Hopefully this is the last we will have to deal with these issues. When the electric went out this time we had a sink of soapy water from doing the dishes so that made things easier we could at least rinse our hands off in it when we needed. Laundry and dishes were quite backed up but soon that will be all taken care of. I had a busy day yesterday and today and then things will calm down tomorrow.
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