People who complain about the same things over and over
By snowy
@snowy22315 (171499)
United States
May 13, 2017 1:43pm CST
So, I belong to a group online where people talk about relationships. One of the women in the group now this is the 3rd time 3rd relationship that I know of, and I presume her first husband was too, although I didnt know her then is involved in another relationship well actually she is married to this one..and is always talking about how insensitive they are and how they don't care about her feelings..Umm Hello, who is picking these men? I also think she is probably too needy and too hypersensitive. I don't think anyone will ever fulfill her needs. I also wonder if she cares about their needs..although from what she describes she does try to be accommodating. I think she sees dollar signs and picks the men for that rather than how they treat her..well anyway..I am getting tired of listening to her..I can just imagine how the men must feel!
, We can't fix it for her..Do you know people like that?
, We can't fix it for her..Do you know people like that?7 people like this
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
13 May 17
Guilty as charged! Not about relationships but I do tend to moan and complain about 2 main things constantly--the unrelenting sunny weather here and my inability to afford health insurance. I'll try to be better!
On relationships, I had the same problem that woman has. My last relationship ended after a 19 year marriage. After much reflection and reading, I decided that I always choose the wrong man because there is something wrong with me. Maybe the type of man I'm attracted to represents love to me but it never turns out that way. Since I can't afford therapy--and I have no insurance to pay for it anyway--I decided to swear off romance and enjoy life as a single woman.
I'm been very happy by myself. Maybe she should do some hard thinking and quit expecting men to make her happy? I found that only I can fix myself and if I can't, I can at least remove the thing (men) that makes me miserable. Maybe she'll find that out if she'll swear off men for a year and concentrate on why she can't pick a suitable mate. People usually make the same mistakes in each relationship but since they don't bother to examine the causes of the failure they keep failing.
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@snowy22315 (171499)
• United States
13 May 17
Like I said, I really believe she is motivated by money..and she overlooks alot of things if the money is right and then wants to complain about them later.
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@snowy22315 (171499)
• United States
13 May 17
I am a bit of a whiner too..but truly, I would be embarassed to complain about the same relationship pattern constantly.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
13 May 17
@bunnybon7 I am so glad that you got to experience that! I never have and probably never will but that's alright.
My dad and stepmother had a marriage made in heaven. After both were divorced they met each other. My stepmother said the secret to their happiness was that they were always thinking of the other, what would please them, not what would please themselves. I'm so glad they found each other and had such a long time together.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
13 May 17
I had known a former friend who was very needy.
It was sad.
I was the opposite, too hard entirely, which can be bad too.
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@snowy22315 (171499)
• United States
13 May 17
sorry she is having problems..because she does seem to be a nice person..but no one can fix her, but her.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
13 May 17
@snowy22315 Yes, it is herself only.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
13 May 17
i have a close friend like that for years now. but when we are talking (on the phone, since she lives far away now), i try and change the subject or just ask her why she don't just let go and look for a better choice. i keep assuring her i care but some days i just have to say i got to go for some (made up) reason. lol
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@snowy22315 (171499)
• United States
13 May 17
I had to DC a friendship with someone who kept making the ridiculous choice to try to get her man back even though he was with someone else. This woman I was talking about earlier..is nothing like the other woman..I mean she also was unreliable as a friend..so it had more to do with that than anything else..but she was absurd!
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@snowy22315 (171499)
• United States
13 May 17
@bunnybon7 Sometimes people might care, but they just aren't right for each other, or bring out the worst in each other. She seems to bring out the worst in her guys for sure.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
13 May 17
@snowy22315 my friend just always seems to want to get married. as if that makes a difference. she finds out every time it doesnt. but still wants it. like i told her as someone who knows and never wanted marriage but pushed into it 5 times it doesn't mean he loves you.
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@snowy22315 (171499)
• United States
14 May 17
It's certainly a form of drive other people crazy lol.
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@snowy22315 (171499)
• United States
13 May 17
True...I think she attracts them..but really she doesn't consider how she might be contributing to this. The fact that it happens over and over means clearly she needs to do something different.
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@JudyEv (327213)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 May 17
@snowy22315 They say that about abused wives. Some seem to get into the same situations again and again.
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@slayer08 (2377)
• Philippines
13 May 17
Yeah and they are no longer my friends. And my life is so much better now. But.... people who complain a lot are everywhere . Complaining is addictive so people will co plain about almost everything they see. These people are the worst next to those who gossip and weaves stories about you.
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@snowy22315 (171499)
• United States
13 May 17
I mean she chose them! She knew what he was like..but her argument would be..well he was trying to lure me in..maybe he was..but still..get a clue lady!
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@DesirousDreamer (34780)
• Peoria, Arizona
13 May 17
I have known so many people like this and it is mostly for the money and looks. Goodness, I wish for her happiness, but I also hope that anyone that has been with her doesn't think that all women are this nuts. Haha!
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@snowy22315 (171499)
• United States
13 May 17
Well, she defintely isn't attracted by her current husband's looks, she always said he looks like Homer Simpson, but in addition to his money she liked the fact that he was a committed parent, and did volunteer work in the community, and initially he was her soft place to fall, but now it all seems to be shot to Hell.
