THEY KEPT ON TRYING.

The guy I wrote about is a farmer as well- a small one. He has about ten acres of food crops and a few cattle.

@Kandae11 All farmers, certainly in days gone by, were anxious to have a son to carry on the farm.

@JudyEv These days - and in my area, the grown children are anxious to move to the city.

@Kandae11 i know. Just not fully ready

There is still time for you to do that.

@Kandae11 - Yeah, you are right that people are still carrying the legacy of old Kinds and Lords. The mind set of people are changing but not the extent required. In some of the countries e.g. Indonesia females outscore males.

I think this obsession began many centuries ago when Kings and Lords needed a male heir to succeed them. Both men and women have important roles to play for the continuity of life on this planet, therefore ideally there should be a 50/50 ratio.

I think that one-child policy caused a lot of additional problems.

@Kandae11 You said it right. I had read that some couples get rid of the unborn infant if they found out that it is a girl in China. That's the reason why it was banned in clinics or hospitals to use diagnostic ultrasound.

@Kandae11 Having 2-4 kids is optimal I think.

He has a small farm , so at least they wouldn't starve- but I am not sure about their chances for college - unless his financial status changes.

@Kandae11 I cannot afford to send either of my girls to college. Any schooling they desire is on their own heads. What I don't like is that we may not be able to afford to provide them with any part of a wedding either, but they both know and understand our finances and know they may need to save toward that themselves. My dad was self-employed and mom worked until I was born and then again when the youngest was almost done with school. Although they didn't send any of us to college, I do have one sister that went under her own steam. They were able to pay for my first marriage at least. I know know whether they continued with the rest of my siblings as most of us married at a later age, myself included the second time around.

@MarshaMusselman Thankfully, an enterprising person can still be successful without going to college.

@Kandae11 So true, I find it very sad. :-( So, it may not be the gender you wanted, but it is your child....

@Kandae11 Exactly. So long as they are healthy, that's the main thing. As much as I wanted to have a boy and a girl, my kids being healthy was more important to me.

I thought I was getting a girl, but I was equally happy when a boy arrived. A healthy baby is the most important.

@Kandae11 Yes we love them whichever one we get. But I did want a boy, I dreamed him up even, and I got him lol And I knew the whole time, though I never knew the gender of the baby.

When I was five months pregnant, friends decided that I was getting a girl because of the way I looked so I started looking up names for girls. However, a month later an ultra sound showed that my baby was a boy , and I was still happy.

@Kandae11 yes i hope the son won't become a spoiled brat. his sisters will be jealous of him.

Well, they finally got what they wanted.I just hope they don't spoil him too much.

I decided to have one child - and girl or boy didn't matter to me as long as the child is healthy. I got a boy and I am satisfied.

@Kandae11 That's the best way to be. Enjoy what you have. People used to ask me if I was disappointed not to have a girl and I told them .i was happy with my sons and that's true.

I have one child - a son, and I am quite happy with him.

@Kandae11 well then the government and taxpayers will wind up doing it

@Kandae11 that will hard for them then

I hope they can - they are between middle class and poor.

Yes, it is beginning to change.

I think producing a healthy child is the most important.

I know you would have liked to have a girl , but I also know that you are very happy with your three boys. I thought my baby was going to be a girl, but a boy turned up instead and I was still very happy.

Those are the important things - healthy happy kids.

I wonder how their parents cope.

@Kandae11 I think any child is a gift from the God .

That was nice.

Same here, I got a son and I am satisfied.