THOSE TEENAGE YEARS.

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@Kandae11 (53771)
May 23, 2017 8:59am CST
On my last discussion titled "They Kept on Trying" - an interesting response by @thehousewife made me think of these three questions : (1)As a parent, do you think it is harder to raise a boy or a girl - especially through those turbulent teenage years ? (2) Which sex do you think faces the most pitfalls in life?. (3) Were you a teenage terror , or gave your parents very little trouble? As a teenager, I was a bookworm until age eighteen when I went on my first date and started going to parties. Up until then, my parents didn't have too much to worry about where I was concerned.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
23 May 17
I have raised two sons. I was the only girl with two brothers in my family. None of us gave our parents anything but pleasure.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 May 17
For real?
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
That is wonderful.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
23 May 17
I was a horrid little boy until I was around 11 then turned into an angel. My brother was awful all the time. My sister we could have cheerfully killed and my little brother was good too. My daughter was delightful until she reached 13 then thought she was 33 and a nightmare until she turned 18. I see some of her traits in her daughter and I laugh my head off!
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
23 May 17
@Kandae11 That is true and thankfully not one of us came to the attention of the police so they must have done something right with us! All hard working honest folk.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
Your parents had a mix of the good and not so good. Children are so precious - even though precocious at times.
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@amadeo (111948)
• United States
23 May 17
when I was a teenage many years ago.I was hell on wheelsLOL
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
You were?. At least you survived.
@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
23 May 17
as far as pitfalls that depends on the person,,i did more or less what i wanted to do but never got in trouble
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
You are perfectly right - it depends on the person.
@just4him (308372)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
23 May 17
Each of my children were different. My oldest - boy - was difficult through all his years, not just the teenage years. My daughter was easier, but the teenage years were difficult. My youngest was the easiest of all, and no problems during the teenage years. I wasn't a problem to my parents at any age.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
I raised my son without a father and I must say he turned out splendidly. From a child through his teenage years I have received compliments on how courteous and well mannered he is. I am very thankful.
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@just4him (308372)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
23 May 17
@Kandae11 That's great!
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
24 May 17
I was raised in a foster home and my foster mother told me boys were easier to raise. She said when boys become quiet you know they are up to something. Girls are quiet all the time so you never know when they are up to something they shouldn't be. I was not a teenage terror.
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
24 May 17
@Kandae11 A coworker told me his boys were playing in their room. It got quiet so he went in to see what was going on. They were painting the dresser with the baby's dirty diaper!
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@Kandae11 (53771)
24 May 17
Your foster mother was a wise lady.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
24 May 17
@RichardMeister That was naughty, naughty.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 May 17
My parents have some haedache in me during my colege years. I always go discoing with my friends and they don't like it. However when i Already have work , they still have that problem, because They are always shared stories by some friends of theirs that they saw me with wrkmates in discos . But then, they know that I am big enough to take care of myself.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 May 17
@Kandae11 We were a group of 4 girls. Girls just wanna have fun - clean fun and our parents cannot restrict us, because we are at our boarding house during those times.
@Kandae11 (53771)
24 May 17
So you were the disco queen. Nothing wrong with that - but parents will worry.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 17
* As a parent I think daughters are always obedient and easily understand things. They always favour their parents as they think more about them unlike sons. My daughter is like that . She always bring a glass of water for me when I come back home from work and many such small things which makes me feel like this. * In my country where many of the people do discrimination in boys and girls so girls are the ones who suffer more in their lives here which we need to change. * I was a sincere child and gave trouble to my parents in my life.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 17
@Kandae11 yes .
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
In that last line - you mean that you gave no trouble to your parents.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
@sjvg1976 I agree with you - daughters are usually more obedient.
@jobelbojel (34730)
• Philippines
24 May 17
As a teenager, I was quiet. I was a home-school-home teenager. I didn't give my parents trouble.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
24 May 17
Wonderful.!
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
23 May 17
I was a good kid and I find daughters can be a bit more challenging when their hormones kick in lol
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
That is one aspect which can be problematic.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
23 May 17
Usually the answer would b be that boys are more difficult to raise- i don't know- I was pretty good but kept a lot from my parents-
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
24 May 17
@Kandae11 You are right about that!
@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
I think there are many pitfalls for both - but girls are more vulnerable.
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
24 May 17
@Kandae11 If I had a daughter, I'd be worrying a lot about her. A boy---not so much
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@Kandae11 (53771)
24 May 17
I know what you mean.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
23 May 17
Me too..Bookworm..Still.am Both teenagers seem tough to handle to me at least
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• India
23 May 17
@Kandae11 I was meaning more of teenage tantrums...They at least grow out of that
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
Yes, there are different aspects to both of them. Boys get into the wrong crowd more easily - and girls might fall for the wrong guy easily.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
23 May 17
Great topic! I raised a boy and a girl. My son (oldest) was much easier to raise during early teen years. Unfortunately (although typical) he witnessed a lot of intense arguing and rebellious drama from his younger sister for about 4 years. It seems that most days were quite stressful from the time she was 13 until almost 17. My son didn't really get rebellious until he was 18. He moved out at age 19 and then started making some poor decisions and got himself into trouble more than once! It was hard, but at least he was legally an adult. By then, my daughter had matured and was doing well. They are ages 29 and 26 and I'm relieved to say that I'm very proud of both of them now!
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
There would be quite a bit of arguing and drama scenes between siblings - that happens quite a lot. I have only one child, so as a parent that would be one aspect which I didn't have to face , and from my observations girls seem to be a bit more problematic during those teenage years. I am glad that you are proud of the way they turned out -- I am too about mine.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
23 May 17
@Kandae11 Thank you. I meant to say (reluctantly admit) that there was also a lot of arguing and drama between my daughter and me! Can laugh about it now, but it was truly stressful at the time.
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@Nawsheen (28643)
• Mauritius
23 May 17
I was someone very calm most of the times and rarely did things to make my parents unhappy.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
I get that impression yes.
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@prashu228 (37525)
• India
23 May 17
I was never a tough kid, not even now as working lady. I was a very calm kid that's what my mom says about me.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
That is very nice. It will serve you well through your life.
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@jstory07 (135006)
• Roseburg, Oregon
23 May 17
Boys are easier to raise they do not get their feeling hurt and cry that everyone hates them. You buy less clothes for a boy and they are not as picky as a girl.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
I know, I had very little problem with mine.
@RasmaSandra (74065)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 May 17
I was a very shy bookworm in grade school. In my teens my mom was lucky that I had a small group of friends and we enjoyed listening to music and dancing mostly at my mom's apartment and she was glad we all gathered there. We were good kids mostly. I think it doesn't matter whether a teen is a boy or a girl both come with their own set of problems.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
You are so right , - both come with their own set of problems.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 May 17
I think both are equal when small children. Some think girls are harder to raise and often overlook young boys feelings. I was one of those girls from H E LL to raise, since I had no mother, my dad the best he could.
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
So it seems you were a naughty girl.
@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
23 May 17
At least you were 18 when you started partying -- :-) I was rather tame, I would stay up late online... that was about the extent of it. No kids here, just like I want it
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@Kandae11 (53771)
23 May 17
No, you weren't a teenage terror. Staying up late online won't qualify.