Is Having Friends Over Rated??
By Kenya
@CurlyHeadedCutie (12)
May 28, 2017 4:06pm CST
So, I haven't had a real friend for quite some time now..
Just cant seem to keep one.
People become so uninteresting to me so quickly, its ridiculous.
Now, before you say anything crazy.. I know its probably my fault.
I make things all about me, MOST of the time. So, I cant really complain I guess. I'm sure that all stems from a whole host of personal problems that I have, but hey that's me. :)
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
28 May 17
I don't have any "real life" friends. As everyones moved or treated me wrong. But I have a few great out of state / online friends.
Yes its totally different, and you miss out on the hang outs and late night movies and chats and stuff friends do in person. But friends are friends.
I hope you can get a few to hold on to.
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@NJChicaa (116595)
• United States
28 May 17
Having real life friends is important! When bad things happen, they are THERE FOR YOU to help no matter what it is. You always need people to be there to help you out. Seems that you've acknowledged why people don't want to be your friend. Try to work on that flaw. No one likes someone who only cares about themself and who wants the world to revolve around them. That's not how friendship works.
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@CurlyHeadedCutie (12)
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28 May 17
Its not that people don't wanna be my friend.. I tend to not wanna be anyone elses friend.
@CurlyHeadedCutie (12)
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28 May 17
Which bothers me sometimes, but at others it doesn't even seem necessary.
@NJChicaa (116595)
• United States
28 May 17
@CurlyHeadedCutie well then you need to work that out in your head.
@pumpkinjam (8583)
• United Kingdom
28 May 17
If you are happy without friends then, yes, they are overrated. I would count, perhaps, 3 or 4 people as real, genuine friends rather than acquaintances or people who call me when they have nothing better to do!
I've had times when I've wondered why I don't have many friends, or how I can make more, or ask myself why nobody bothers with me. I did think it was my own fault, and that I can't complain about people not making an effort if I don't make any myself. But, to be honest, I found it rather exhausting trying to keep up with people, especially as the results were only very slightly better than me not bothering at all!
It is upsetting at times when, say, I feel like calling someone or popping round or doing whatever but realising there is nobody. But it's also frustrating when you can't seem to arrange any time with friends because of schedules - like when your friends work 9-5 Monday to Friday but you work weekends and evenings as well!
I've come to realise that my good and true friends will be there and make an effort, so I'll do the same for them. I think it's rather more upsetting to make an unreciprocated effort than to just not have friends.
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@xFiacre (12585)
• Ireland
28 May 17
@curlyheadedcutie I hesitate to call anyone a friend though I know so many people, most of them excellent people too. I feel a slight touch of envy when I watch other people revelling in friendship with their friends but it's not something I ever learned to do. I get by f one without friends. Definitely overrated.
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