Can All Romantic Relationships Blossom?
@Gabugs (1895)
United States
July 4, 2017 10:38pm CST
No. Romantic relationships only blossom when the initial strings of love turns into a strong bond between two people. It then results in lifelong companionship often culminated by the sanctity of marriage. But alas! Love cannot always last without a solid foundation; nor can it always yield the fruits of happiness.
Happiness abounds when each partner strives to contribute and cultivate a sense of intimacy in the relationship. Happiness can be attained by sharing dreams, activities and experiences along life’s journey. When couples focus on experiences that are rewarding and meaningful, an abundance of lasting, fulfilling happiness is ushered into a relationship.
Genuine warmth and dedication to making the other person happy is of prime importance. Being capable of making the other person feel comfortable in his/her own skin- - - no matter what its color or the number of blemishes it possesses, is the core element of true love. Romantic relationship thrives when two people are in tune with each other and when a fine balance is maintained between what is expected from that relationship and what it can provide.
Staying in a relationship and prolonging unhappy relationship out of a sense of duty or for the sake of one’s children, often fail to yield positive results. Such a relationship which is meaningless and mutually unproductive is best ended as it would be unfair to both the partners in marriage.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 17
It takes huge effort from both parties to make a relationship work. I think people are influenced too much by how "romance" is portrayed in movies and that it caused many to have unrealistic expectations.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 17
@Gabugs Patience, initiatives, understanding, tolerance...among others 
@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
6 Jul 17
Oh yes @cahaya such unrealistic expectations portrayed in romantic novels and movies, gives one the false notion that "romance" lasts forever without much effort. However, reality shows otherwise.
What do you think the "huge effort" that you speak of entail?
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
6 Jul 17
Thank You @Hatley As you yourself must have experienced, building a loving lifelong relationship between two individuals is not always easy. It is a kind of slow slippery slope which both partners encounter from time to time. Striving to make your partner happy each day is of prime importance.
Don't you agree that it is the crust of a good marriage?
@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jul 17
Some say that a good relationship needs 50/50 from each person but I don't believe that. They need to give their all. 100% or it won't work.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jul 17
@Gabugs .....Yes. It has to be good for both parties.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
6 Jul 17
You are absolutely right @celticeagle You certainly have to give it all. However, the important thing is one must be truly interested in making the relationship work and not find it burdensome. Agreed?
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
6 Jul 17
Very true , it does not make sense to stay together simply because you feel duty bound to do so. Any relationship thrives when two people grow together and share together,but, when they are pulling in different directions then there is no point .
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
6 Jul 17
More important than being romantic, I think it is being genuinely caring @Shavkat that counts. Don't you agree?
One may feign to be romantic and flirt around without truly loving the other person. In that case, one needs to be perceptive enough to see the deception and avoid the relationship from going further.
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@josie_ (10033)
• Philippines
5 Jul 17
Our concept of "romantic love" is more of the movie kind with a happy ending. The reality is often a rude awakening from this dreamlike state after the "romance" period of the courtship ends.What makes for a successful relationship?There are really no set rules when emotions dictate decisions and actions. There are couples who share many things in common yet their relationship do not last while those whose personalities are on opposites seem to thrive despite their incompatibility.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
6 Jul 17
You are so right in your understanding of this concept @josie
Yes, there are no set rules; but there are some basics. Caring and striving to consciously making your partner happy is fundamental in a relationship that lasts a lifetime.
Do you think the element of "understanding" in a relationship is an important factor?
@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
6 Jul 17
@josie_ What I meant was: understanding each others likes/dislikes, wants and needs. One needs to also understand their partners behavior; what motivates him/her to behave in a certain manner.
It is only with understanding, comes tolerance, which is very important as years go by.
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@josie_ (10033)
• Philippines
6 Jul 17
@Gabugs _The word "understanding" would infer the use of the intellect and rational thought. Or it can mean having the emotional capacity to accommodate or support someone even if it goes against our better judgment. Cooperation is required between the partners to find a middle ground or at least a workable arrangement agreeable to both. However many think "understanding" entails being compliant and complacent. This often open one partner to manipulation and abuse.
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