An Interesting Fact
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36445)
United States
August 30, 2017 6:21am CST
Was reading about a person I have been acquaintances with now for about 10 yrs probably. In the 10 yrs a lot of different things have happened in her life. Some of them were probably for the Best, but then some of them I think were rushed into, and should have been taken more time into consideration.
In this time, she has had 2 divorces and has been married twice. She is currently married to the last one maybe about 2-3 yrs and I guess it it going fairly well even though she does not talk about it much. What I find interesting is she just posted she has 1 more yr to go and then she will have a Degree in Marriage and Family counseling. Maybe it is just me, but shouldn't Marriage Counselors have some experience with being married to be able to relate and give guidance? I know I would not want a Newly Married and former divorcee 2 times for a counselor.
I know maybe it is just me with the Christian background and thinking that I do, and know Marriage is never perfect every day, but I have been married now for over 18 yrs and I know there are challenges and things every couple goes thru but I cannot tell you if when we hit 25 yrs what life is like til we get there.
So on a personal level if you were seeking Marriage counsel and advice, would you want to see someone with some experience, a Pastor, or just someone licensed?
~~TINA~~
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
30 Aug 17
I would see a family counsellor, hopefully with a Christian perspective. I know a few. On the other hand my Marriage and Family teacher in college was not married. She said it was because she felt she could either be dedicated to doing her job, or dedicated to her marriage and that God wanted her to be dedicated to her job and help others.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
17 Sep 17
Now that does make a lot of sense, and some Good reasoning there. Overall sounds like she was a dedicated to her job, so she was someone everyone liked and could count on.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
18 Sep 17
Same thing I was thinking especially since in the yrs I have known her, she tends to jump from job to job, and marriages etc to where I challenge personally if this could be a Good fit.
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@velvet53 (24417)
• Palisade, Colorado
18 Sep 17
@KrauseHome I wonder how people get a license to do this work with a reputation like that.
@LadyDuck (502491)
• Italy
30 Aug 17
I would not go to ask for support to someone who already divorced twice, this means that she understood nothing about the real meaning of Marriage. I surely would not ask a Pastor either, but to someone I judge has an open mind, good experience and a lot of patience to listen. I am married from 46 years.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
18 Sep 17
My thoughts exactly. I wonder if people who are seeking marital counseling and advice can find out things like this before going to see someone and make a solid firm decision on who would be Best person to seek from there?
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@Kandae11 (57231)
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30 Aug 17
Sometimes even the most sensible can be fooled by a wolf in sheep's clothing - maybe she just picked the wrong guys. Her studies and the fact that she was married twice should give her an advantage, but personally I don't think I would feel very confident with her as my counselor.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
18 Sep 17
Same thing I was thinking. Because over all, some of the things I have seen her post over even just the last yr or so makes me wonder what type of relationship etc she actually has. Sometimes I think hers are just for the sake of I'm Married so I don't have to worry about how to support my kids and have a place to live.
