A Dilemma...The Fake Or The Genuine?
By Catherine
@bluesa (15022)
Johannesburg, South Africa
September 4, 2017 8:02am CST
Do I have a dilemma. I have two friends who somehow just had to have something go awry with them at the same time. They each have asked me a favour that I am not certain what to do about.
The one friend twisted her ankle this past weekend and her husband has a function this coming weekend, we have all known each other 10 years and she asked if I would mind attending the function with him. She is worried his Secretary is after him.
The problem I have with this is that he is a fun guy and a laugh a minute, the life of the party, but I feel he is fake, he can't sit and have a decent conversation without a pun or a double entendre. I am all for laughter and jokes but a person should be able to have a decent genuine conversation now and then too.
The other friend has the flu, her husband also has a function this coming weekend and he only feels comfortable with me, we have known each other 15 years. The problem is he is staid, he makes jokes I just don't get, we can have a genuine conversation, but his trying to be funny is not funny.
Now, I see both these guys as the brothers I never had, and they know to not try to get fresh with me. But, whoever I decide to help out, I will have to sit through a meal with and socialise for about three hours. Do I accompany the fun but fake friend or the staid but genuine friend? Or do I all of a sudden come down with something and say no to both?!
Photo is mine, some pretty purple flowers.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45941)
• United States
4 Sep 17
I say whatever you are most comfortable with doing is what you should do. No sense in putting yourself in a situation where you feel out of place.
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@moffittjc (128837)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 Sep 17
What a dilemma! If you can't decide which one, maybe you can just flip a coin and let fate decide!
If both of these dinner engagements are going to be long (3 hours), which one can you picture in your mind helping that time pass more quickly? Or, which one do you think you can sit next to for 3 hours and not want to poke his eyes out with a fork?
I cannot stand going to functions that just drag on for hours on end, so I would want to choose someone who is going to help pass that time as quickly as possible.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Sep 17
I tell ya, Jeff. Trust me to end up with a dilemma like this. Which one could I sit next to for 3 hours and not want to poke their eyes out with a fork? Now that is a good question I did not consider.
Thing is, I like to laugh. Life can be serious enough. However, there must be some depth to a person for goodness sake. I don't mind the occasional double entendre or flirt, but if I ask a serious question, give me a serious answer, talk to me, don't just skim over the surface of stuff. I can't stand fake people. But, he can be fun.
Then the staid guy, well at least we can talk about interesting topics and life, at least when I ask him a serious question I know he is taking time to consider it.... I just don't get his humour.
Boy oh boy, I will have to decide wisely.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Sep 17
@moffittjc , ah, Jeff, no reason to be jealous...I am just the safe, reliable old friend. And they are happily married, you know. Had I been in the US I woulda asked you out on a date, again, you're lucky I am miles and miles away, not certain of who the other lady would be, though I see many here who would like a date with you. So, I believe you could get so lucky!
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@moffittjc (128837)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 Sep 17
@bluesa You have a tough decision ahead of you! I'm jealous that you have two gentlemen asking you to be their date! I wish I had two women asking me to be their date for dinner! I guess I can never get so lucky!
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@m_audrey6788 (58468)
• Germany
4 Sep 17
I guess..You should follow your heart that made you feel comfortable with and just enjoy the day! It`s good to spend your percious time and day with the person who will treasure it for real. I hope you will make a good choice! Good luck 
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
4 Sep 17
wouldn't it be nice if something cropped up in the coming days on their end or yours? wishful thinking! kandase has a good point about the secretary. at least you can see/confirm for yourself if she is. i hope you end up seated with good company who can provide make the time pass pleasantly.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
4 Sep 17
Oh dear you are so valuable..I would charge a fortune for whichever one I chose to be bored with lol
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Sep 17
Oh. OT, I don't think I am too valuable at all 
. I am just the friend that is no threat because I have no aspirations to settle down or mess around at this stage of my life. I am seriously considering saying no to both. The two men might be relieved if I said no, cause then they are free for those hours
. I am just the friend that is no threat because I have no aspirations to settle down or mess around at this stage of my life. I am seriously considering saying no to both. The two men might be relieved if I said no, cause then they are free for those hours 1 person likes this
@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
6 Sep 17
For me, the choice would be for the person who I enjoy the most @bluesa
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
7 Sep 17
@PatZAnthony , had the situation been different, that would be my choice to. I decided to join neither though, too much possible drama.
@LadyDuck (502573)
• Italy
4 Sep 17
I like to laugh, if there is a reason to laugh, but I cannot stand people who has to joke all the time. Those who make pranks and try all the time to add a double entendre to a conversation make me nervous. I cannot stand them for long time. I am unable to fake that I am amused if I get nervous, so I avoid them.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Sep 17
just enjoy my friend and don't think much now.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Sep 17
You can't please everyone in this situation. -- What would you rather do? I think I would be more comfortable with the genuine friend. I feel bad for your one friend who is worried that her husband's secretary is putting the moves on him - but on the same hand he should be able to resist her, on his own. Would you like to go, or would you rather not? Don't feel like you have to go with either, unless you really do want. :-)
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@dgobucks226 (37621)
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6 Sep 17
Maybe you should get the flu or sprain your ankle. A perfect way out! Actually "C," I have no answer to give you. I believe you will do what you feel is appropriate and anyway, no one has the right to question your decision.
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