Do You Spill Your Guts Online
By Ann LeFlore
@poehere (15126)
French Polynesia
September 7, 2017 3:47am CST
Many people want to get down right and person on social media sites. Are you one of these people who answer all these questions? I for one am not. I think my personal life belongs to me and I do take offence when people keep asking me personal questions.
There is a limit as to what I am willing to share on a social media or blog site. This site is no exception. I use my FB account for my work. I also share with a limited number of people photos and a few other things.
I don’t mind letting you know where I am from because I am happy about where I live. However, if you want to know what I am doing, then I draw the line. I also draw the line about people asking me how much I charge for my work, or how much I make online. This is personal and it should be kept personal.
When a person asks me a personal question I don’t want to answer, I just give them a thumbs up and move on. If they continue, I politely tell them I don’t appreciate these types of questions and please don’t ask me again.
When people get too personal on social media what do you do? How do you feel about all the personal questions people ask you? Do you respond to them or ignore them?
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21 responses
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
I needed FB for my DR business and basically now I don't use it. I only share stuff with my daughter on FB now. I guess in the end I could delete this account and I would never miss it at all.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
I am like you, I don't either. I do share some photos I take here with my daughter and her family. I have a few close friends from around the world when I was working. I share the photos with them too. I limit what people see on my FB account because it was set up for my work in data recovery.
@m_audrey6788 (58482)
• Germany
7 Sep 17
Well..I really am not comfortable discussing my personal things in social media sites but to share my experiences with them in order to help them understand what life is all about..Then, I don`t see anything wrong with it 
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@m_audrey6788 (58482)
• Germany
7 Sep 17
@poehere ..Well..you don`t have to answer if you don`t like and the who asked you can`t do anything about it..Right?
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
You are right. I don't either. But when you are always asked a lot of personal questions in the comments then it bothers me. Why in the world would someone ask me what am I doing right now. It has nothing to do with the discussion and to me it is personal. I don't want to answer stuff like this.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
8 Sep 17
@m_audrey6788 You're right, but they just keep commenting until you finally get mad and tell them why you don't want to answer. I am not angry in my response I do it politely and they finally leave me alone.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Sep 17
You have every right not to answer those questions and people should learn to respect when we want to keep our private lives private.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
Thank you so much and this is exactly how I feel. I don't ask personal questions. One person asked me where I graduated high school. This was fine and I answered. But to ask me how much I charge for my work or what I am doing right now, I draw the line. I walk away.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Sep 17
@poehere I don't ask personal questions unless the person is leading me there. I'm always careful with invading one's privacy and I need permission before doing that.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
8 Sep 17
@toniganzon This is right. I never ask anyone anything personal. I always keep my conversations to genteral topic and discussions. Better for all of us.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
7 Sep 17
I think it's really up to the individual to decide what info they want to put online. When it comes to being questioned we can always politely decline.
But people should be made aware of peer pressure to reveal.
Statements that say give us your info, like... "that person must be hiding something, a coward" or anything that implies in order to be accepted providing information is required.
On the other hand if someone wants to give out their info nothing is stopping them.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
I share what I want and I keep private the rest. I just don't like seeing a ton of personal questions asked of me in the comments. I do think that people should refrain from this one. Making a comment on a discussion doesn't give the person the right to continue on and on about personal affairs that don't relate to the discussion. Sorry but this is how I feel.
@petatonicsca (7070)
• Japan
7 Sep 17
If I were an onion, you would only see my outer layers on Facebook.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
This is how I feel. I don't mind talking about certain subjects. But after commenting on a discussion of another person they get personal and off topic I stop and walk away.
@celticeagle (159400)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Sep 17
Everyone is different. Many on here do not share their entire live's story. I myself don't care. I'm an open book. I need the counseling and the opinions I get here. It helps me.
@celticeagle (159400)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Sep 17
@poehere .....A few have done that to me too. I usually ignore or direct them in some other direction.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
8 Sep 17
@celticeagle It is so much better this way. Normally I ignore them and they keep commenting to get my attention. I finally tell them I don't answer stuff like this online.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
I share a lot on the site. But when I respond to a discussion and the person asks me tons of personal questions this is where I draw the line. It is off topic and I don't think I need to answer this. I guess this is my feeling and it doesn't mean I am rude or ignoring the person, it just means that I have a limit as to what I will say on their discussions.
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@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
7 Sep 17
@poehere "... people think it is OK to call you hon..." --- Oh, how I hate terms of endearment from people I don't know! It's not so bad on this site, though. I used to be on a British site where virtual hugging and kissing and calling each other 'hon' was rife.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
Anna I agree with you. Talking about animals, home repairs, or something that doesn't dig deep down into your personal life is wonderful. But to ask you about how much you make, what are you doing right now at home, or anything else that crosses the line of being too sensitive. We have many a great conversations on here and I have never in my life asked another person a really personal question. I have many friends on here that I share with. None of them has ever asked me or me asked them a very personal question. However, some people think it is OK to call you hon and wanting to know what I am doing or how much money I make. I mostly don't answer and walk away. If I don't give an answer they will come back and say something else. Then I am forced to answer and I do it politely telling them it is personal and I don't want to share this online with a complete stranger.
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@RichardMeister (5328)
• Otis Orchards, Washington
7 Sep 17
I don't even tell my brother many of my personal things let along broadcast it on social media. If someone gets too personal I'll just say that's personal and I'm not going to talk about it. My co-workers used to get mad at me when they asked what I was going to do on my vacation and I would tell them "nothing" or make up something stupid. I felt it was not work related so it was none of their business what I planned for my vacation.
@kuroidreads (38)
• United States
7 Sep 17
For me it honestly depends on the question and the vibe I get from the person asking me. Obviously things relating to identification numbers, phone numbers, etc will be flat out ignored and raise a red flag for me. I'm more than willing to answer questions revolving around a few of my favorite things, places I want to visit, hobbies, and questions relating to music and other fun activities. If the question is too personal, I'll let the person know that I'm not willing to give them an answer. It's their decision if they wish to respect my personal space or get offended that I didn't give the answer they were looking for.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
All this is fine and wonderful. Now if I asked you how much money do you charge for doing ****** or something else about your personal life with your husband and family. I think you would draw the line too. I don't mind a few questions about how it was like growing up in a foreign country for me without my parents, or about my struggles in English or something like this I answer. But money, personal life, and private affairs I refuse to answer.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
@kuroidreads I can understand this one. I was asked how much we sell our chicken for and I answered. I didn't mind this one. But for other things I don't answer.
@kuroidreads (38)
• United States
7 Sep 17
@poehere Don't worry, I think that's perfectly fine and understandable. As a traditional artist it doesn't bother me when people ask how much I charge for my services. I'm more than willing to accept their commission offer if they think my prices are reasonable, and if I'm perfectly fine with drawing what they have in mind. That would most likely be the only time I let anyone know how much I charge for doing something.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
You are correct. I have been in this sort of life for a long time. I had Internet long before any of you knew it existed. The day they decided to go public was explosive and it took off so fast. I worked in other countries to connect them to the virtual world for law enforcement and criminal tracking. So sharing online is very old to me. Howeevr, there is still a limit as to how much I will share or information I will give away to people who ask me.
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@mildredtabitha (16077)
• Nairobi, Kenya
7 Sep 17
I would respond because they will forget anyway?
They also don't have a guarantee that I'm telling the truth. It ain't a big deal to me. :)
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
If you make up stories in the end they come back to bite you. It is better to not answer than to answer falsely and forget what you have said. I see this a lot on social media. In a way it is quite funny to me and in another it is quite sad.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
8 Sep 17
I generally stay off of social media except for to contact my older children. They are constantly posting photos and sayings online. I give them a thumbs up and likes and send them my love or I contact them on messenger to see how they are doing. I don't like to post my personal problems online for anyone. Most of the time I don't have to avoid people asking me crazy questions because my profile is not out there enough.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
9 Sep 17
This is how I am. I keep my profile short and simple. Basically, my work and location. Not much else. I never post anything personal online. However, my friends are always taking photos and posting them online. I don't do this.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
10 Sep 17
I think it is important that everyone has limitations and others should consider this one and not ask so many personal questions of us.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
7 Sep 17
I couldn't agree with you more. Certain questions are not or should not be asked.
@carriep98 (72)
• United States
8 Sep 17
To me, it depends on what they ask. Like if they ask a question like "How are you?'" I just say "good" and move on but to me "too personal" is something like asking about age or religion and many other things. When they get too personal I just ignore them, it's your life, you choose what you want people to know. (:
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
8 Sep 17
I agree with you so much. Some questions don't bother me at all. Like where I went to school or do I like to paint. But to ask me about how much I charge for my services and the work I do is off limits. I keep a fine line of too personal and ones I am willing to answer.
