She's Never Wished Me a Happy Birthday
By StacyB
@Srbageldog (7716)
United States
September 7, 2017 4:55am CST
Today is my childhood best friend's birthday. And I didn't need Facebook to remind me of that fact; I already know. Some things about your friends you just remember.
I went to her page to wish her a happy birthday, when I decided something. There's a feature where you can view your friendship and it shows all your interactions with whichever friend's page you're visiting.
Well I discovered that she has never once wished me a happy birthday. Or ever even responded to any of the many things I've posted to her over the years.
We may have been best friends when we were kids, but as we got older it became increasingly obvious that the friendship was one sided. I got tired of being the one always trying to maintain the friendship and finally gave up a few years ago. We have never met each other's spouses and I have never met her daughter, who is two now.
Even though I know it's her birthday and will likely always remember it, I don't think I will be wishing her a happy birthday anymore. When your "friends" can't ever be bothered to return the effort, it's obvious that you're not really friends after all. Now she's basically a stranger who I was once best friends with. And that makes me sad, but such is life.
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@LadyDuck (502812)
• Italy
8 Sep 17
@Srbageldog 
You are certainly right, you will become the horrible person, when reality is very different.
You are certainly right, you will become the horrible person, when reality is very different.1 person likes this
@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
8 Sep 17
@LadyDuck Yep, so it's better to just not say anything I guess.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
8 Sep 17
I would love to do that, but then it would probably start drama and I would get told what a horrible person I am for saying the truth. :(
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@dgobucks226 (37621)
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7 Sep 17
Friendship is a partnership not a one way street! As this quote from Aristotle in brainy quotes states.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
8 Sep 17
You are so right (or Aristotle was.) If it's all one-sided, then there is no friendship.
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@dgobucks226 (37621)
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8 Sep 17
@Srbageldog Sometimes these quotes can express what I am thinking very accurately!
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@dodo19 (48198)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 Sep 17
@Srbageldog it is sad and a shame, but sometimes these things happen.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
7 Sep 17
It is sad, but part of life I guess. Sometimes friendships just don't last forever.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
7 Sep 17
I used to send her birthday cards in the mail but don't even have her address anymore to do that... And she never sent me one. So like you said, good riddance. Who needs"friends" like that?
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@prashu228 (37518)
• India
7 Sep 17
So sorry.. I too have such friends , but just ignoring them after seeing a lot of things. It's better to get rid of such headache
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
8 Sep 17
I'm sorry you have also dealt with "friends" like this. I agree, it's better to just move on.
@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
9 Sep 17
@SanyoSan I hope your friendship lasts too.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
7 Sep 17
It is sad when "friends" treat you that way.
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@m_audrey6788 (58468)
• Germany
7 Sep 17
@Srbageldog ..Yes but I have to understand that, Maybe they are also having a hard time running their life and don`t want to bother me at all..So, I guess we just have to move away and just be thankful that we used to be best friends
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
7 Sep 17
@m_audrey6788 That's an interesting way of looking at it. I suppose my friend is busy with her own life.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
7 Sep 17
It's impossible to maintain a friendship when the other person doesn't put in any effort.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
7 Sep 17
No, I don't believe we would be. She moved back to our hometown at least 5 years ago and has never made any attempt to come see me, despite always promising that she would when she was living in another state.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
9 Sep 17
It's sad when a long-term friendship ends up this way.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
7 Sep 17
I've had the same happen with me and a once bestfriend. But i still say happy birthday, even to others who don't always speak to me on there. As it shows im a good person regardless how others are.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
8 Sep 17
I used to keep saying it but after a point I got tired. If my friendship meant so little to her that she could never be bothered to keep in touch or even visit in over a decade...I guess there's really no friendship at all. She has been living in our hometown (since moving around a lot in her 20s) for over 5 years, and never even bothered to tell me she moved back. I just realized it from seeing her posts on Facebook. Oh well. Her loss I guess.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
8 Sep 17
@Courtlynn When I started noticing family members (cousins) were not wishing me a happy birthday but would always wish my boyfriend one, I stopped acknowledging their birthdays. There are a couple of them that do that, and I don't know why. One I used to send cards to for her birthday and holidays, but when she moved out of her mom's house she got weird and would never give me her address. I still don't know where she lives and she has lived on her own for a while now. It's not like I'm ever going to just show up at her place unannounced if that's what she's worried about. My relatives are such weirdos.
Most of my best friends these days are people I only know online. They are the ones who are always there for me and who send cards or gifts at the holidays or for my birthday (not that I ever expect that, but it's a nice surprise when they do.) So I try to return the favor. It's just nice to be thought of sometimes. And the people I used to call "friends" in real life never thought of me, so I suppose I should just stop thinking of them. They are obviously taking up too much space in my mind.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
8 Sep 17
@Srbageldog im not "friends" with everyone i have on fb but went to school with them, so still say it eben if they dont talk
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
8 Sep 17
I agree I would not wish her anything anymore, if she wanted the friendship she would have at least wished you a happy birthday.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
8 Sep 17
She cannot be bothered to contact me at all or even respond to any of my attempts at getting in touch over the years. The last time I talked to her was right before her wedding several years ago, which I couldn't attend because it was out of state and I had no transportation (I don't know why it was held out of state since both she and her fiance are from here and their families are both here in our area. Just seemed like they caused everyone unnecessary travel.) She never bothered to tell me when she got pregnant, or when she had her child, and I was not invited to her baby shower, even though that was held here in our hometown. So her message is fairly clear by this point, and no, she won't be getting anymore "happy birthdays" from me.
