Sept 25- Unfair for mom
By peachpurple
@peachpurple (13961)
Malaysia
September 24, 2017 9:12pm CST
I decided to bring this up since I can't stand it any longer. My nephew who is a grown up man had met a Vietnam woman in her late 40s somewhere that he kept as a secret. Nobody knew that they were dating but my aunt had suspected he was acting weird for the last 6 months.
Finally, he revealed that he was going to marry the Vietnam girlfriend this month that had gave a shock to my aunt. She was against of the marriage since nobody knows the background of that lady and what was her purposed in getting married to her son. My nephew was angry for her objection, left home with his Vietnam girlfriend, never give a phone call to let my aunt know where he was.
My aunt was worried sick about her son being tricked , tried to call him but she doesn't get any reply. This is really unfair for a grown up son to treat his mom alike taking a revenge. It is a childish act, don't you think?
Nobody dares to say anything to my nephew because everyone knows his bad temper and tantrums.
What would you do if you were in my aunt's shoes?
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12 responses
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 17
thanks, you are right about it, hope that they can reconcile and work things out
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 17
@dodoazo I agree with you but sometimes adults get overboard
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 17
@dodoazo nope, didn't know it. What does 7 times 70 means?
@sol_cee (38669)
• Philippines
25 Sep 17
@peachpurple Is your nephew of legal age?
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 17
Because it is just too sudden. Other siblings and relatives also discussed about this matter and found that there are fishy part about the marriage since the Vietnamese lady was the one who proposed instead of him!
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
25 Sep 17
I think conduct of your aunt's son was uncalled for. He should have taken his mother into confidence and should have convinced here why did he want to marry that Vietnamese woman. Leaving the house/mother and going with that woman is unfair on his part.
Your aunt should have also be more liberal and should have tried to discuss the issue with her son, rather than straight away rejecting his choice. You see he is already 40 years, it is his choice and it should be left to him, how does not want to live his rest of the life.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
25 Sep 17
@peachpurple As I have said earlier mistake lies on both the ends. He should not have left his mother in the manner he did and his mother should have been more considerate and liberal to him regarding his marriage proposal to a foreign woman.
If he has chosen a foreign woman to be his partner, it is he who will face the music in future, in case (God Forbids) if that woman does not turn out to be good to him.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 17
@dpk262006 I agree with you, most likely it would be the bad stuff as expected
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 17
Thanks, yup, he is in his 40s, nobody wants to live a bachelor life with an old mom forever but discussing over the marriage ahead is better than last minute. Yet , threatening her by leaving home is another childish act for an adult.
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@LadyDuck (502812)
• Italy
25 Sep 17
Your Aunt made a very bad move, a grown up man thinks to have the right to marry the woman he loves and being confronted always cause the same response, they go and they never show back for a very long time. My brother did the same to my mother.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
25 Sep 17
That's a tough one. How big is the age difference between the nephew and his girlfriend? I can see it both ways. Everyone should have been aware of his dating at some date before getting engaged. I can see the concern about him being taken advantage of - but I think this would be best handled by the nephew and girlfriend and your aunt all getting together and talking. It isn't right for him to just freak out like this. Issues of the heart are touchy. I think your aunt should let him know she's concerned but not pressure him. Unfortunately some people need to "learn" on their own. Hopefully all is on the level
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
26 Sep 17
@peachpurple _ Oh I see now. I wonder what may have driven him to not tell about his dates, if she has some troubling behaviors? But, I think it's true - if this relationship is a mistake and he is pressured to stop - I think he will always have doubts. However if it's a mistake and he learns it the hard way - then he will know for sure
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 17
@FayeHazel i agree, allow time to prove thathe was wrong
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 17
yes you are right about this, let him learn the hard way then. Both are same age, just different nationality, he never reveal about his dates, causing everyone to be concern
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 17
yes, at least tell her where he is just to ensure safety
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 17
I would had locked him in the house and throw away the keys
@prashu228 (37518)
• India
25 Sep 17
Poor mother. Children should not treat their parents like that. But if communication is not there , nothing can be done
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
26 Sep 17
if i were your aunt, i will leave him alone. he is a grown-up man and he has to know his responsibilities as a son and as a married man. if he fails, he will come back knocking at my door.
it is disrespectful for a son to act that way to his mother. he will feel the same thing when his child will be like him later.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 17
yes retribution, you sow what you reap, right?
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@rubyriaz007 (4187)
• India
25 Sep 17
Yes its really a childish act.Its really important to know the background of the family..Important decisions in life,like marriage,should be discussed with parents,If you keep it as a secret, you will definitely get into trouble,and will not be able to get out from it...
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 17
I agree with you, the family background is important, discussion should be made with family members, don't create trouble. Otherwise I think my aunt would hate her daughter-in-law too
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