3 1/2-year-olds have the darndest logic.

@TheHorse (238349)
Walnut Creek, California
September 28, 2017 11:13pm CST
I was discussing injuries with my 3 1/2-year-old friend this morning. I said I liked putting kisses on injuries because most injuries were "one kiss" injuries, meaning that one kiss on the owie rendered the injured person ready to go back and play. She said, "Only family can put a kiss on my owies." I was a bit hurt, because I had put many kisses on her owies over the 1 1/2 years I'd known her. Had my kisses (I kiss my hand and place my hand firmly over the injured area) lost their curative powers for her? At lunch, someone bumped a chair into her knee. She came over to me, on the brink of tears. "Matan bumped my knee!" I told her to say to say, "Matan, please be careful with your chair. You bonked my knee." She said, "Matan, please be careful with your chair. You bonked my knee." I blew a kiss toward her knee. She looked at me angrily and said, "No, you didn't get it." I said, "You said only family can kiss your owies directly." She said, "It's OK. I have a pretzel in my sock." I immediately kissed my hand and placed the kiss on the spot she pointed to on her knee. She said it was better and went back to her seat to finish lunch. Duh!
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
29 Sep 17
OK what does a pretzel have to do with this one. I don't get it. Does this protect her from kisses and being hurt. She is cute. That one is for sure.
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 Sep 17
She's a sweetie. I think she's too young to think of kisses as hurtful. Like all 3 1/2-year-olds, she wants one on her owie when she falls or gets "bopped" by another kid.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
30 Sep 17
@TheHorse Yes, kisses were always the special cure for all owies.
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Sep 17
@poehere I actually teach my young charges to blow kisses to each others' owies to provide closure to an accidental injury.
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@LadyDuck (502653)
• Italy
29 Sep 17
Just like @MALUSE I am puzzled about the pretzel in her sock. (?????)
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@LadyDuck (502653)
• Italy
29 Sep 17
@TheHorse May be because in my country we had no pretzels, so I never heard about pretzels in the socks.
@LadyDuck (502653)
• Italy
29 Sep 17
@MALUSE Well, let's say that I am deceived not to know what this thing means.
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 Sep 17
It makes no sense (to a grown-up). That's the point.
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@m_audrey6788 (58468)
• Germany
29 Sep 17
I think the kind touch makes kids felt good after getting injured
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• Germany
29 Sep 17
@TheHorse Yes. Kids are happy and satisfied in small things
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Oct 17
@m_audrey6788 Physiologically, affectionate touch leads to the release of oxytocin, which strengthens the immune system by reducing cortisol (stress hormone) levels.
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 Sep 17
I agree. It assures them that they're "OK."
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
1 Oct 17
Aw...what a shame the innocent ones have to know that...but I do understand her parents you know...I would tell my daughters that. But the trust that kissing the owie cures is amazing. lol. Hero hurt his leg the other day the center table ..he was running around it in a hurry and the toe I think hurt..I couldn't bear to see his face..I immediately went in and brought the pain relief spray...the guy yelled at me after I sprayed..its burning..lol.
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
1 Oct 17
Some owie-fixing sprays do hurt like heck! I use Hydrogen Peroxide on me, but not the kids I work with.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
29 Sep 17
oooh, pretzels have powers?! but it was good teaching her to tell matan what he did. great shot, too.
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 Sep 17
We always try to teach the kids to let the other know (politely) when someone hurts someone, whether physically or emotionally. Sometimes we overdo it a bit.
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• Philippines
30 Sep 17
@TheHorse i notice today's generation are quick to speak up, though sometimes for the littlest thing, unlike our generation who were told to avoid causing a scene and always be patient and understanding
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
1 Oct 17
@hereandthere Current college students can be funny. They're "offended" by this and that. I find the younguns to be pretty much the same as ever.
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
11 Feb 18
How long have you been a pyschologist? Do you work with kids only or adults too? Are the families thar are from Israel sad to be gone from here? I remember when I had to go back to Minneapolis and make some money I met Israelis and they wanted to return here but it it kept getting harder and harder to do it.
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
11 Feb 18
The Israelis I work with are happy enough here, but go to Israel to visit family often. I work mostly with kids right now. But that means I talk to their parents as well.
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
11 Feb 18
@Hannihar Oh, absolutely. They look forward to trips to Israel to see Grandma and Grandpa.
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
11 Feb 18
@TheHorse The Horse, do the kids know their relatives in Israel and feel comfortable with them when they are here?
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@teamfreak16 (43648)
• Denver, Colorado
29 Sep 17
Thanks for clarifying. At first I thought you were talking about actually kissing scrapes and stuff. Yuck!
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@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 Sep 17
Bleech! Actually most little kid owies involve no blood. They just need to be pronounced OK by a grown-up.
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