Could you forgive your partner for cheating ?

@YesWay (3674)
October 9, 2017 1:33am CST
If you found out they had had an affair, but they said it was over now. Could you forgive? What about if the affair had been with a work colleague - so you knew they would still see them every day. Would that make it harder to forgive?
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@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 17
nope, can't accept it, would be called a crazy woman if I ever do. Better off let the steam off and settle it once and for all
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@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@peachpurple Absolutely. Couldn't live with that
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@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@peachpurple Haha - always!!
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@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 17
@YesWay yeah, go bonkers man !
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
9 Oct 17
NEVER, I need to trust my husband and I would never forgive him for cheating.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
9 Oct 17
@YesWay There are things that I cannot accept, this is one of those things.
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@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@LadyDuck Im with you on this. I don't think I could ever forgive
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@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@ladyduck Same here. I couldn't go through this
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• United States
10 Oct 17
I am not one that shares my toys well. Told my husband when we first started dating that I wouldn't tolerate a cheater. Had been scorned many times by others and I was too old to keep putting up with that crap. When you are with someone in a relationship it is because you want to be with them. If you have a wandering eye, leave. I would rather be alone.
• United States
10 Oct 17
@YesWay this is my third rodeo. We have been together for 7 years and married for 6. So far so good.
@YesWay (3674)
10 Oct 17
@elusivebutterfly Well said. This sums up how I feel too perfectly
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@YesWay (3674)
10 Oct 17
@ElusiveButterfly Long may it continue
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@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
9 Oct 17
I really don't know, maybe I will not because of the pain it caused me much, but she ask forgiveness and really how sincere she is, maybe I'll take into consideration.
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@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
9 Oct 17
we all need to have a second chance and we all need to give a second chance,
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@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@ilocosboy Oh I am not so sure about that!!
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@Ilocosboy I would just forever worry it would happen again
@shaynas (5488)
• India
9 Oct 17
I will never forgive my partner for having an affair behind my back, even if it's over. That's for sure. Though if it's some circumstantial fling or something like that, i may.
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@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@shaynas I don't think I could forgive anything
@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
9 Oct 17
No I wouldn't be able to trust them after that. Even if I tried, things will change eventually, it's never the same after somebody cheats.
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@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@ri1089 Completely agree with you. I couldn't forgive and I couldn't forget
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@marlina (154166)
• Canada
9 Oct 17
No, I would not forgive my husband if he were to cheat. Not acceptable in my books.
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@marlina Same here. I would not be able to get it out of my head
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
10 Oct 17
Nope that isn't possible. I would tell them to get out or I would leave. But it would be done for sure and no turning back. Yes it would hurt but there is no way I could stay there after that.
@YesWay (3674)
10 Oct 17
@poehere Same. Once the trusts gone, it ain't coming back
@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
9 Oct 17
Nope. I won't. But you see, I am not in that situation and so I don't really know how will I react.
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@thelme55 Yes very true
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
9 Oct 17
I could not stay with somebody that I couldn't trust. Once they cheat the trust has been broken and I would never trust them again.
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@happy2beme I agree I don't think I could get over it
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@rubyriaz007 (4188)
• India
9 Oct 17
I will never forgive my partner if I find out that he has an affair with someone. A woman will tolerate any other bad habits of her husband ,but she would never tolerate it when she comes to know about her husband's affair with another lady. If she comes to know that her husband is having an affair with a work colleague ,then it will a more difficult situation for her because they will meet each other everyday at the office and she has no way to stop the affair . It will make it harder for her to forgive because she must also knowing the colleague through her husband . She would be really shattered ,as she could not think this colleague of her husband would cheat on her. So it becomes harder for her to forgive.
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@rubyriaz007 Yes and then what happens if he wants to continue with the affair
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@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@rubyriaz007 I agree
• India
9 Oct 17
@YesWay Then its better to leave him..
@nangayo (2291)
• Nairobi, Kenya
9 Oct 17
This is a very had decision to make. I would be very hard to forgive.
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@nangayo I don't think I would ever be able To forgive
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@Spontaneo (14703)
• United States
9 Oct 17
I broke up with my high school/college sweetheart for cheating on me. My life has been heck ever since. I should have just forgiven. I now have a trust issue, men are not knocking on my door... Who knows if I will ever be asked on a date again. I loved him and just couldn't get over the fact that he slept with another woman. He is probably married now and probably does not even think of me. Here I am, heartbroken.
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@spontaneo Oh my goodness that's so sad I hope you do find happiness again one day How long ago did you split ?
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@Spontaneo (14703)
• United States
9 Oct 17
@YesWay Over 20 years ago...
@ashleyash (104)
11 Oct 17
nope once a cheater always a cheater that a no for me
@YesWay (3674)
11 Oct 17
@ashleyash Yes I agree with you
• Chatsworth, California
19 Apr 20
Yes, I would forgive him. I don’t see him often, and I know it’s just him trying to get his needs met. He wants me and that’s what matters
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
11 Oct 17
There is no question of forgiveness because I do not consider it as cheating at all. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong in having an affair with more than on eperson. It is really foolish of human beings to hva emade this system where one man nad on e woman only can have an affair and relationship with each other.
• Philippines
9 Oct 17
Well, probably not for a long time because that person did not value your effort in making a good relationship to begin with. That person is not worthy, just let it go.
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@letranknight2015 You don't think the person could ever change?
• Midland, Michigan
10 Oct 17
I think I would be able to forgive, not so sure whether I could forget though, but I'm sure it would never happen or it would have already long ago. He spends all his spare time at home as do I.
@paigea (35690)
• Canada
9 Oct 17
No. Never , ever.
• Guangdong, China
9 Oct 17
cheating is never a thing suitable for forgiveness. At least I won't forgive, I couldn't pretend to forgive with a scar in heart.
@YesWay (3674)
9 Oct 17
@behindtheguitarbar I agree. I would not be able to forget