How many of you have a hard time saying no to something that you do not want to do?

@Hannihar (129388)

Israel

October 9, 2017 2:16am CST

I am trying to learn to do that now, but, it is still hard for me and I still feel guilty when I do it. I feel the person will be angry at me afterwards. There are times if I am not a mood to say yes then I will gladly say no, but, there are still times it is hard and then I overdo it and get sick more. I am then angry at me.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (305884)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

9 Oct 17

I have a very hard time saying 'no' to my children. I can say 'no' to anyone else now without feeling guilty about it.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (305884)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

10 Oct 17

@Hannihar That's part of it, but I'm learning to say no to even them.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

11 Oct 17

@just4him That is good that you are learning to say no.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

10 Oct 17

Valerie, is it because it is your children and you would feel guilty afterwards?

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@maezee (41997)

• United States

9 Oct 17

This is somwthing I also need to work on.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

9 Oct 17

I understand completely maezee.

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@DaddyEvil (137145)

• United States

18 Oct 17

It honestly depends on who is asking me and for what are they asking. There are many things I prefer not to do, but if I really like the person asking for help, then I may go ahead and help them anyway. There are also many things I will not do, even if it is something someone I really like needs help with, so you never can tell what I may agree to do. I also may become angry at myself after I do something I really dislike doing, too.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

19 Oct 17

DE, it all makes sense. Yes, if someone you respect and want to help you would do for. I understand getting angry at yourself if you do something and did not want to do it.

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@JudyEv (325594)

• Rockingham, Australia

10 Oct 17

It can be very difficult to say no but sometimes it is necessary.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

11 Oct 17

Judy, you are so right, but, there are times I cannot get that two letter word out.

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@Daljinder (23231)

• Bangalore, India

18 Oct 17

It depends on who is asking and what is being asked of me!

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

19 Oct 17

DJ, I understand that.

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@kobesbuddy (74508)

• East Tawas, Michigan

9 Oct 17

Here is the photo of Kobe's house.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

10 Oct 17

Kharla, thank you so much. I love his house. He has his own house. Does he spend lots of time in it or does he prefer the house you live in better?

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@Shellyann36 (11385)

• United States

20 Oct 17

I do have a hard time saying no to my family. I am learning though.

@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

22 Oct 17

I understand that Shellyann.

@Bluedoll (16774)

• Canada

9 Oct 17

Sometimes we feel like or we are put on the spot. What do you think about that. Yes or No. Answer me. Are you going to answer this question or not? Sometimes if we do want to say no, the other person will respond with sure I understand and accept our answer and it is not a problem.

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@Bluedoll (16774)

• Canada

9 Oct 17

I apologize @Hannihar I was trying to be sarcastic (joking about the person that might not accept a no from you) and wasn't trying to judge you. It was my fault and starting now will attempt to change my writing style to something more acceptable. I edited only the last sentence of my original comment. I am so sorry it was not meant to be judgemental. It is okay to say no.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

10 Oct 17

@Bluedoll Bluedoll, I accept your apology and thank you so much for clearing that up for me. Now, I understand what you were doing there. Sorry, I did not understand what you were trying to tell me.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

9 Oct 17

Why do you think I will not answer you? Have I not answered you before? Maybe I did not see you answer. Don't judge someone you do not know before you find out what the person has to say. Yes, I agree that people do put people on the spot. I have been pressured many times and I was not happy because I got sick afterwards. I have also done too much and got sick from that. You are right if I say no and person says they understand and they really do not understand and want to make one feel guilty.

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@Letranknight2015 (51499)

• Philippines

9 Oct 17

There are most of the time I get frustrated from not saying NO but then again it's just me having negative reaction most of the time.

@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

9 Oct 17

LK, I do understand. I get mad at myself when I give in and do not say no.

@PainsOnSlate (21854)

• Canada

9 Oct 17

I say no often with no guilt, Its our life and we can't do everything someone wants us to do...

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

9 Oct 17

I wish I was more like you PaintsOnSlate.

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@DianneN (246602)

• United States

16 Oct 17

Saying no is an uncomfortable position to be in, but sometimes it has to be said. The only ones that I've never said it to are my family. I'd do anything for them.

@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

16 Oct 17

Dianne, I am happy for you that you have a very good relationship with your family.

@shaynas (5488)

• India

9 Oct 17

I can feel you. Saying no is very difficult for me, but it's important. I am learning too.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

9 Oct 17

Thanks The Sunshine. It is very hard to say no.

@Behindtheguitarbar (2831)

• Guangdong, China

9 Oct 17

For me now? Yes, totally. I'm right into this situation. So I can deeply feel you.

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@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

9 Oct 17

Thanks Behindtheguitarbar.

Paula Tranchina

@Ganma7 (3664)

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31 Oct 17

I find it very hard to say no.

@Hannihar (129388)

• Israel

1 Nov 17

Paula, I understand that.